Sam shares her journey from shame, blame, and a 1% chance of conception to holding her baby girl. At 39 with low ovarian reserve, she transformed her mindset, chose the right partner, and conceived through donor eggs after learning to surrender the 'how' and follow what felt right.
SamAge 40· donor· Baby girlBefore
Shame, guilt, fear, taking 110 supplements, relationship strain, chasing and begging energy with baby
Key Shift
Moved from begging her baby to come to partnership energy - 'we are on the same level and doing this together'
After
Empowered decision-maker, strong medical advocate for daughter, joyful about donor egg choice
Sam always knew she wanted to be a mother, but her journey required strategic thinking about creating the right foundation. After a divorce and seven years of dating struggles, she used mindset work to attract the right partner, refusing to compromise on her requirement that he be open to children without having his own.
Facing a less than 1% chance with low ovarian reserve, Sam experienced a crucial breakthrough when she stopped begging her baby to come and instead stepped into partnership energy. This shift from manipulation to empowered co-creation changed everything about her fertility journey.
When IVF protocols felt draining and 'off' to Sam, she listened to her body's wisdom instead of pushing through. The donor egg option felt joyful and exciting, leading her to conception on her first transfer and a daughter who looks just like her.
The fertility journey transformed Sam into the mother her daughter needed - one who researches thoroughly, questions medical authority, and advocates fiercely for her child's wellbeing. Her transformation shows how the journey is really about becoming, not just conceiving.
“I was told that I have low ovarian reserve and, there's no chance, like, it's like less than one percent chance that I'll get pregnant. And I was told to go for a donor egg.”
— Sam▶ 25:49
Yes, Sam conceived her daughter despite doctors giving her less than 1% chance due to low ovarian reserve. She found success through donor eggs after mindset work helped her release attachment to how her baby would come.
“When they were talking about the process, the amount of injections and the stimulation and the medication. When they were talking about it, I was feeling, like, drained. I was like, oh my god. This this feels off.”
— Sam▶ 35:49
Listen to how different options feel in your body. Sam felt drained when doctors described IVF stimulation but excited and joyful about the donor egg process, which guided her to the right choice for her family.
“I had a conversation with and I said, look. You chose me, and I am a honor to be a mom to you. And we are gonna do this together.”
— Sam▶ 24:25
Key shifts include moving from begging your baby to come to partnership energy, making decisions from conviction rather than fear, and releasing attachment to how your baby arrives while following joy and alignment.
“It when I walked away from that eight week program, I was so full of faith. So full of faith. Like, you've literally shouted out all the fear out of me.”
— Sam▶ 30:08
Sam saw immediate shifts in faith and relationship dynamics after 8 weeks of mindset work with Rosanne Austin, though her complete journey to conception took about 2 years including finding the right partner and treatment path.
“Whatever big decision I make about my life from there onwards will always be through my conviction. It has to be aligned with me.”
— Sam▶ 13:59
No - healthy partnerships involve sharing decisions you've made from conviction, not seeking permission. Sam invested in mindset work using her own money without prior discussion, trusting her judgment about what was right for her fertility journey.
“We literally organized interviews with Cyprus, Greece, Spain, like, so many clinics, and in the UK as well. And we were interviewing them. We were not telling them what could you give us?”
— Sam▶ 35:27
Interview clinics like you're the hiring manager, not the applicant. Sam and her partner interviewed multiple European clinics asking what they could offer, ultimately choosing one in Spain that felt full of life and possibility rather than like a 'mortuary.'
Sam's breakthrough technique for moving from desperate begging energy to empowered co-creation with her future child
Recognize the chase
Notice when you're putting your baby on a pedestal, begging them to come, or feeling like you're twisting their arm
Acknowledge the honor
Shift to 'I am honored to be your mom' rather than 'please choose me'
Establish partnership
Have a conversation with your baby saying 'we are on the same level and doing this together'
Trust the plan
Release attachment to how they'll arrive and trust that you're both working toward the same goal
Partnership requires clarity, not compromise - choosing the right father for your child is your first act as a mother
Sam refused to meet men for coffee unless they confirmed they were open to having children and didn't already have kids, leading her to find her partner at 39 who became the father of her daughter.
When you put your baby on a pedestal and beg them to come, you give away your power - true conception happens when mother and baby work together as equals
Sam shifted from manipulative begging energy to telling her daughter 'we are on the same level, I'm honored to be your mom, and we're gonna do this together' months before conceiving.
Your body will tell you what's right - listen to how treatment options feel, not just medical protocols
Sam felt drained and 'off' when doctors described IVF injections and stimulation, but felt excited and joyful about the donor egg process, leading to her successful conception on first transfer.
Donor eggs are not settling or less than - they can be the path of joy and ease that leads to your baby
Sam overcame the taboo belief that donor eggs meant 'not my child' and found the process felt 'like building a bear' - fun and exciting, conceiving on her first transfer.
Mindset work isn't just positive thinking - it's breaking generational patterns that block your fertility
Sam recognized she was carrying patterns from her volatile childhood and worked to heal guilt, shame, and fear before conceiving, transforming her relationship dynamics and self-advocacy skills.
Making decisions from conviction rather than fear creates alignment with your fertility journey
Sam decided after her divorce that all major life decisions would come through her own conviction and alignment, leading her to invest in mindset work without seeking permission and ultimately to her daughter.
Universe will show you possibilities when you're open - signs and synchronicities guide you to the right path
Sam received multiple 'nudges' toward donor eggs through a woman at Rosanne's UK event and a colleague sharing their donor egg success stories before making her decision.
The fertility journey transforms you into the mother your child needs - it's not just about making a baby
Sam's journey gave her the courage to advocate for her daughter by refusing vitamin K injection and making informed vaccine decisions, speaking up to consultants with conviction she wouldn't have had before.
Let go of the how and follow your joy - your path may look different than expected but lead to the same destination
Sam's closing advice after conceiving through donor eggs despite initially wanting natural conception: 'Let go of the how. Follow your heart. Follow the joy, and you'll be holding your baby.'
Partnership requires clarity, not compromise - choosing the right father for your child is your first act as a mother
▶ 8:26When you put your baby on a pedestal and beg them to come, you give away your power - true conception happens when mother and baby work together as equals
▶ 20:55Your body will tell you what's right - listen to how treatment options feel, not just medical protocols
▶ 35:49Donor eggs are not settling or less than - they can be the path of joy and ease that leads to your baby
▶ 36:30Mindset work isn't just positive thinking - it's breaking generational patterns that block your fertility
▶ 10:01Making decisions from conviction rather than fear creates alignment with your fertility journey
▶ 13:49Universe will show you possibilities when you're open - signs and synchronicities guide you to the right path
▶ 32:03The fertility journey transforms you into the mother your child needs - it's not just about making a baby
▶ 1:43Let go of the how and follow your joy - your path may look different than expected but lead to the same destination
▶ 56:58“Using donor eggs means the baby isn't really yours or you're settling for less”
CONSIDER: Donor eggs can be the joyful, aligned path that brings your destined child to you
“Women need permission from their partners to invest in fertility support”
CONSIDER: Adults in healthy partnerships make individual decisions from conviction and share them, not seek permission
“You must follow medical protocols regardless of how they feel to you”
CONSIDER: Your body's response to treatment options is valuable information - listen to what feels right
“Choosing the right dad for my daughter was massive. That's like your first act of as a mom, is choosing the right dad.”
“I had a conversation with and I said, look. You chose me, and I am a honor to be a mom to you. And we are gonna do this together.”
“Let go of the how. Follow your heart. Follow the joy, and you'll be holding your baby.”
“I'm her voice. I'm her protector. I'm speaking up on behalf of her till she can do it for herself.”
“This journey is a freaking gift. I have seen women go from just sleepwalking in their lives to really allowing this journey to be the one thing that's like an incredible amplification of all of the amazingness that they were meant to be.”
“When you're chasing, you're not in your power. You're not allowing yourself to call this baby in, to receive them.”
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