Fertility Mindset: You Aren't A F*ck Up
Rosanne Austin challenges women to reject the 'fertility fuck-up' identity and reclaim their power by choosing who they want to be on their fertility journey. She emphasizes that women are not their diagnoses, statistics, or past failures, but rather women with dreams who deserve to step into their fearlessly fertile identity.
Teachings 4
Women struggling with fertility often internalize failed treatments and take on the identity of a 'fertility fuck-up,' especially high achievers who aren't used to struggling
Austin observes from 11+ years of coaching that go-getters who are 'absolutely slain in their lives' become entirely different people as months, years, and treatments stack without success
If you don't reclaim your identity, other people get to decide who you are, and you'll take on everything people say about you and your fertility
Austin warns against letting 'long faced naysayers in white coats' define you and encourages finding supportive medical professionals instead
The choice is between being the woman who gives up and lives in regret, or being the woman who keeps going and figures it out
Austin presents the stark choice between becoming 'the woman who gets to seventy years old and realizes that she fucked up' versus 'the woman who keeps going'
Fertility issues are a symptom that starts in the mind, and without a success mindset, you have a gaping hole in your strategy
Austin emphasizes that 'the mind and body work together' and that fertility issues are 'a symptom of something else' that 'starts up here'
Perspectives 2
You are not your diagnosis, statistics, or what medical professionals say you are - you get to decide your identity on this journey
Austin emphasizes rejecting labels like 'geriatric,' 'poor responder,' or 'difficult case' that medical professionals assign
You can reclaim negative labels by adding 'and' - acknowledging the label while maintaining your power and vision
Austin suggests reframing 'I am a poor responder' to 'I am a poor responder and I will find the right solution for me' or 'I'm a poor responder to shit that doesn't work for me'
Quotable Moments 4
“We aren't our diagnosis, ladies, and we aren't our past. We aren't our statistics. We aren't what they say we are. You get to decide on this journey exactly who and what you are.”
— Rosanne Austin“If you don't reclaim your identity on this journey, other people get to decide who you are.”
— Rosanne Austin“We're not fertility fuck ups. We are fearlessly fertile.”
— Rosanne Austin“What's going on with your fertility is a symptom of something else. It starts up here. And if you don't have a mindset for success on this journey, baby, you got a gaping hole in your strategy.”
— Rosanne Austin
Questions This Video Answers
How do I stop feeling like a fertility failure after multiple failed treatments?
“We aren't our diagnosis, ladies, and we aren't our past. We aren't our statistics. We aren't what they say we are. You get to decide on this journey exactly who and what you are.”
— Rosanne Austin
Reject the 'fertility fuck-up' identity and consciously choose who you want to be on your journey. You are not your diagnosis, statistics, or past failures - you're a woman with a dream who gets to decide her own identity.
What should I do about negative medical labels like 'geriatric pregnancy' or 'poor responder'?
“I am a poor responder and I will find the right solution for me. Or maybe you might say, yeah, I'm a poor responder to shit that doesn't work for me.”
— Rosanne Austin
You can reclaim these labels by adding 'and' to maintain your power. For example, 'I am a poor responder and I will find the right solution for me' or reject them entirely if they don't serve you.
Why is mindset important for fertility success?
“What's going on with your fertility is a symptom of something else. It starts up here. And if you don't have a mindset for success on this journey, baby, you got a gaping hole in your strategy.”
— Rosanne Austin
Fertility issues are symptoms that start in the mind, and the mind and body work together. Without a success mindset, you have a gaping hole in your fertility strategy that needs to be addressed alongside physical treatments.
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Key Points 6
Women struggling with fertility often internalize failed treatments and take on the identity of a 'fertility fuck-up,' especially high achievers who aren't used to struggling
You are not your diagnosis, statistics, or what medical professionals say you are - you get to decide your identity on this journey
If you don't reclaim your identity, other people get to decide who you are, and you'll take on everything people say about you and your fertility
The choice is between being the woman who gives up and lives in regret, or being the woman who keeps going and figures it out
You can reclaim negative labels by adding 'and' - acknowledging the label while maintaining your power and vision
Fertility issues are a symptom that starts in the mind, and without a success mindset, you have a gaping hole in your strategy
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