Rosanne teaches a powerful 20-minute exercise to reconnect with your dream of motherhood when you feel overwhelmed or disconnected. She guides you through creating a detailed written vision of the mother you desire to be, using the same visualization techniques that elite athletes use to achieve success.
Rosanne addresses the common experience of feeling disconnected from your motherhood dream when there's a lag time between all the fertility work you're doing and seeing results. She emphasizes the importance of getting grounded in your vision rather than spinning in your head about the past and future.
The fundamental question 'Who is this mom you desire to be?' becomes the anchor point for reconnecting with your dream. Rosanne teaches that we often get so disconnected from this vision that everything we're doing feels like it's happening in a vacuum, leading to thoughts of giving up.
Rosanne guides listeners through a specific 20-minute exercise of writing by hand about the mother they desire to become. She emphasizes the importance of handwriting to slow the brain down and capture rich details, textures, and characteristics that pure visualization might miss.
Drawing parallels to Olympic athletes like Michael Phelps, Serena Williams, and Steph Curry, Rosanne teaches that all great accomplishments first happen in the mind. She explains how detailed mental rehearsal and visualization create the blueprint for real-world success.
The episode concludes with Rosanne sharing how this written vision becomes the literal blueprint for the mother you will become. She reflects on how her own reality became exponentially better than her original vision because she stayed grounded in possibility rather than current circumstances.
“Who is this mom you desire to be? Really think about that question. Who is this mom you desire to be?”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 2:27
Write out a detailed 20-minute vision of who you desire to be as a mother. Get specific about her daily life, how she interacts with her children, what she does for work, and who she chooses to be. This written exercise grounds you in your vision instead of current circumstances.
“Set the timer on your phone. Give yourself twenty minutes. It'll be the coolest twenty minutes that you've ever had truly on this journey.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 8:58
Set a timer for 20 minutes and write by hand about who you desire to be as a mother. Make her a three-dimensional character with specific details about her daily life, values, and interactions. This slows your brain down and creates rich detail you can't get from just thinking about it.
“The process of slowing yourself down is like slowly enjoying a luscious meal as opposed to roller skating through In N Out Burger, just grabbing whatever it is that you can and shoving it in your mouth.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 7:56
Writing by hand literally slows your brain down, allowing you to capture textures, colors, nuance, and characteristics you wouldn't get from typing. It's like slowly savoring a luscious meal versus rushing through fast food - the slower process creates richer, more detailed imagery.
“Anyone who has accomplished anything first accomplished it in their head. They created the image of what they desired, and that is what drove them.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 6:25
Yes, the same visualization techniques used by elite athletes like Michael Phelps, Steph Curry, and Serena Williams can be applied to fertility. Anyone who has accomplished anything first accomplished it in their head by creating a detailed image of what they desired.
“You may try to blow this off, do it in five minutes. I want you to make this like a love letter to the mom you desire to be.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 5:53
Set a timer for 20 minutes and write out your vision in detail. Don't rush through it in 5 minutes - make it like a love letter to the mom you desire to be. Revisit what you write regularly to keep the vision alive and grounded in your heart.
“What does she love? How does she get to work in the morning outside of a pandemic? Like, what is she doing on the weekends? How does she interact with her children? What does she make her children for breakfast?”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 9:09
Get specific about everything - what she wears, how she gets to work, what she makes for breakfast, how she interacts with her children and partner, what kind of business she runs, how often she sees friends. Make her a three-dimensional character with rich details about her daily life and values.
A 20-minute written exercise to ground yourself in the vision of the mother you desire to be
Set Up Your Space
Find a quiet place with paper, pen, or journal. Set a timer for 20 minutes.
Write the Question
At the top of the page, write 'Who is the mom I desire to be? Who is this woman?'
Create Her Character
Write by hand using your creative brain to make her three-dimensional. Include what she wears, how she gets to work, what she does on weekends, how she interacts with her children and partner.
Add Rich Details
Include specifics like what she makes for breakfast, what kind of business she runs, how often she sees friends, what she values and desires for her children.
Make It a Love Letter
Don't rush through in 5 minutes. Make it like a love letter to the mom you desire to be, spending the full 20 minutes.
Revisit Regularly
Make it a point to revisit what you write regularly to keep the vision alive and grounded in your heart and mind.
When you feel disconnected from your fertility dream, you must get grounded in who the mother you desire to be is, not your current circumstances
Rosanne conceived naturally at 43 after years of treatment failure by staying connected to her vision of being the mom in Lululemon with a cold brew jumping into her Range Rover, even when that seemed impossible.
Writing out your vision by hand for 20 minutes slows your brain down and allows you to get textures, colors, nuance, and characteristics you wouldn't get from just imagining
This handwriting process is like slowly enjoying a luscious meal versus roller skating through In-N-Out Burger - the slowing down creates rich detail and deeper connection.
Elite athletes like Michael Phelps, Steph Curry, and Serena Williams first accomplish everything in their heads before accomplishing it in reality
Michael Phelps swims in his mind before sticking a toe in the pool, seeing and feeling the strokes and visualizing himself winning world records and achieving amazing things.
We get grounded in scary statistics, failures, and naysaying instead of grounding ourselves in the image of who we desire to become as mothers
This disconnection from the vision and grounding in negative circumstances takes you straight to what Rosanne calls 'shit town' instead of keeping your energy up.
When you spend enough time with the vision of the mother you desire to be, she will seem more real than what is going on around you and will become your reality
Rosanne's reality became ten thousand times better than what she originally imagined because she was willing to create the image, write it out, see it in her heart, and live from that place instead of her current circumstances.
The written vision of who you desire to be as a mother becomes the literal blueprint of the mom you will become
When Rosanne looks back on all the things she imagined and wrote out versus what she actually created in her life, the reality was ten thousand times better because she stayed connected to the vision.
During the fertility journey, there is often a big lag time between all the work you do in the name of having a baby and the actual result, which can make you feel disconnected from the dream
This lag time creates a sense of 'what am I doing all of this for?' and makes the whole mom thing seem like an entirely different universe, leading to disconnection.
When you feel disconnected from your fertility dream, you must get grounded in who the mother you desire to be is, not your current circumstances
▶ 2:27Writing out your vision by hand for 20 minutes slows your brain down and allows you to get textures, colors, nuance, and characteristics you wouldn't get from just imagining
▶ 7:36Elite athletes like Michael Phelps, Steph Curry, and Serena Williams first accomplish everything in their heads before accomplishing it in reality
▶ 6:25We get grounded in scary statistics, failures, and naysaying instead of grounding ourselves in the image of who we desire to become as mothers
▶ 5:12When you spend enough time with the vision of the mother you desire to be, she will seem more real than what is going on around you and will become your reality
▶ 6:04The written vision of who you desire to be as a mother becomes the literal blueprint of the mom you will become
▶ 9:51During the fertility journey, there is often a big lag time between all the work you do in the name of having a baby and the actual result, which can make you feel disconnected from the dream
▶ 1:23“Focus on current circumstances and statistics to stay grounded in reality”
CONSIDER: Get grounded in the vision of who you desire to be as a mother, not scary statistics or current failures
“Who is this mom you desire to be? Really think about that question. Who is this mom you desire to be?”
“She's you. She's just not you yet.”
“When you spend enough time with that bitch, she will see more real than what is going on around you.”
“Anyone who has accomplished anything first accomplished it in their head.”
“Don't roll your eyes. Fucking do it.”
“The process of slowing yourself down is like slowly enjoying a luscious meal as opposed to roller skating through In N Out Burger.”
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Frameworks & Methods
Common Beliefs
The prize never chases - you are the prize, not your baby
Rosanne conceived naturally at 43 after shifting from desperate chasing to seeing herself as the prize and having confident conversations with her son Asher before conception.
Making your baby an object to be obtained is emotionally repulsive and creates unhealthy dynamics
Rosanne explains this is like dating someone desperate who sees you as an object to fix their problems - it creates instinctive rejection and repulsion.
Believing other women are 'just luckier' or more deserving is a complete cop-out that keeps you from standing up for what you desire
Rosanne conceived naturally at 43 after years of treatment failure by learning to control her thoughts and beliefs, proving success comes from inner work not luck.
When you say other people are smarter or more deserving, you completely diminish their hard work and make it seem like they didn't earn their miracle
Rosanne emphasizes that her clients are 'miracle moms' who worked through discipline and commitment, not lucky recipients of random gifts.
