EP300: Fertility Success Secret #11: Understanding the Inconvenient Truth About Jealousy

Jealousy manifests in sneaky ways like explaining away others' success with thoughts like 'she was just lucky' or 'she must be better than me'

Rosanne identifies specific jealousy patterns that emerged as listeners heard success stories from Elise, Fran, Linda, and Lizzie over the past five weeks of episodes.

At its core, jealousy is an outward focus where you're looking at what other people have and saying 'why not me?' - making yourself separate from their success

Every successful woman featured over the past five weeks found a way to move past jealousy and focus inward on their vision rather than being carried off course by comparison.

Jealousy at its core is something you are denying yourself - it's all about what you allow yourself to have or receive

Rosanne explains that when women are jealous of others doing IVF or conceiving naturally, they're actually denying themselves those same opportunities through their own limiting stories.

When jealous on her own journey, Rosanne was denying herself the opportunity to see her own goodness and value separate from her fertility status

Rosanne shares her personal experience of running around with the story that other women were just better than her, demonstrating how she was denying herself self-worth.

Conceiving is all about receiving, so jealousy reveals what you're not allowing yourself to receive on your journey

This connects to Rosanne's repeated teaching across episodes that women succeed when they stop denying themselves opportunities and become resourceful in figuring out solutions.

Successful women recognize gaps in their approach and address mindset as the missing piece when physical treatments aren't working

All the miracle mamas featured this year consistently talked about the power of getting out of fear, doubt, negativity, comparison, and jealousy through mindset work.

Mindset is healthcare and is fucking foundational - you cannot ignore this fact when looking at success stories

Rosanne notes this has been a banner year in her coaching practice with multiple success stories, all involving women who addressed the mindset component alongside physical treatment.

Your subconscious mind is there to keep you safe and comfortable, not successful - it will create justifications and stories to keep you stuck

Rosanne identifies common stories like 'I've tried five times before,' 'I'm getting old,' and 'it's too expensive' as subconscious sabotage patterns that deny women opportunities.

You don't get to become an outlier by being mediocre - if you want outrageously awesome results, you cannot live in average, boring stories

Rosanne conceived naturally at 43 after years of treatment failure by refusing to accept mediocre thinking, demonstrating that outlier results require outlier thinking.

Letting your insurance company decide whether you become a mom is victim thinking - successful women take their own authority

Rosanne challenges the common limitation of 'I only do as many IVFs as my insurance allows' as letting someone else decide your fate rather than taking responsibility for your dreams.

The only difference between you and someone you're jealous of is permission - they gave themselves permission to have what you're denying yourself

Successful women become resourceful and figure out solutions, whether that's assembling a 'gang of twelve' for support or doing whatever it takes to optimize their health, rather than making excuses.

You are responsible for your own happiness on this journey and in your life - not your husband, insurance company, or doctor

Rosanne emphasizes that while women often blame external factors, those people will go on to live their lives while the woman remains stuck if she doesn't take responsibility for her choices.