Rosanne challenges listeners to identify the 'big lie' they're living by that's keeping them small and potentially blocking their baby. She explains how unexamined beliefs become tyrannical saboteurs that prevent women from speaking up, taking stands, and living in their 'hell yes' on their fertility journey.
Rosanne opens with the radical idea that many of us live by lies we've never questioned. She explains how decades can pass without examining why we think the way we do, and introduces the concept of the 'big lie' that keeps us small and potentially blocks our fertility success.
The big lie is identified as the belief that shuts you up, keeps you small, and prevents you from living in your 'hell yes.' Rosanne explains how these saboteurs operate tyrannically in our minds, particularly affecting women on the fertility journey with thoughts about age, timing, and worthiness.
Rosanne gives listeners a simple but powerful homework assignment: spend five minutes writing down 'What is the big lie I am living by?' She promises this exercise could be a critical turning point, helping women identify the patterns that have been sabotaging their fertility journey and preventing them from taking a stand for what they want.
“The big lie is the belief that keeps you small, shuts you up, and prevents you from asking for what you want or taking a stand for your opinion”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 4:08
The big lie is any belief that keeps you small, shuts you up, and prevents you from asking for what you want or taking a stand. It's the saboteur that operates tyrannically in your mind, keeping you from speaking up for what you want on your fertility journey.
“You spending, I don't know, five minutes thinking about this question could be a critical turning point on your journey”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 3:07
Spend 5 minutes with paper and pencil asking yourself 'What is the big lie I am living by?' Look for the patterns and 'greasy fingerprints' of beliefs that consistently hold you back and keep you from living in your 'hell yes.'
“If you've got bullshit going on about age, it will block it. It'll block your baby because you're gonna give up and you're gonna say, hey. I'm too damn old.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 5:21
Yes, according to Rosanne Austin, beliefs about being too old, waiting too long, or trying too many times can cause you to give up and 'steal your dream just like that.' These lies create a tyranny that prevents you from continuing to pursue your fertility goals.
“We can go decades in this life without ever stopping to question the way we think and the way that we do things”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 1:24
You can go decades living by lies that someone told you about how things 'have to be' without ever examining if they're true. This keeps you stuck in patterns that prevent you from achieving your fertility goals and living authentically.
“These saboteurs in our brains are literally tyrannical. Their tyranny keeps us from speaking out, speaking up, and taking a stand for what we want on this journey”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 4:50
Limiting beliefs create a tyranny that prevents you from speaking out, speaking up, and taking a stand for what you want. They keep you from asking for what you need and living in your 'hell yes' on your fertility journey.
A simple 5-minute exercise to uncover the limiting beliefs sabotaging your fertility journey
Set up your space
Get seated with a piece of paper and pencil
Ask the key question
Write down 'What is the big lie I am living by?' and reflect thoughtfully
Look for patterns
Identify beliefs that keep you small, shut you up, and prevent you from asking for what you want
Recognize the tyranny
Notice how these saboteur beliefs prevent you from speaking up and taking a stand on your fertility journey
Connect to fertility blocks
See how beliefs about age, timing, or worthiness might be causing you to give up prematurely
We often live decades without questioning the way we think, accepting lies about how things 'have to be' that keep us small and block our fertility success
Kate and Dr. Caroline from recent Fearlessly Fertile community interviews both achieved success by daring to confront the big lies in their lives and challenging how they were living.
The big lie is the belief that keeps you small, shuts you up, and prevents you from asking for what you want or taking a stand for your opinion
These saboteurs in our brains are literally tyrannical and keep us from speaking out, speaking up, and taking a stand for what we want on the fertility journey.
The big lie you're living under will block your baby if it contains beliefs about age, timing, or worthiness
Lies about being 'too damn old,' waiting too long, or trying too many times cause women to give up, saying 'it shoulda happened by now' and steal their dreams.
A simple 5-minute exercise of writing 'What is the big lie I am living by?' can provide the keys to your freedom and fertility success
Rosanne states that spending five minutes seated with paper and pencil asking this question wholeheartedly will give you at least a glimpse of truth instead of living every day by a lie.
You can identify the big lie by looking for its 'greasy fingerprints' all over your life - the patterns that consistently hold you back
The big lie operates as a saboteur whose tyranny keeps women from speaking out, speaking up, and taking a stand for what they want on their fertility journey.
We often live decades without questioning the way we think, accepting lies about how things 'have to be' that keep us small and block our fertility success
▶ 1:23The big lie is the belief that keeps you small, shuts you up, and prevents you from asking for what you want or taking a stand for your opinion
▶ 4:08The big lie you're living under will block your baby if it contains beliefs about age, timing, or worthiness
▶ 5:21A simple 5-minute exercise of writing 'What is the big lie I am living by?' can provide the keys to your freedom and fertility success
▶ 5:52You can identify the big lie by looking for its 'greasy fingerprints' all over your life - the patterns that consistently hold you back
▶ 5:10“You should accept the way things are done and how life 'has to be' without questioning it”
CONSIDER: Freedom comes from questioning why you think the way you do and asking if another way could be equally valid
“Getting angry at systems, people, or circumstances when things don't go your way is justified”
CONSIDER: Instead of getting pissed at external factors, examine the internal lies that create your expectations and limitations
“The big lie is the belief that keeps you small, shuts you up, and prevents you from asking for what you want or taking a stand for your opinion”
“These saboteurs in our brains are literally tyrannical. Their tyranny keeps us from speaking out, speaking up, and taking a stand for what we want on this journey”
“If you've got bullshit going on about age, it will block it. It'll block your baby because you're gonna give up and you're gonna say, hey. I'm too damn old.”
“You spending, I don't know, five minutes thinking about this question could be a critical turning point on your journey”
“What is the big lie you are living under right now? Because chances are the big lie that you are living under right now will block your baby”
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Conditions
Frameworks & Methods
Jealousy manifests in sneaky ways like explaining away others' success with thoughts like 'she was just lucky' or 'she must be better than me'
Rosanne identifies specific jealousy patterns that emerged as listeners heard success stories from Elise, Fran, Linda, and Lizzie over the past five weeks of episodes.
At its core, jealousy is an outward focus where you're looking at what other people have and saying 'why not me?' - making yourself separate from their success
Every successful woman featured over the past five weeks found a way to move past jealousy and focus inward on their vision rather than being carried off course by comparison.
Women having babies in their 40s is normal and increasingly common, not a freak show
According to 2017 US CDC data, birth rates fell for all age groups except women over 40, with births for women 40-44 actually rising and those over 45 holding steady.
Statistics are just information, not a verdict - they don't account for the treasure trove of anecdotal evidence of women over 40 having babies all the time
Rosanne was told she needed donor eggs at 37 for no reason other than age, yet conceived naturally at 43 after years of treatment failure, demonstrating statistics don't predict individual outcomes.
