Elise

The fertility journey reveals the true character and resilience of your partner in ways you may not have seen before

Hector watched Elise go through five IVF rounds and noted 'I got to see my wife, just the resilience that was inside of her, that I knew, but I didn't really see until this journey started' which gave him 'reassurance that I married the right person.'

Initially skeptical partners often become the biggest supporters once they see the positive changes from mindset work

Hector admitted 'I don't think I was on board immediately' with Rosanne's work, walking by the computer asking 'what did she just say?' But after seeing Elise's confidence and resilience grow, he called it 'probably the most beneficial thing on this journey.'

Men need to actively protect their partner's mindset and create a supportive environment, not just participate in the medical aspects

Hector supported wife Elise through five IVF rounds by encouraging her when cycles started, telling her 'Your body is still working the way it's supposed to work. We're still in the game' instead of focusing on why it wasn't happening.

Men should build their own support network and be selective about who they allow to speak into their fertility journey

Hector attended weekly men's prayer meetings with 100 men every Tuesday at 5:30am, sharing his fertility struggles and receiving support. He also distanced himself from family members who spoke negatively about having children in their 40s.

The criteria for choosing support people should be whether they speak life into you and leave you feeling energized and built up

Hector evaluated his support circle by asking 'Are they there to speak life into me? Do I feel energized, alive when I'm communicating with them?' He kept negative family members at arm's length who fell into the stigma that 'once you get in your forties, you're done.'

Having children later in life provides the benefit of wisdom and discernment to create better family foundations

Hector and Elise married at 42 and 40 respectively, and he noted they were 'instilled with a lot of wisdom' that made it 'very easily detectable to see okay, this is not good, this is good' when creating their family foundation.

Men's role extends far beyond just providing sperm - they must be actively supportive husbands who take on additional responsibilities

Hector emphasized men shouldn't 'fall into this trap of their main role being just to deposit that sperm and wait' but should 'step into roles in the house that you don't normally do' to lighten their wife's stress load during fertility treatment.

Reducing stress plays a huge role in fertility success, and husbands can contribute significantly to this

Hector learned through his fertility journey that 'stress plays a huge role with fertility' and encouraged men to 'lighten that stress load' for their wives going through treatment, noting 'if you can lighten that stress load, then you're ahead of the game.'