Hemla Makindula

We inherit not just genes but also traumas and patterns from our family lineage that can manifest as fertility issues

Hemla Makindula explains that traumas like famines, wars, or family secrets from generations ago can show up as difficulty conceiving, just like we inherit physical genes from both mother and father's sides.

Family constellation work can identify and heal inherited patterns even when you don't know your family history

Hemla worked with a client who had 8 failed IVFs and discovered through constellation work that a famine 7 generations back in Poland created patterns of not bringing children into scarcity, which manifested as miscarriages in her mother, grandmother, and herself.

Unacknowledged souls in the family system, including miscarriages, abortions, and stillbirths, need recognition for healing to occur

In constellation work, Hemla brings in all souls that belong to the family system, including lost pregnancies. When these are acknowledged, 'suddenly the whole energy shifted' for the client who had multiple IVF failures.

Our bodies carry and express traumas even when our minds don't consciously believe or remember them

Hemla references Dr. Gabor Mate's 'When the Body Says No' and explains how bodies tell the truth when we can't, manifesting as physical sensations, pain, or fertility blocks even without conscious awareness.

Three generations exist simultaneously in one body during pregnancy, creating epigenetic transfer of stress and trauma

When grandmother was pregnant with mother, the egg that became the next generation was already present, meaning three generations were together in one space, allowing stress and trauma to transfer epigenetically through generations.

Family secrets and shame, especially around pregnancy loss, can create blocks to conception across generations

Hemla worked with a 45-year-old woman who had never shared her multiple abortions with anyone. Her mother also had an abortion before immigration. These family secrets around pregnancy loss affected her ability to conceive when ready.

Family constellation work accepts all parts of the human experience without judgment or blame

Hemla emphasizes that constellation work holds acceptance for all experiences, even 'terrible stories' like multiple generations of rape, because everyone is a product of what happened before them.

Resistance often shows up before constellation sessions as the system both wants and doesn't want hidden patterns revealed

Rosanne shares that before each session with Hemla, something would come up to threaten canceling the session, and Hemla confirms clients often experience bathroom urgency, headaches, or other symptoms as the system resists bringing hidden patterns to surface.