Rosanne exposes how excuses - particularly around money, time, and difficulty - are decoder rings that reveal exactly how we'll self-sabotage our fertility dreams. She provides a framework for recognizing excuses as fear-based patterns that keep us small and powerless.
Rosanne opens by defining excuses as explanations where both the maker and receiver know it's bullshit at some level. She explores how excuses are socially acceptable forms of dishonesty that we energetically recognize as false, creating internal alarm bells even when they sound reasonable.
The most common excuses revolve around money, time, and things being too hard. These are delivered as insurmountable obstacles, but the real question is how badly you want something - when desire is strong enough, people find money, make time, and do the work.
Your excuses reveal exactly how you'll sabotage yourself. Since we're creatures of patterns, knowing your excuses shows what will stand between you and your dreams. Excuses make us small and powerless while denying that choice exists in any situation.
Rosanne shares examples of people facing truly difficult circumstances - poverty, single motherhood, immigration - who choose action over excuses. These examples prove that seemingly insurmountable obstacles can be overcome when desire is strong enough.
Rather than hiding behind excuses, speaking truth gives you a fighting chance to break self-sabotage patterns. Rosanne provides specific language to replace money, time, and difficulty excuses with empowering truth that acknowledges fear while choosing action.
“The most prevalent excuses we make across the board? Drum roll, please. Money, time, and it's either too hard or too much work.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 3:58
The three most prevalent excuses are money, time, and it being too hard or too much work. These are often delivered as insurmountable obstacles when they're really not.
“Your excuses are the decoder ring for the ways in which you will self sabotage. If you know your excuses, you will know exactly what stands between you and your dream.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 6:13
Your excuses are literally a decoder ring for how you'll self-sabotage. If you know your excuses, you'll know exactly what stands between you and your dreams, because we repeat negative patterns until we break them.
“At the heart of all excuses is fear. What do we know about fear? It will block you from the success you desire.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 6:03
At the heart of all excuses is fear. Excuses are really saying you're afraid to move beyond the limiting stories you tell yourself about money, time, and difficulty.
“To make an excuse, you have to make yourself small, powerless, and a victim. It's like saying, I have no control over my money. I have no control over my time, and I can't control my level of determination to do the work.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 5:11
To make an excuse, you have to make yourself small, powerless, and a victim. You're essentially saying you have no control over your money, time, or determination - which means you have no control over yourself.
“Instead of using the money excuse, you might say, I'm committed to doing x y z. I am finding the money. I'm gonna figure this shit out. Money, unlike time, is a renewable resource. I'm not letting it get in my way.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 8:58
Instead of money excuses, try: 'I'm committed to doing this. I'm finding the money. Money is a renewable resource and I'm not letting it get in my way. I'm scared because this is different, but my dream matters enough for me to be scared and do it anyway.'
A simple exercise to identify and break excuse patterns that block your fertility dreams
Make a list
Write down your top five excuses that you use regularly
Recognize the pattern
Take a good long look at them and understand these are the stories that will steal your dream on this journey and in life
Excuses are explanations or justifications where the maker knows at some level it's bullshit, and so does the receiver
Rosanne emphasizes that even when excuses sound reasonable, there are alarm bells going off inside because you know you're making an excuse - both parties sense the lack of integrity energetically.
The three most prevalent excuses are money, time, and it's either too hard or too much work
Rosanne notes these excuses are delivered as insurmountable when they're actually not - the question becomes how bad do you want it, because when you want something bad enough, you'll find money, make time, and do the work.
Your excuses are the decoder ring for the ways in which you will self sabotage - if you know your excuses, you will know exactly what stands between you and your dream
Rosanne explains that humans are creatures of patterns and habits, so until you break negative patterns, you'll repeat them and get lackluster results, then continue making the same excuses in a perpetuating cycle.
To make an excuse, you have to make yourself small, powerless, and a victim - saying you have no control over money, time, or determination
Rosanne points out this means saying you have no control over yourself, which is patently untrue - excuses deny that choice exists in any situation and you can choose to create different beliefs.
At the heart of all excuses is fear, and fear will block you from the success you desire
Rosanne explains that excuses reveal fear of moving beyond the stories we tell ourselves about money, time, and difficulty - they're really saying 'I'm afraid to move beyond these limiting beliefs.'
People who are destitute, single moms working full time, and immigrants with nothing find ways to thrive without making excuses
Rosanne gives examples of people facing seemingly insurmountable odds who get creative and figure it out - single moms getting degrees while working full time, immigrants building success from nothing, showing excuses aren't really insurmountable.
Making excuses is about refusing to take responsibility for choices and their consequences
Rosanne emphasizes that when you speak truth instead of making excuses, you give yourself a fighting chance to break patterns of self-sabotage that keep you trapped.
Instead of money excuses, say 'I'm committed to doing this, I'm finding the money, I'm gonna figure this out - money is a renewable resource and I'm not letting it get in my way'
Rosanne provides specific language to replace excuse-making with empowering truth-telling that acknowledges fear while committing to action anyway.
The lack of integrity inherent in excuses is one of the poisons that disempowers us on this journey
Rosanne explains that excuses are weak and lame and always catch up with you - they prevent you from being, doing, having and giving all you desire in life.
Excuses are explanations or justifications where the maker knows at some level it's bullshit, and so does the receiver
▶ 1:24The three most prevalent excuses are money, time, and it's either too hard or too much work
▶ 3:58Your excuses are the decoder ring for the ways in which you will self sabotage - if you know your excuses, you will know exactly what stands between you and your dream
▶ 6:13To make an excuse, you have to make yourself small, powerless, and a victim - saying you have no control over money, time, or determination
▶ 5:11At the heart of all excuses is fear, and fear will block you from the success you desire
▶ 6:03People who are destitute, single moms working full time, and immigrants with nothing find ways to thrive without making excuses
▶ 7:05Making excuses is about refusing to take responsibility for choices and their consequences
▶ 8:28Instead of money excuses, say 'I'm committed to doing this, I'm finding the money, I'm gonna figure this out - money is a renewable resource and I'm not letting it get in my way'
▶ 8:58The lack of integrity inherent in excuses is one of the poisons that disempowers us on this journey
▶ 10:09“Money, time, and difficulty are valid reasons not to pursue what you want”
CONSIDER: These are just excuses that reveal your self-sabotage patterns - when you want something bad enough, you find money, make time, and do the work
“Excuses are acceptable explanations for why we can't do something”
CONSIDER: Excuses are a form of acceptable lack of integrity that make us small, powerless and victims while denying that choice exists
“Your excuses are the decoder ring for the ways in which you will self sabotage.”
“You totally fucking know when you're making an excuse.”
“When you want something bad enough, you'll find the money. When you want something bad enough, you'll make the time. When you want something bad enough, you will do the work.”
“Are you willing to get the fuck out of your comfort zone in the name of getting what you want, or will you allow your excuses to steal the dream?”
“Excuses are a form of an acceptable lack of integrity.”
“I'm scared because this is different, but my dream matters enough for me to be scared and do it anyway.”
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Moving from delusion to conscious decision about what you're actually willing to do creates quantum leaps in results
Rosanne reports 'watching the quantum leaps women make when they understand the difference between delusion and decision, it's like there's a fire that gets lit within them' in her coaching practice.
Jealousy manifests in sneaky ways like explaining away others' success with thoughts like 'she was just lucky' or 'she must be better than me'
Rosanne identifies specific jealousy patterns that emerged as listeners heard success stories from Elise, Fran, Linda, and Lizzie over the past five weeks of episodes.
At its core, jealousy is an outward focus where you're looking at what other people have and saying 'why not me?' - making yourself separate from their success
Every successful woman featured over the past five weeks found a way to move past jealousy and focus inward on their vision rather than being carried off course by comparison.
