Rosanne distinguishes between dreaming about having a baby versus being genuinely ready to receive one. She poses challenging questions to help women shift from a mindset of lack and wanting to a place of confident readiness for motherhood.
Rosanne opens by distinguishing between wanting a baby from lack versus being ready to receive one from confidence. She explains how wanting focuses on what's missing while readiness prepares for what's coming, representing completely different mindsets and energy states.
The biggest mistake women make is thinking their problems exist because baby isn't here, when issues existed before. Rosanne challenges the victim mentality that sees life happening TO you rather than FOR you, emphasizing the need to shift from lack-based wanting to empowered readiness.
Rosanne provides specific questions to assess genuine readiness: Are you being who you want to be? What version of motherhood do you choose? Is your relationship ready? Are you seeking baby to escape other problems? Will you allow proper support? These questions help shift from dreaming to genuine preparation.
Unlike women who conceive easily, those on longer journeys have opportunity to use time wisely for preparation. Rosanne emphasizes doing the inner work to confront hidden issues and develop the calm confidence that comes from being truly ready to receive rather than just wanting from desperation.
“It's one thing to desire this baby. It's something entirely different to be able to receive them though, because they represent two very different mindsets”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 2:35
Wanting comes from lack and focuses on what isn't here, while being ready to receive comes from confidence and focuses on preparing for what's coming. Readiness has emotional maturity, peace, and calm versus the desperate energy of wanting.
“Are you being the woman that you actually wanna be in this process of calling in your baby?”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 8:02
Ask yourself key questions: Are you being the woman you want to be? Is this the version of motherhood you choose versus what was modeled to you? Is your relationship where you want it to be? Will you allow yourself proper support? These assess true readiness versus just wanting.
“The biggest mistakes that women make on this journey is they they kind of think, well, I just want this baby. And all of my problems are here because this baby is not here”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 6:30
The biggest mistake is thinking problems exist because baby isn't here, when the problem existed before. It's a mindset that views life as happening TO you rather than FOR you. The solution is shifting from victim mentality to readiness and empowerment.
“Is some women are in a position in their lives where they are so unfulfilled in their work or in their profession or in their relationships where they think the baby is going to solve the problem”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 11:47
Yes, some women unconsciously use baby as escape from unfulfilling work or to fix relationship issues, creating internal conflict like driving with one foot on gas and one on brake. Problems must be addressed separately from fertility goals.
“This journey, as you have heard me say it before, is fucking preparation”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 18:58
This journey is preparation time. Instead of being trapped in fear and negativity, use this time to prepare and become truly ready to receive your child. Do the inner work to shift from dreamer to someone genuinely ready for motherhood.
A systematic way to evaluate whether you're truly ready for motherhood versus just wanting a baby
Assess your authentic self
Ask yourself: Are you being the woman you actually want to be in the process of calling in your baby? Not from perfection, but from honest self-assessment.
Examine your motherhood vision
Determine if your version of motherhood is consciously chosen or just what was modeled to you. What kind of mom do you actually want to be?
Evaluate your relationship
Honestly assess if your relationship is where you want it to be, not expecting baby to fix existing problems.
Check your motivations
Examine if you're seeking baby to escape unfulfilling work or solve other life problems, which creates internal conflict.
Plan for support
Decide if you'll allow yourself proper support when baby arrives or if you're setting up for martyrdom Olympics.
Shift from wanting to receiving
Move from lack-based wanting focused on what's missing to confident preparation for what's coming.
There's a fundamental difference between wanting a baby from lack versus being ready to receive one - wanting comes from what isn't here, while readiness focuses on preparing for what's to come
Rosanne observed this shift in all successful clients featured on her podcast over 200+ episodes, noting when 'the switch flips' from chasing energy to confident readiness
Being ready to receive has an innate emotional maturity, confidence, peace and calm that is decidedly different from the desperate energy of 'when is my baby gonna get here?'
Rosanne describes recognizing this shift in all women who achieved success on her podcast, noting it's 'truly a beautiful thing' to observe when the transformation happens
The biggest mistake women make is thinking their problems exist because the baby isn't here, when the problem existed before - it's a mindset that views life as happening TO them rather than FOR them
Rosanne identified this pattern across 12+ years coaching women ages 28-54 across six continents, observing that successful clients shift from victim mentality to empowerment
You must ask yourself if you're being the woman you actually want to be in the process of calling in your baby - not from perfection, but from honest self-assessment
Rosanne admits that during her own journey trying to conceive her son at 43, her life became completely focused on lack and scarcity in a way that was 'vomitous' when she looks back
Some women unconsciously reject what they think motherhood is, creating a scenario where they drive with one foot on the gas and one foot on the brake
Rosanne observes this pattern particularly in 'lovably type A control freaky professional women that have had issues with their mama' across her coaching practice
Some women are so unfulfilled in their work or relationships that they think the baby will solve the problem, using pregnancy as an escape from lives they hate
Rosanne has observed this pattern repeatedly in her coaching practice, noting she has 'a bird's eye view of what's really going on in women's heads' across 12+ years
Women struggle in complicated relationships where the baby is seen as something to bring them together or blame their journey for relationship havoc, when problems existed before the baby conversation
Rosanne identifies this as a common pattern where relationship problems are 'two sides of the same coin' - using baby to fix or blaming fertility journey for existing issues
You must honestly assess whether you'll allow yourself proper support when baby arrives, or if you're setting yourself up for martyrdom Olympics
Rosanne sees this especially in maxed-out professionals (physicians, lawyers, teachers, nurses, engineers, scientists) who tell themselves they're too tired but won't get help
This fertility journey is preparation time - instead of being trapped in fear and negativity, use this time to prepare and become truly ready to receive your child
Unlike women who 'sneeze and get pregnant,' Rosanne notes that women on longer journeys have the opportunity to use time wisely for preparation rather than staying stuck
When you do the work to prepare and confront the phantoms lurking in the background, there's a calm and confidence that comes from knowing who you are and where you're headed
Rosanne observes this transformation across all her successful clients, noting that those who become ready to receive develop certainty about their readiness for motherhood
There's a fundamental difference between wanting a baby from lack versus being ready to receive one - wanting comes from what isn't here, while readiness focuses on preparing for what's to come
▶ 2:35Being ready to receive has an innate emotional maturity, confidence, peace and calm that is decidedly different from the desperate energy of 'when is my baby gonna get here?'
▶ 4:28The biggest mistake women make is thinking their problems exist because the baby isn't here, when the problem existed before - it's a mindset that views life as happening TO them rather than FOR them
▶ 6:30You must ask yourself if you're being the woman you actually want to be in the process of calling in your baby - not from perfection, but from honest self-assessment
▶ 8:02Some women unconsciously reject what they think motherhood is, creating a scenario where they drive with one foot on the gas and one foot on the brake
▶ 10:25Some women are so unfulfilled in their work or relationships that they think the baby will solve the problem, using pregnancy as an escape from lives they hate
▶ 11:47Women struggle in complicated relationships where the baby is seen as something to bring them together or blame their journey for relationship havoc, when problems existed before the baby conversation
▶ 13:39You must honestly assess whether you'll allow yourself proper support when baby arrives, or if you're setting yourself up for martyrdom Olympics
▶ 15:12This fertility journey is preparation time - instead of being trapped in fear and negativity, use this time to prepare and become truly ready to receive your child
▶ 18:58When you do the work to prepare and confront the phantoms lurking in the background, there's a calm and confidence that comes from knowing who you are and where you're headed
▶ 19:50“Wanting a baby badly enough will make it happen”
CONSIDER: There's a fundamental difference between wanting from lack versus being ready to receive - wanting focuses on what's missing while readiness prepares for what's coming
“Your problems exist because your baby isn't here yet”
CONSIDER: The problem existed before your baby 'not being here' - it comes from a victim mindset that sees life happening TO you rather than FOR you
“A baby will solve your relationship or work problems”
CONSIDER: Using a baby to escape unfulfilling work or fix relationship issues creates internal conflict - problems must be addressed separately from fertility goals
“It's one thing to desire this baby. It's something entirely different to be able to receive them though, because they represent two very different mindsets”
“When you make a decision that you're going to be successful, you have to be ready for it”
“The biggest mistakes that women make on this journey is they they kind of think, well, I just want this baby. And all of my problems are here because this baby is not here”
“This journey, as you have heard me say it before, is fucking preparation”
“Don't just be a dreamer. Be a woman who's actually ready to receive this child”
“Conceiving is all about receiving”
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Conditions
Frameworks & Methods
Common Beliefs
Your success or failure on the fertility journey ultimately comes down to you - you are in the most powerful position when you stop giving your power to experts and take responsibility for leading your journey
A 53-year-old miracle mama recently sent pregnancy photos because she stepped into her power and refused to compromise based on age or past failures.
Conceiving is all about receiving - you must unfuck your feminine and reconnect with your ability to receive support, love, and what you need to succeed
Women have been trained to take on masculine traits for professional success, divorcing them from their innate feminine energy that's deeply connected to intuition and inner knowing.
The desire in your heart to be a mom is there because it was fucking meant for you - this desire is your divine assignment
Rosanne conceived naturally at 43 after years of treatment failure by following this principle. Recent podcast guests Elise and Mikayla both held babies after choosing belief over their circumstances.
Belief always precedes the miracle - you must believe even in the darkest moments, not just when things feel good
All of the recent podcast success stories featured women who believed bigger than their current circumstances. A fertility expert interviewed confirmed that most fertility challenges are figureoutable.
