EP32: Fertility Success Principle #2

Presence is a fundamental fertility success principle - most women think they have it, but spend more time out of alignment with it than in it

Two out of the first five women who enrolled in the Fearlessly Fertile Method program months ago are already pregnant after years of trying and repeated failures, demonstrating the power of mindset principles including presence.

Women on the fertility journey spend most of their time either reliving shit from the past or agonizing about what lies ahead, with fear as the common denominator

Austin observes that clients regularly say things like 'I failed the last seven cycles, so I must be destined to fail' or engage in future-tripping tailspins trying to what-if themselves to death.

The past is no foolproof predictor of the future, particularly when dealing with something as delicate, elusive, and miraculous as new life

Austin counseled a woman who wouldn't make any investments in her fertility based on the 2008 market crash - eleven years prior when the current economy was thriving - showing how past-focused thinking can become completely illogical.

Future-tripping leads to paralysis as women try to fear rehearse every possible scenario, leaving them like deer in headlights unable to make decisions

Austin learned from her trial advocacy professor that 'life is a moving target - expect the unexpected, not the worst,' noting that women focus almost exclusively on negative what-ifs when positive scenarios are equally possible.

The present is a treasure trove of possibility where you can see patterns, hear what people are saying, and feel what is real rather than being trapped in past or future thinking

Austin explains that when present, there are literally opportunities everywhere that women can't see because they're not present, directly impacting decision-making and setting up the risk of regret.

All miracle mamas featured on the podcast demonstrated the principle of presence - they refused to live mired in past bullshit or paralyzed by what-ifs and made decisions from their desires

Austin notes that every single miracle mama had significant challenges but found power in the present when they got out of the pendulum swing between past and future, applying this principle to achieve their pregnancies.

Being present beats back fear and negativity because instead of playing old tapes or engaging in speculation, you can be fully cognizant of what's directly in front of you

Austin describes how she caught herself future-tripping during a beautiful dinner with her husband and son, then made the conscious choice to be present and soak up the goodness rather than squander the moment.

When you are present to your wants and needs, you can communicate those to people who can help you, and you can respond intelligently rather than react

Austin explains that people who work well under pressure have the ability to get present and respond in real time rather than falling to pieces, which is powerful training for being a mom when holding that baby.