Rosanne shares wisdom from performance coach Tim Grover about the true cost of not pursuing your dreams. She leads listeners through a powerful exercise examining what regret would look like on their fertility journey and how that regret impacts future generations.
Rosanne explores what makes high performers truly great, drawing from Tim Grover's work with sports legends like Michael Jordan and Kobe Bryant. She emphasizes that raw talent without mindset guidance is worthless and that mastering yourself is the foundation of all success.
Tim Grover's powerful quote about regret being generational takes on literal meaning for fertility journeys. Rosanne explains how our choices, fears, and decisions shape our family tree through epigenetics, making the cost of giving up far higher than most realize.
Rosanne guides listeners through a three-step visualization exercise designed to get leverage on regret patterns. She challenges women to face the painful reality of where they'll be five years from now if nothing changes, using this discomfort as motivation for transformation.
This journey requires complete commitment with no consolation prizes for partial effort. Rosanne emphasizes that women either invest in their success now or pay a much higher price later trying to numb the pain of abandoning themselves and their dreams.
“If you think the price of winning is too high, wait till you get the bill from regret. And that bill from regret, that's generational.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 7:15
Tim Grover says 'If you think the price of winning is too high, wait till you get the bill from regret. And that bill from regret, that's generational.'
“What you may not realize is you are directly shaping your family tree with your choices, your fears, your negativity, your doubt, your going cheap, and all the other crappy ways that you may quietly, maybe even unknowingly be punking out.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 9:18
Regret is literally generational on the fertility journey because you're shaping your family tree with your choices, and epigenetic research shows we pass wisdom, decisions, and pain through our DNA.
“Download the regret rundown worksheet that we created for you... You gotta stop kidding yourself about what's really at stake on this journey.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 10:31
The regret rundown worksheet has three steps: identify exact regrets you'll have if you give up, name how you set yourself up for regret, and visualize your childless life five years from now to get leverage on changing your patterns.
“You can have raw talent that isn't worth a shit without the guidance and honing that comes from having mentorship.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 2:26
High performers work with coaches because raw talent without guidance isn't worth anything. They need mentorship to master themselves first, as you won't ever be truly great unless you master yourself.
“There is no participation prize on this journey. There is no second place. And at the end of the day, what we each have is the satisfaction of knowing that we gave it our all.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 10:09
No, there is no participation prize on the fertility journey. There is no second place. At the end of the day, what you have is the satisfaction of knowing you gave it your all.
A three-step visualization exercise to get leverage on regret patterns and make better fertility journey choices
Identify Your Exact Regrets
Write down what exact regrets you will have if you give up on yourself on this journey. Name them in every last painful detail. Consider where you'll be five years from now if you keep playing small and how miserable you'll be.
Name Your Regret Setup Patterns
Identify the exact ways you create a setup for regret so you can do something smarter. You know where you're letting yourself down right now and exactly how you do it - name it so you have a chance to fix it.
Visualize Your Regret Future
Close your eyes and imagine your life five years from now: childless, partnership in shambles because you let someone talk you into giving up, watching others with strollers. Feel that pain of regret and notice where it lives in your body to get leverage on making better choices.
Regret from giving up on your fertility journey is generational - it impacts your family tree through epigenetics and DNA
Tim Grover's principle that regret is generational applies literally to fertility - you're shaping your family tree with your choices, and epigenetic research shows we pass wisdom, decisions, and pain through our genes.
High performers master themselves first - you won't ever be truly great unless you master you
Tim Grover worked with Michael Jordan, Kobe Bryant, and Dwyane Wade when they wanted to win, demonstrating that mastering mindset is what separates legends from those with raw talent alone.
There is no participation prize on this fertility journey - there is no second place
Rosanne's clients who find success are relentless and don't quit - they understand that fertility is all or nothing, requiring complete commitment to avoid generational regret.
You pay one way or another - make the investment in the dream or pay years later trying to dull the pain of regret
Women either invest in their fertility success now or waste money later trying to numb the pain of abandoning themselves, demonstrating that the cost of inaction is always higher than action.
Your mindset is the foundation of success on this journey - thoughts, beliefs, actions, results is logical and linear
Rosanne has seen women in terrible situations turn their mindset around and achieve success, proving that mind dictates what you will or won't do and the chances you take.
A woman who has a desire in her heart to be a mom has it there because it's meant for her and she will find a way
Rosanne's methodology has helped women around the world make their mom dreams come true, with results documented across 224+ podcast episodes showing consistent success patterns.
Unity between mind and body is most accessible in sports, where you can see when someone's head is not in the game
Tim Grover's work with NBA, MLB, and NFL legends demonstrates that raw talent without mindset guidance isn't worth anything, proving mind-body connection is essential for peak performance.
Regret from giving up on your fertility journey is generational - it impacts your family tree through epigenetics and DNA
▶ 9:07High performers master themselves first - you won't ever be truly great unless you master you
▶ 1:54There is no participation prize on this fertility journey - there is no second place
▶ 10:09You pay one way or another - make the investment in the dream or pay years later trying to dull the pain of regret
▶ 16:26Your mindset is the foundation of success on this journey - thoughts, beliefs, actions, results is logical and linear
▶ 18:29A woman who has a desire in her heart to be a mom has it there because it's meant for her and she will find a way
▶ 12:51Unity between mind and body is most accessible in sports, where you can see when someone's head is not in the game
▶ 2:26“If fertility treatments don't work out, you'll just get over it and move on”
CONSIDER: You won't get over giving up on yourself - you have to live with yourself and you know when you didn't do your best, which will eat you alive
“The price of investing in fertility success is too high”
CONSIDER: The price of winning is nothing compared to the generational bill from regret
“If you think the price of winning is too high, wait till you get the bill from regret. And that bill from regret, that's generational.”
“You won't ever be truly great unless you master you.”
“There is no participation prize on this journey. There is no second place.”
“You pay one way or another, baby. You make the investment in the dream, or you pay years later as you try to dull the pain of your regret.”
“A woman who has a desire in her heart to be a mom, it's there because it's meant for her, and she will find a way.”
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The desire in your heart to be a mom is there because it was fucking meant for you - this desire is your divine assignment
Rosanne conceived naturally at 43 after years of treatment failure by following this principle. Recent podcast guests Elise and Mikayla both held babies after choosing belief over their circumstances.
Belief always precedes the miracle - you must believe even in the darkest moments, not just when things feel good
All of the recent podcast success stories featured women who believed bigger than their current circumstances. A fertility expert interviewed confirmed that most fertility challenges are figureoutable.
No one is going to save you but you - no doctor, no treatment, no knight in shining armor can guarantee your baby
Rosanne conceived naturally at 43 after years of treatment failure by taking personal responsibility for her mindset and choices, demonstrating that external support requires internal commitment.
Something inside of you helps you get and stay pregnant - no pill gives you a baby, it simply helps you make it happen
Even with medical intervention, women still must choose to take medications, do treatments, and show up for their journey, making their mindset and commitment the determining factor.
