Rosanne introduces her three-part series on the Fearless and Fertile Feminine, inspired by her upcoming book 'The Feminine Fertility Cure.' She explores how women have been conditioned to suppress their feminine energy in favor of masculine approaches, and why this is counterproductive to fertility.
Rosanne explains that everyone has both masculine and feminine energy within them, with masculine being the organized, goal-oriented doer energy and feminine being the nurturing, creative, intuitive side. This isn't about gender stereotypes but about recognizing different energetic approaches to life and fertility.
Since the 1960s, women have been taught that success requires adopting masculine approaches and suppressing feminine qualities like emotion and intuition. This masculinization appears in professional environments, fashion, and workplace culture that rewards acting like men rather than honoring feminine nature.
Rosanne connects the rise in fertility struggles (from 1 in 8 to 1 in 5 couples) to women being stuck in masculine energy during the most feminine pursuit of pregnancy. The chronic stress and cortisol elevation from suppressing feminine nature negatively impacts fertility outcomes.
The feminine is women's fertility superpower that should be embraced rather than suppressed. Rosanne calls for a reclamation of feminine energy and more respectful treatment of women in the fertility world, honoring their legitimate longings rather than treating them as statistics.
“The masculine, it's the part of us that is the doer. It's the list maker. It's the one that's super organized and get shit done. The feminine is the side of you that is the nurturing, the creative, the spiritual. It's that softness. It's the part of you that is empathic. It's the part of you that is emotional and sees subtlety.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 6:00
Masculine energy is the doer, list-maker, organized, disciplined part of us that gets things done. Feminine energy is the nurturing, creative, spiritual, empathetic, and emotional side that sees subtlety and softness.
“Since the nineteen sixties, since the women's movement, a lot of what we have been sold as women is this idea of success being a masculine game. That if we were going to be successful, we ultimately had to pursue a very masculine approach to career, to life, to success, to wealth building.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 13:32
The women's movement inadvertently taught women that success required acting like men and suppressing feminine qualities. This created a masculinization where women had to conform to masculine paradigms in work and life rather than honoring their feminine nature.
“How are you going to try to do the most feminine thing you can possibly do acting like a fucking man? We are women doing a feminine thing, getting and staying pregnant. I honestly believe that the feminine is our fertility superpower.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 20:46
Getting pregnant is the most feminine thing you can do, so trying to conceive using masculine energy is counterproductive. The feminine is women's fertility superpower that should be embraced rather than suppressed during the conception journey.
“With the amount of intense stress that so many of us are under, we're suppressing emotion, we're trying to act like men, and we aren't doing the restorative care that we need in order to recharge our batteries, our cortisol levels across the board or through the roof. And the data shows that that can have a negative impact on our fertility.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 20:25
Suppressing emotions, trying to act like men, and not doing restorative self-care leads to elevated cortisol levels throughout the body, which research shows can negatively impact fertility.
“I got this story that the feminine is weak and that the feminine is untrustworthy and that the feminine makes me vulnerable in a really bad way and that the feminine is flighty, that the feminine certainly is not the serious part of me. And if I wanna be taken seriously, well, I can't possibly be in my feminine.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 12:00
Signs include believing the feminine is weak or unprofessional, suppressing emotions, always being in 'get things done' mode, and feeling like you need to act like a man to be taken seriously or successful.
“I want you to spend a little bit of time, if you feel so inclined, journaling about your current attitudes about the feminine. Did something come up for you as I was giving you this introduction to the subject matter? Are there ideas or visceral reactions you had to any of the things that I've brought up about the feminine?”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 25:25
Begin by journaling about your current attitudes toward the feminine. Notice any visceral reactions or judgments you have about feminine qualities, and explore what excites you about embracing this energy for your fertility journey.
A journaling practice to explore your relationship with the feminine and identify areas for growth
Journal about current attitudes
Write about your current attitudes toward the feminine and notice any visceral reactions or judgments that come up
Identify what resonates
Write down what resonates with you about embracing feminine energy and what excites you about this exploration
Assess your connection
Reflect on whether you feel disconnected from your feminine and how this might be affecting your fertility journey
Explore expression possibilities
Consider how you might express and leverage your feminine energy to support your fertility goals
We all have both masculine and feminine energy, with the masculine being the doer, list-maker, and organized part, while the feminine is the nurturing, creative, spiritual, and empathetic side
Rosanne explains that the masculine is 'the doer, list maker, super organized and get shit done' energy, while the feminine is 'the nurturing, the creative, the spiritual, that softness, empathic, emotional and sees subtlety.'
The women's movement inadvertently created a masculinization of women, teaching that success required acting like men rather than honoring feminine nature
Rosanne details how 'since the nineteen sixties, since the women's movement, a lot of what we have been sold as women is this idea of success being a masculine game' and that 'to be free and to be accomplished and to be feminist, we had to actually start acting like men.'
Professional environments reward masculine energy and suppress feminine qualities like emotion and intuition, treating them as unprofessional weaknesses
As a former prosecutor, Rosanne experienced firsthand how 'to show emotion, to show humanity' was 'treated as if it was unprofessional' and how seeking help was considered weakness, when 'that emotion, that drive, that intuition' were actually strengths.
The fertility crisis is connected to women being stuck in masculine energy and suppressing their feminine nature during the most feminine pursuit of pregnancy
Rosanne notes that 'we went from one in eight couples struggling with fertility to one in five' and explains how 'trying to act like men' creates 'a masculine level of stress' that impacts fertility, asking 'how are you going to try to do the most feminine thing you can possibly do acting like a fucking man?'
Chronic masculine energy and stress suppression leads to elevated cortisol levels that negatively impact fertility
Rosanne explains that when women are 'suppressing emotion, trying to act like men, and aren't doing the restorative care needed to recharge their batteries, cortisol levels across the board are through the roof' and 'the data shows that can have a negative impact on fertility.'
The feminine is women's fertility superpower and should be leveraged rather than suppressed during the conception journey
Rosanne states 'I honestly believe that the feminine is our fertility superpower' and emphasizes that 'as women, the feminine is our world' and 'stepping into that and beginning to explore how we can use that to improve our fertility is pretty frickin' exciting.'
Women deserve to be treated with respect and consideration for their fertility dreams rather than being dismissed as statistics
Rosanne challenges the current system where 'somebody just told me to give up, and it's no big deal. Just go adopt' and describes how women are treated 'like cattle call when it comes to fertility' instead of having their 'legitimate longing' respected.
Equal partnership does not mean being the same as your partner - honoring feminine nature while being an equal is most powerful
Rosanne teaches that 'one of the most feminine things we can do is be an equal partner' because 'equal does not necessarily mean same' and 'one of the coolest things we can ever do is honor our uniquely feminine nature.'
We all have both masculine and feminine energy, with the masculine being the doer, list-maker, and organized part, while the feminine is the nurturing, creative, spiritual, and empathetic side
▶ 5:18The women's movement inadvertently created a masculinization of women, teaching that success required acting like men rather than honoring feminine nature
▶ 13:32Professional environments reward masculine energy and suppress feminine qualities like emotion and intuition, treating them as unprofessional weaknesses
▶ 15:16The fertility crisis is connected to women being stuck in masculine energy and suppressing their feminine nature during the most feminine pursuit of pregnancy
▶ 19:14Chronic masculine energy and stress suppression leads to elevated cortisol levels that negatively impact fertility
▶ 20:25The feminine is women's fertility superpower and should be leveraged rather than suppressed during the conception journey
▶ 25:04Women deserve to be treated with respect and consideration for their fertility dreams rather than being dismissed as statistics
▶ 24:02Equal partnership does not mean being the same as your partner - honoring feminine nature while being an equal is most powerful
▶ 22:19“To be successful and professional, women must suppress emotions and act like men”
CONSIDER: Emotion, intuition, and feminine qualities are actually strengths that should be honored and leveraged
“The feminine is weak, untrustworthy, and makes you vulnerable in a bad way”
CONSIDER: The feminine is a powerful fertility superpower that women should embrace rather than suppress
“You should try to get pregnant using masculine energy and approaches”
CONSIDER: Getting pregnant is the most feminine thing you can do and requires feminine energy and approaches
“How are you going to try to do the most feminine thing you can possibly do acting like a fucking man?”
“I honestly believe that the feminine is our fertility superpower.”
“We are women doing a feminine thing, getting and staying pregnant. Women have babies.”
“So many of us have been scammed. It's a big fucking scam that so many of us have been sold about what it means to be feminine.”
“Equal does not necessarily mean same.”
“You're trying to do the most feminine thing that you can like a man. How's that working out for you, sister?”
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