Rosanne explores the critical but often overlooked decision to be a fertility success story, distinguishing between mere hope and definitive commitment to success. She walks through a practical worksheet to help women identify judgments about deciding to succeed, envision what success would look like, and make a bold declaration of their intention.
Rosanne opens by distinguishing between hoping for fertility success and making a definitive decision to succeed. She shares a powerful quote from mountaineer William Hutchison Murray about how commitment triggers universal support, explaining that decision is everything on the fertility journey but the decision to be successful is often overlooked because it's scary.
She challenges the common belief that hope and positivity are enough, teaching that hope is not a strategy. True mindset work involves strategic thinking about next steps once you've decided to succeed. She emphasizes you can be both decided and surrendered simultaneously.
Rosanne provides a practical three-step framework: identify judgments about deciding to succeed, envision what would be different if you decided to succeed, and make a bold declaration of your intention. She encourages women to recognize they've made success decisions in other areas of life like education and career.
“Hope is not a strategy and hope is not enough. When we're talking about having a strong mindset, it means taking the lead in what you think and believe and thinking strategically.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 3:36
Hope is not a strategy, while deciding to succeed means making a definitive commitment that causes the universe to conspire in your favor. Decision involves strategic thinking about next steps, not just positive thinking.
“I don't know how. I don't know when this baby's coming, but I know this baby is coming. There's nothing unsurrendered about that.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 3:16
Yes, you can decide to be successful and still be surrendered to the outcome. Surrender doesn't mean being wishy-washy about your commitment. It means 'I don't know how. I don't know when this baby's coming, but I know this baby is coming.'
“I, insert your name, have decided to be a fertility success story. And when you're done, just fill in your name, sign it, date it, put it somewhere where you can see it, and then list ten things you love about having made that decision.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 8:03
Start by identifying your judgments about deciding to succeed, then envision what would be different if you decided to succeed, and finally make a bold declaration: 'I have decided to be a fertility success story.' Sign it, date it, and list ten things you love about making that decision.
“The moment one definitely commits oneself, then providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 2:13
When you definitively commit to success, providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help you that would never otherwise have occurred - unforeseen incidents, meetings, and material assistance that no one could have dreamed would come their way.
“There's one that very often gets overlooked because it's a pretty fucking scary decision, and that is the decision to be successful.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 1:42
The decision to be successful is often overlooked because it's a 'pretty fucking scary decision.' Most people weren't taught they can just decide to succeed and believe some outside force will interfere if they have the boldness to make such a decision.
A three-step process for making the definitive decision to succeed on your fertility journey
Identify Your Judgments
Write down what judgments you have about deciding to be successful. Common ones include 'who does she think she is?' or 'what if I'm getting ahead of myself?' Don't judge your judgments, just get them out.
Envision Success
Write what would be different in your life if you just flat out decided to be successful. Think about how your daily experience, energy, and actions would change.
Make the Declaration
Write 'I, [your name], have decided to be a fertility success story.' Fill in your name, sign it, date it, put it somewhere visible, then list ten things you love about having made that decision.
Making a definitive decision to be successful on your fertility journey causes the universe to conspire in your favor, unlike mere hoping or positivity
Rosanne conceived naturally at 43 after years of treatment failure by making this decision. All women featured across 229+ podcast episodes made this decision in various ways before achieving success.
Decision is everything on this journey - there are a zillion decisions to make, but the decision to be successful is often overlooked because it's scary
Rosanne notes that professional women listening to this podcast have made decisions to succeed in university, medical school, law school, and engineering programs, proving they can make success decisions.
You can decide to be successful and still be surrendered to the outcome - surrender doesn't mean being wishy-washy about your commitment
Rosanne teaches the distinction: 'I don't know how. I don't know when this baby's coming, but I know this baby is coming. There's nothing unsurrendered about that.'
Hope is not a strategy and positivity is not enough - mindset work means thinking strategically about steps to success
Rosanne distinguishes her approach from generic positivity, emphasizing strategic thinking: 'I know what I want. I've made the decision to be successful. So what are the steps that are going to help me get there?'
The desire in your heart to be a mom is there because God/Universe/Source put it there, and by the time you decide to act on it, the Universe is ready to support you
Rosanne explains her observation from coaching: 'It's like, by the time we make the decision, God universe source... It's like, well, what the fuck were you waiting for? Right? I was ready the whole time. I had your back, sister.'
The longer you judge yourself for what you want and judge yourself for deciding to succeed, the longer you keep success at arm's distance
Rosanne works with 'lovably type A control freaky professional women' who have successfully decided to complete advanced degrees but struggle with deciding to succeed at fertility.
Making a definitive decision to be successful on your fertility journey causes the universe to conspire in your favor, unlike mere hoping or positivity
▶ 1:45Decision is everything on this journey - there are a zillion decisions to make, but the decision to be successful is often overlooked because it's scary
▶ 1:22You can decide to be successful and still be surrendered to the outcome - surrender doesn't mean being wishy-washy about your commitment
▶ 3:16Hope is not a strategy and positivity is not enough - mindset work means thinking strategically about steps to success
▶ 3:36The desire in your heart to be a mom is there because God/Universe/Source put it there, and by the time you decide to act on it, the Universe is ready to support you
▶ 5:40The longer you judge yourself for what you want and judge yourself for deciding to succeed, the longer you keep success at arm's distance
▶ 7:12“Hope and positivity are enough to succeed on your fertility journey”
CONSIDER: Hope is not a strategy - you need to make a definitive decision to succeed and think strategically about your next steps
“Deciding to succeed means you're not surrendered to the outcome”
CONSIDER: You can decide to be successful and still be surrendered - surrender doesn't mean being wishy-washy about your commitment
“Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back. But the moment one definitely commits oneself, then providence moves too.”
“Hope is not a strategy and hope is not enough.”
“I don't know how. I don't know when this baby's coming, but I know this baby is coming. There's nothing unsurrendered about that.”
“The longer that you continue to judge yourself for what you want, the longer you keep it at arm's distance.”
“By the time we make the decision, God universe source... It's like, well, what the fuck were you waiting for? Right? I was ready the whole time. I had your back, sister.”
EP331: Recurrent Miscarriage and Failed IVF Didn't Stop Her from Finally Being the Woman Who Has It ALL: Jennifer's Story
How an ambitious finance professional went from ectopic pregnancy and 'pregnancies of unknown location' to holding her baby boy while building her dream home - by learning that her driven nature was her superpower, not her weakness.
EP260 They Said Donor Eggs Were Her Only Option…She Got Pregnant Naturally Over 40: Tanya’s Story
After five years of trying and three failed IVF cycles, Tanya was told donor eggs were her only option—but she got pregnant naturally at 40 while training for a half marathon.
EP343: Do You Really Want This Baby? How to Tell If You Want This Baby Bad Enough to WIN
Are you doing all the fertility treatments but mentally checked out—and wondering why you're not getting results?
The ambitious, driven qualities that make you successful professionally are actually your superpowers on the fertility journey, not obstacles to overcome
Jennifer initially thought her ambitious, driven nature in finance would make her a bad mother, but discovered that same resilience and refusal to quit is what ultimately brought her to conceiving her son after ectopic pregnancy and multiple failed transfers.
Your mind will give up way before your body ever will - this is why mindset is the foundation of fertility success
Jennifer's fertility clinic told her they see many patients who still have medical and financial options but give up emotionally before exhausting their possibilities. Jennifer's mental resilience kept her going through ectopic pregnancy, pregnancies of unknown location, and failed transfers until she conceived.
You can become more fertile in your 40s than you were in your 30s when you shift your mindset
Tanya conceived naturally at 40 after five years of trying in her 30s, including three failed IVF cycles and being told donor eggs were her only option.
Delays in your fertility journey can be divine delays preparing you for the right timing
Tanya needed to wait four months to see a specialist, which gave her time to complete the Fearlessly Fertile program and shift her mindset before conceiving naturally.
