Rosanne teaches how self-sabotage patterns can derail your fertility journey and why having a trusted mentor or advisor is crucial for success. She breaks down the limitations of DIY approaches and provides a 3-step exercise to identify where you need support.
Rosanne challenges the romantic notion that doing it yourself has more merit, explaining how DIY approaches can start you off but rarely deliver success. She uses examples from home renovation and gym training to illustrate how professional guidance consistently outperforms solo efforts, especially when stakes are high.
Even highly accomplished professionals don't know what they don't know about fertility journeys. Rosanne shares how she's coached even reproductive endocrinologists, proving that expertise in one area doesn't automatically translate to success on this unique journey that tests different skills daily.
While loved ones mean well, they come with baggage, expectations, and limitations based on their own fears and experiences. The best trusted advisors are people with zero emotional investment in keeping you the same, who can see possibilities beyond your current circle's shared beliefs and limitations.
Rosanne shares how her own life transformed through working with mentors, moving from the security of a government job to creating a life she only dreamed about. She emphasizes finding someone who has done what you want to do and has proven results teaching others to achieve the same success.
“DIY can get you started, but it rarely takes you to the promised land. And even when it does, it will take you longer, cost you more in the long run, and it robs you of the chance of really seeing the full potential of what you can do on this journey and in your life.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 2:16
DIY can get you started but rarely takes you to success on fertility journeys. It takes longer, costs more in the long run, and prevents you from seeing your full potential. The fertility journey is an entirely different animal that uniquely tests aspects of your life daily.
“The best of the best are people you have zero baggage with. That means they aren't likely friends or family.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 6:22
The best trusted advisors are people you have zero baggage with, which typically means they aren't friends or family. Loved ones have expectations, know you as being a certain way, and their advice is limited by their own fears and experiences.
“Go to someone who has done what you wanna do and has proven by results that they can teach others to do the same and do exactly what they tell you to do.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 11:10
Look for someone who has done what you want to do and has proven by results that they can teach others to do the same. They should have consistent experience in fertility and a track record of helping similarly situated women succeed.
“Do you know how to think past your saboteurs? Are you actually good at communicating what you want in a way that sets you up to win? Do you have a healthy relationship with money so you aren't making penny wise pound foolish decisions on this journey?”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 4:31
The fertility journey uniquely tests skills like thinking past saboteurs, communicating wants effectively, having a healthy relationship with money, making decisions without regret, believing you deserve good, breaking out of jealousy and comparison, setting boundaries, connecting with intuition, and trusting your body.
“The idea that you were somehow stronger or more accomplished or have more virtue by having done this journey alone or without the support of a trusted adviser is complete and utter bullshit.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 11:30
Absolutely not. The idea that you're stronger by doing the fertility journey alone is complete bullshit perpetuated by people who never experienced the difference. Even the strongest warriors had mentors, and seeking help shows commitment to success.
A three-step exercise to identify where you need support and find the right mentor for your fertility journey
Recognize the truth about where you are
Take a moment to honestly assess where you are on this journey without judgment, shame, or blame. Are you achieving what you set out to achieve? Where you are is just a result and data point, nothing more.
Identify where you're not living up to your commitment
Identify exactly where you know you are not living up to your commitment to yourself and your dream of being a mom. Look at patterns that run your life and ensure they serve rather than sabotage you. This is where you can invite in a trusted adviser.
Love yourself enough to get support
Do something about it. Find a trusted adviser with consistent experience and a track record of helping similarly situated women. Look for someone who has done what you want to do and can teach others to do the same.
DIY approaches can get you started but rarely take you to the promised land on your fertility journey
Rosanne conceived naturally at 43 after years of treatment failure by working with trusted mentors, transforming from a fearful prosecutor to building a global fertility coaching practice serving women across six continents.
We don't know what we don't know - without a trusted adviser, we are siloed in the limitation of our own experience
Rosanne has coached even a reproductive endocrinologist, proving that professional expertise in other areas doesn't translate to fertility journey success.
The best trusted advisors are people you have zero baggage with - not friends or family who have expectations and limitations
Friends and family are shaped by their own fears and expectations, limiting their ability to help you move past beliefs they haven't overcome themselves.
A professional mentor has one thing in mind - helping you get what you want, without caring what others think
Unlike friends and family, professional mentors don't care what your mama thinks or what high school friends say - their sole focus is what you actually value when fear is tossed out the window.
Your fertility journey is an entirely different animal that uniquely tests aspects of your life on an almost daily basis
The journey tests skills like thinking past saboteurs, communicating wants effectively, healthy money relationships, decision-making without regret, and trusting your body - skills that work differently on this journey than in professional life.
Go to someone who has done what you want to do and has proven by results that they can teach others to do the same
Rosanne's methodology has helped women around the world make their mom dreams come true, including those given less than 10% odds, with results that speak for themselves.
The idea that you're stronger by doing this journey alone is complete and utter bullshit perpetuated by people who never experienced the difference
Even the strongest warriors had mentors, and people promoting solo approaches typically fall short of what they wanted to accomplish in their own lives.
When you can look at where you are without judgment, you can approach gaps in awareness with strategy instead of negativity
Rosanne teaches that where you are on the journey is just a result and data point, not something to shame yourself about, which allows for strategic improvement.
DIY approaches can get you started but rarely take you to the promised land on your fertility journey
▶ 2:16We don't know what we don't know - without a trusted adviser, we are siloed in the limitation of our own experience
▶ 3:27The best trusted advisors are people you have zero baggage with - not friends or family who have expectations and limitations
▶ 6:22A professional mentor has one thing in mind - helping you get what you want, without caring what others think
▶ 8:47Your fertility journey is an entirely different animal that uniquely tests aspects of your life on an almost daily basis
▶ 5:31Go to someone who has done what you want to do and has proven by results that they can teach others to do the same
▶ 11:10The idea that you're stronger by doing this journey alone is complete and utter bullshit perpetuated by people who never experienced the difference
▶ 11:30When you can look at where you are without judgment, you can approach gaps in awareness with strategy instead of negativity
▶ 12:42“DIY approaches have more merit and virtue than getting professional help”
CONSIDER: DIY has bizarre romanticism but rarely takes you to the promised land - it takes longer, costs more, and robs you of seeing your full potential
“Friends and family are the best sources of advice and support”
CONSIDER: The best trusted advisors are people with zero baggage who aren't limited by their own fears and expectations of who you are
“DIY can get you started, but it rarely takes you to the promised land.”
“We don't know what we don't know.”
“This journey, if you haven't figured it out, is an entirely different animal.”
“The idea that you were somehow stronger or more accomplished or have more virtue by having done this journey alone or without the support of a trusted adviser is complete and utter bullshit.”
“Go to someone who has done what you wanna do and has proven by results that they can teach others to do the same and do exactly what they tell you to do.”
EP89 Fearless Femme: Make Your Fertility Journey Easy…Like Sunday Morning
What if living your fertility journey with ease—like Sunday morning—was the key to finally bringing your baby home?
EP306: How Smart Women Approach “What If It Doesn’t Work?
Stop asking 'what if it doesn't work' and start thinking like the big fucking bug you were meant to be.
EP288: The Break Glass In Case of Fertility Freakout Episode
The most powerful episode to save for your darkest fertility moments - Rosanne's fierce wake-up call that will snap you out of despair and back into your power.
Frameworks & Methods
Common Beliefs
Your timeline is arbitrary - age and number of years trying has no meaning other than what you choose to give it
Marin, featured in episode 84, conceived after 40 despite thinking she had to have a baby by then. Rosanne herself conceived naturally at 43 after years of treatment failure.
Failures can be reframed as evidence of how badass and gangster you are for holding fast to your dreams
Rosanne had 84 failures before conceiving Asher naturally at 43. She teaches that each 'no' may signal a big yes is coming since no one fails all the time.
Smart women don't think like average people when facing fertility challenges - they think like 'big bugs' with their eyes set on something much larger
Rosanne conceived naturally at 43 after years of treatment failure by rejecting average thinking patterns and defeatist mindsets that make most people give up after three attempts.
'What if it doesn't work' implies destination thinking - that if something doesn't work, you're stuck there, when it only means that particular instance didn't work
The fertility journey is fluid by nature and treating it as a destination creates the victim mentality of 'I can't catch a break' that keeps women stuck.
