In the third episode of her Excuse Busters series, Rosanne dismantles the most insidious excuse for not working on fertility mindset: worrying about what other people think. She reveals why letting others' opinions control your fertility journey is a betrayal of your dreams and provides a powerful framework for breaking free.
Rosanne identifies worrying about what others think as the most cunning excuse for avoiding fertility mindset work because it exploits our fundamental need for connection and love. Unlike money excuses, this one feels noble and caring, but actually represents a betrayal of your maternal dreams for the sake of others' comfort.
True supporters challenge you to leap for your dreams, while those who demand you stay the same are protecting their own comfort zones. Rosanne teaches that resistance to your fertility growth often stems from others' fear that your advancement will highlight their own lack of courage in pursuing their dreams.
No one else lives with the specific ache in your heart for this baby, making your fertility journey ultimately your responsibility. Rosanne emphasizes that you can love someone without letting their limitations control your path to motherhood, and that authentic love supports growth rather than demanding stagnation.
Rosanne provides a practical exercise to identify how others' opinions are blocking your fertility success: examining who you're afraid of disappointing, what limiting stories you're telling, and projecting where you'll be in a year if you continue prioritizing others' comfort over your maternal dreams.
“Other people don't live with the ache you feel in your heart for this baby. Your pain is yours, and it is therefore your responsibility.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 8:10
Remember that what other people think about your fertility investments is none of your business. They don't live with the ache in your heart for this baby, so their opinions shouldn't control your decisions about becoming a mom.
“You can love someone and not agree with them. You can love someone and not let their fear and limitation negatively impact your life.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 8:40
You can love someone and not agree with them. Love that demands staying the same isn't actually love—it's about their comfort, not your happiness. True love challenges you to leap for your dreams.
“People who truly want the best for you will challenge you to leap for your dreams. The people that want you to be the same person as you were five years ago demand suspicion.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 7:07
People who truly want the best for you will challenge you to leap for your dreams. Those who want you to be the same person as five years ago demand suspicion—they're prioritizing their comfort over your fertility success.
“Change scares people. People cling to what they know to feel safe even if what they're clinging to might be a sinking fucking ship.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 6:47
Change scares people, and they cling to what they know even if it's a sinking ship. Your growth unintentionally challenges their worldview and shines light on what they didn't have courage to do in their own lives.
“You can't wait for that day. Your responsibility is to follow your heart. Love that demands staying the same isn't love.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 9:21
You can't wait for others to begin their mindset journey. Your responsibility is to follow your heart. At the end of life, you'll know whether you lived out your full potential or died crushed by regret from playing small.
“Who am I currently afraid of pissing off? What story am I telling that keeps me trapped? If I keep this shit up, where will I be a year from now?”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 13:28
Ask: Who am I currently afraid of pissing off? What story am I telling that keeps me trapped? If I keep this up, where will I be a year from now? These questions reveal how others' opinions are blocking your path to motherhood.
A three-question exercise to reveal how other people's opinions are preventing you from taking action on your fertility journey
Identify your fear patterns
Ask yourself: Who am I currently afraid of pissing off? Consider doctors, partners, family, friends. Examine why you're afraid and what story you're telling about what happens when you disappoint them.
Examine your limiting stories
Ask: What story am I telling that keeps me trapped? Look for beliefs like 'only celebrities have coaches' or 'people will think I'm crazy' that prevent you from investing in fertility support.
Project the consequences
Ask: If I keep this up, where will I be a year from now? Consider whether you'll let someone's opinion stop you from becoming a mom and whether their opinion is based on reality or just fear.
What other people think about your fertility mindset work is none of your business and shouldn't influence your decisions about becoming a mom
Rosanne conceived naturally at 43 despite years of fertility treatment failure by refusing to let others' limited thinking control her choices, demonstrating that breaking free from others' opinions is essential for fertility success.
The excuse of 'other people' is the most insidious because it ties into our desire for kinship and love, making us sacrifice our dreams for approval
Rosanne identifies this as more cunning than money excuses because it exploits our fundamental need for connection, leading women to negotiate down from their fertility dreams to avoid judgment.
People who truly want the best for you will challenge you to leap for your dreams, while those who want you to stay the same demand suspicion
Rosanne teaches that true supporters encourage growth and risk-taking for dreams, while those demanding you stay unchanged prioritize their own comfort over your happiness and fertility success.
Other people don't live with the ache you feel in your heart for this baby, making your fertility journey pain yours to address
Rosanne emphasizes that regardless of how close someone is to you, including your partner, they cannot fully understand your specific maternal longing, making you solely responsible for taking action to address it.
You can love someone and not agree with them, and you can love someone without letting their fear and limitation negatively impact your fertility journey
Rosanne teaches that authentic love doesn't require agreement on fertility choices, demonstrated through her work with women who've succeeded despite partners' or family's initial resistance to their fertility decisions.
Love that demands staying the same isn't love—it's about the other person's comfort, not your fertility success
Rosanne challenges the common belief that partners or family who resist fertility growth are acting from love, revealing it's actually about maintaining their comfort zone rather than supporting your maternal dreams.
At the end of life, we're held accountable for whether we lived out our full potential and honored the gift of being alive fully
Rosanne frames fertility choices within the larger context of life purpose, teaching that avoiding fertility mindset work due to others' opinions leads to end-of-life regret about not pursuing motherhood fully.
Change scares people, and they cling to what they know even if what they're clinging to is a sinking ship
Rosanne explains why others resist your fertility growth, noting that people prefer familiar limitation over unknown possibility, which explains resistance from loved ones when you invest in mindset work.
What other people think about your fertility mindset work is none of your business and shouldn't influence your decisions about becoming a mom
▶ 4:24The excuse of 'other people' is the most insidious because it ties into our desire for kinship and love, making us sacrifice our dreams for approval
▶ 4:45People who truly want the best for you will challenge you to leap for your dreams, while those who want you to stay the same demand suspicion
▶ 7:07Other people don't live with the ache you feel in your heart for this baby, making your fertility journey pain yours to address
▶ 8:10You can love someone and not agree with them, and you can love someone without letting their fear and limitation negatively impact your fertility journey
▶ 8:40Love that demands staying the same isn't love—it's about the other person's comfort, not your fertility success
▶ 9:30At the end of life, we're held accountable for whether we lived out our full potential and honored the gift of being alive fully
▶ 9:52Change scares people, and they cling to what they know even if what they're clinging to is a sinking ship
▶ 6:47“If the people closest to me don't support my fertility decisions, I should listen to them because they love me”
CONSIDER: People who truly love you will challenge you to leap for your dreams, not keep you small for their comfort
“I need to consider my partner's opinion equally when making fertility decisions”
CONSIDER: While partnership matters, no one else lives with the ache in your heart for this baby, making the fertility journey ultimately your responsibility
“Loving someone means agreeing with them and not doing things they disapprove of”
CONSIDER: Love means being the person outside the ditch with open arms when they're ready to get up, not laying in the ditch with them
“What other people think of you changing your mindset or making investments in mindset with time, money, behavior, and all of the other great things that you're doing on this journey to call in your baby is none of your fucking business.”
“People who truly want the best for you will challenge you to leap for your dreams. The people that want you to be the same person as you were five years ago demand suspicion.”
“Other people don't live with the ache you feel in your heart for this baby. Your pain is yours, and it is therefore your responsibility.”
“Love is not laying in the ditch with someone. It is being the motherfucker outside of it with open arms when they are ready to get up out of it.”
“End of life is a great equalizer. You either lived full out, or you died scared of your own shadow crushed by regret.”
“Love that demands staying the same isn't love.”
“Be the crab that makes it out of the fucking pot.”
“Are you honestly not going to get the medical care that you may need in your unique situation just because somebody doesn't wanna do that?”
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EP214 Excuse Buster: Time
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Frameworks & Methods
Common Beliefs
There's a fundamental difference between wanting a baby from lack versus being ready to receive one - wanting comes from what isn't here, while readiness focuses on preparing for what's to come
Rosanne observed this shift in all successful clients featured on her podcast over 200+ episodes, noting when 'the switch flips' from chasing energy to confident readiness
Being ready to receive has an innate emotional maturity, confidence, peace and calm that is decidedly different from the desperate energy of 'when is my baby gonna get here?'
Rosanne describes recognizing this shift in all women who achieved success on her podcast, noting it's 'truly a beautiful thing' to observe when the transformation happens
The energy behind your fertility actions matters more than the actions themselves - you can do all the right things but with fear-based energy that repels your baby
Rosanne conceived naturally at 43 after years of treatment failure by shifting her energy, noting she was more fertile in her 40s naturally with the right mindset than in her 30s with treatments.
Two people can approach IVF with completely different energy - one with excitement and opportunity, another with resentment and financial stress - creating vastly different results
Rosanne explains women with worse numbers, older age, and terrible diagnoses get pregnant naturally when their energy matches excitement and anticipation, while those in fear create fear-based results.
