Rosanne exposes the critical difference between wishing/hoping for a baby versus truly believing you can conceive. She explains why hope and wishes are passive victim states that keep women stuck, while belief drives the conscious decisions and bold actions that lead to success.
Rosanne opens with a reality check about how we spend 95% of our day in unconscious patterns. This explains why many women find themselves stuck repeating the same ineffective fertility behaviors without realizing it, making conscious mindset work essential for breakthrough results.
Using Napoleon Hill's wisdom, Rosanne breaks down why hoping and wishing are passive victim states that entertain failure, while belief drives the bold actions and investments that lead to success. She challenges women to examine where they're stuck in mere hope rather than active belief.
Rosanne provides concrete examples of how hoping versus believing shows up in behavior - from tolerating poor medical care to waiting for unsupportive partners to change. She emphasizes that successful women take risks with boldness driven by genuine belief in their ability to conceive.
The episode concludes with a call to action: consciously cultivate belief rather than hoping it happens accidentally. Rosanne explains that confidence comes from belief, and since most thoughts are unconsciously negative, deliberate mindset work is required to leverage your mind's full power.
“There is a difference between wishing for a thing and being ready to receive it. The state of mind must be belief, not mere hope or wish.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 5:42
Hope and wishes are passive states that entertain the possibility of failure, while belief is an active committed state focused on reasons why you can succeed. Hope keeps one foot out the door, but belief drives bold actions like making investments in yourself and refusing to accept limiting statistics.
“We pretty much spend ninety five percent of our thought and our day in a subconscious slash unconscious pattern. That means we're basically sleepwalking through our lives.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 2:24
Brain science shows we spend 95% of our day in unconscious patterns, with 60% of those thoughts being negative. Most women sleepwalk through their fertility journey repeating the same ineffective behaviors without conscious intervention, which is why they wake up a year later with nothing changed.
“When you allow yourself to be, do, and have the things that you need to succeed on this journey, you will. To hell with the idea that you can't guarantee your success.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 4:00
You guarantee success by being deliberate, intentional and conscious rather than hoping and wishing. This means cultivating belief, making investments in yourself, setting boundaries with clinics that don't serve you, ensuring your partner is fully supportive, and taking bold actions driven by belief rather than fear.
“People who are just hoping to get lucky, wishing this baby will come, they're not out taking risks with the kind of boldness that a woman who believes she was meant to be a mom.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 10:54
Women who are hoping tolerate clinics that don't serve them, wait for unsupportive partners to change, and wish for better mindset without taking action. Women who believe make bold investments in themselves, ask challenging questions, refuse to be bullied by statistics, and are willing to put all their chips on the table for their dream of motherhood.
“If you are not consciously changing that, what the fuck are you doing? You're not leveraging the most powerful aspect of your brain and your mind, which is your subconscious.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 15:54
Since 95% of thoughts are unconscious and 60% are negative, you're running a program oriented toward negativity. If you aren't consciously changing that pattern, you're not leveraging the most powerful aspect of your brain. Confidence doesn't happen by accident - you must consciously cultivate belief to have any confidence on your fertility journey.
A framework for identifying where you're stuck in hoping and wishing versus cultivating active belief
Assess Your Current State
Ask yourself: Where am I wishing and hoping versus believing? Look for areas where you're being passive rather than taking bold action.
Identify Hope Patterns
Check if you're tolerating a clinic that doesn't serve you, waiting for an unsupportive partner to change, or wanting better mindset without taking action.
Cultivate Active Belief
Move from passive hoping to active belief by making investments in yourself, setting boundaries, asking challenging questions, and refusing to accept limiting statistics.
Take Bold Actions
Behave like someone who believes: be willing to put all your chips on the table, challenge medical authority when needed, and commit fully to your dream of motherhood.
We spend 95% of our day in unconscious patterns, only 5% consciously thinking, which means most women sleepwalk through their fertility journey repeating the same ineffective behaviors
Current brain science data shows 95% of thoughts are subconscious and 60% are negative, explaining why women get stuck repeating patterns without conscious intervention.
Wishing and hoping are passive victim states that entertain the possibility of failure, while belief is an active committed state focused on reasons why you can succeed
Napoleon Hill's principle shows the difference: 'The state of mind must be belief, not mere hope or wish' - belief creates confidence and bold action while hope keeps one foot out the door.
Women who believe they can conceive take risks with boldness - making investments, asking questions, refusing to be bullied by statistics or age discrimination
Reviewing 15-20 success story episodes reveals not one woman was wishing and hoping - all were believing, which drove their willingness to bet on themselves and challenge medical authority.
You can guarantee your own fertility success when you allow yourself to be, do, and have what you need to succeed - it doesn't happen by luck or accident
Full Throttle program participants transform in 90 days by consciously choosing belief over hope, with women worldwide beating odds through deliberate mindset work rather than magical thinking.
Confidence comes from belief, not accident - you must consciously cultivate belief because 60% of unconscious thoughts are negative
Brain science shows negative thought patterns dominate unconscious thinking, which is why women don't wake up confident about conception - they must actively work to leverage their subconscious mind's power.
Common areas of wishing and hoping include tolerating clinics that don't serve you, waiting for unsupportive partners to change, and wanting better mindset without taking action
Many women say their partners are supportive but bear the weight alone when partners aren't fully on board, creating relationship dysfunction that delays conception.
We spend 95% of our day in unconscious patterns, only 5% consciously thinking, which means most women sleepwalk through their fertility journey repeating the same ineffective behaviors
▶ 2:24Wishing and hoping are passive victim states that entertain the possibility of failure, while belief is an active committed state focused on reasons why you can succeed
▶ 6:57Women who believe they can conceive take risks with boldness - making investments, asking questions, refusing to be bullied by statistics or age discrimination
▶ 10:34You can guarantee your own fertility success when you allow yourself to be, do, and have what you need to succeed - it doesn't happen by luck or accident
▶ 4:00Confidence comes from belief, not accident - you must consciously cultivate belief because 60% of unconscious thoughts are negative
▶ 15:12Common areas of wishing and hoping include tolerating clinics that don't serve you, waiting for unsupportive partners to change, and wanting better mindset without taking action
▶ 13:29“Hope and positive thinking are enough to get pregnant”
CONSIDER: Hope and wishes are passive victim states that keep you stuck - belief drives the conscious decisions and bold actions that create success
“Getting pregnant is about luck and timing”
CONSIDER: You can guarantee your own success by being deliberate, intentional and conscious rather than relying on magical thinking
“The state of mind must be belief, not mere hope or wish.”
“Nobody gets lucky. Nobody just has a windfall. Every single one of these women put in the work to be better.”
“You gotta take your dream of being a mom more seriously than fucking wishing and hoping. That's for high school girls, not for grown ass women.”
“You have got to take your belief by the ovaries and lead it right into baby town.”
“If you want better results, you have to be better. This is an inside job. It starts with you.”
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Frameworks & Methods
Common Beliefs
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Austin observes this phenomenon regularly in her coaching practice with women who have done the mindset work versus those who haven't
You can discover your dream of motherhood at any age and it's equally valid regardless of timing
Myrna spent 20 years saying she didn't want children, discovered her maternal calling at 42, and successfully became a mother at 45 with one embryo.
External success without fulfilling your deepest purpose leads to persistent emptiness and searching
Myrna achieved international success as a musician, traveled the world, and had career freedom, but felt constantly unsatisfied and kept searching for something until she realized motherhood was her missing piece.
