In this third installment of the Fertile AF Series, Rosanne explores what it takes to be 'the one' who beats the odds on the fertility journey. She challenges listeners to honestly assess whether they have the courage to become an outlier rather than a statistic.
Rosanne distinguishes fearless fertility from surface-level positivity, explaining that true success requires unshakeable belief that sustains you through storms, setbacks, and poor statistics. This belief means standing firm even when facing consistent failure and when nobody else believes in your success.
To become an outlier, you must think differently than the crowd. This means viewing statistics as single data points rather than destiny, focusing on the percentage chance you do have, and refusing to accept sheep-like thinking that produces average results.
Having courage to be the one often means standing alone because most people don't understand this level of determination. Rosanne observes how quickly people support giving up but question those who persist, requiring you to develop strength to stand by your vision despite isolation.
No amount of treatments, supplements, or alternative therapies can overcome a mindset working against you. Rosanne emphasizes that mind and body work together, making mindset work essential alongside physical fertility interventions for true success.
“Do you have the courage to be the one that has a baby in her fifties? Do you have the courage to be the one that is in her mid forties and becoming a mom for the first time?”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 4:06
Having the courage to be the one means being willing to become an outlier who beats the odds rather than accepting statistics. It requires thinking differently, standing alone when others don't support your vision, and maintaining belief even in the face of consistent setbacks.
“If you think like a sheep, you're not gonna get there. You will never become a goat, greatest of all time, being a sheep.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 5:27
To beat fertility odds, you must think like someone who is 'the one' rather than like everyone else. This means viewing statistics as just one data point rather than destiny, focusing on the percentage chance you do have instead of the odds against you, and refusing to accept that your situation is hopeless.
“The ethos of fearlessly fertile is not positivity. It is fucking belief and belief in the middle of a fucking storm.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 3:34
Belief is more powerful than positivity because it sustains you through storms, setbacks, and poor statistics. While positivity can be surface-level and temporary, belief means standing firm in your vision even when facing consistent failure, age concerns, and when nobody else believes in your success.
“You can end up on a very lonely road because not a lot of people are gonna get that. Most people are quitters.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 8:33
When you have courage to be different in fertility, you often end up on a lonely road because most people don't understand. You'll find that people quickly support you when you consider giving up, but few support you when you choose to beat the odds and think differently.
“You don't have to know how to get there. It starts with the courage. It starts with the courage to be the one because you can learn all of the other things.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 11:58
No, you don't need to know how to beat the odds before starting. It begins with having the courage and making the decision to be the one. The specific strategies and mindset skills can be learned afterward, but the courage to believe in yourself comes first.
“You will never out treat or out supplement or out fucking yoga a shitty mindset. Your mind goes everywhere with your baby.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 13:42
You can't out-supplement a bad mindset because mind and body work together in fertility. No amount of treatments, supplements, or alternative therapies can overcome a mindset that's working against you. Your mind affects every aspect of your fertility journey.
Being fearlessly fertile means having belief in the face of a storm, not just positivity
Rosanne conceived naturally at 43 after years of fertility treatment failure by developing unshakeable belief despite consistent setbacks and poor statistics.
To be the one who beats the odds, you must think like someone who is the one, not like a sheep
Rosanne teaches that thinking like everyone else will only produce average results, while becoming 'the greatest of all time' requires different thinking patterns that most people avoid.
Statistics are a single data point, not the only piece of data that matters for your journey
Rosanne demonstrates this by focusing on the women who choose to work with 10% odds rather than running from them, understanding that statistics didn't include their specific situation.
Most people will help you justify failing, but few support you in having courage to be the one
Rosanne observes how quickly people offer alternatives like 'take fifteen vacations a year' when someone considers giving up, but laugh or scoff when someone has the courage to beat the odds.
You don't fail until you give up - everything before that is part of the process
Rosanne reframes setbacks and challenges as part of the journey rather than failures, noting how people rush to comfort those who give up but question those who persist.
Having courage to be the one means accepting you'll stand alone and become 'a bit of an oddity'
Rosanne shares from her own experience of becoming pregnant naturally at 43 that choosing to be different requires accepting isolation from those who don't understand the courage required.
The courage to be the one starts with the decision, not knowing how to get there
Rosanne explains that she teaches women the mindset skills to get pregnant after they make the courageous decision, having helped women across the globe for 10 years with specific methodologies.
You will never out-treat or out-supplement or out-yoga a shitty mindset
Rosanne emphasizes that mind and body work together, and her Fearlessly Fertile Method program helps women around the world by addressing mindset as a critical missing piece in their fertility approach.
Being fearlessly fertile means having belief in the face of a storm, not just positivity
▶ 3:24To be the one who beats the odds, you must think like someone who is the one, not like a sheep
▶ 5:27Statistics are a single data point, not the only piece of data that matters for your journey
▶ 5:58Most people will help you justify failing, but few support you in having courage to be the one
▶ 8:43You don't fail until you give up - everything before that is part of the process
▶ 9:03Having courage to be the one means accepting you'll stand alone and become 'a bit of an oddity'
▶ 9:34The courage to be the one starts with the decision, not knowing how to get there
▶ 11:58You will never out-treat or out-supplement or out-yoga a shitty mindset
▶ 13:42“Positive thinking is enough to succeed on the fertility journey”
CONSIDER: Fearless fertility requires belief in the face of storms, statistics, and consistent failure - not just positivity
“Statistics determine your individual outcome”
CONSIDER: Statistics are a single data point that didn't include you - focus on the percentage chance you do have
“You fail when treatments don't work”
CONSIDER: You don't fail until you give up - everything before that is part of the process
“Do you have the courage to be the one? To be the one that has a baby in her fifties? Do you have the courage to be the one that is in her mid forties and becoming a mom for the first time?”
“The ethos of fearlessly fertile is not positivity. It is fucking belief and belief in the middle of a fucking storm, belief when nobody else believes, belief when it's just you.”
“If you think like a sheep, you're not gonna get there. You will never become a goat, greatest of all time, being a sheep.”
“I know what the statistics say, but those statistics don't mean shit because they didn't include me. They are a single data point.”
“You will never out treat or out supplement or out fucking yoga a shitty mindset. Your mind goes everywhere with your baby.”
“I actually don't believe that you fail until you give up.”
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Frameworks & Methods
Common Beliefs
You can discover your dream of motherhood at any age and it's equally valid regardless of timing
Myrna spent 20 years saying she didn't want children, discovered her maternal calling at 42, and successfully became a mother at 45 with one embryo.
External success without fulfilling your deepest purpose leads to persistent emptiness and searching
Myrna achieved international success as a musician, traveled the world, and had career freedom, but felt constantly unsatisfied and kept searching for something until she realized motherhood was her missing piece.
Your timeline is arbitrary - age and number of years trying has no meaning other than what you choose to give it
Marin, featured in episode 84, conceived after 40 despite thinking she had to have a baby by then. Rosanne herself conceived naturally at 43 after years of treatment failure.
Failures can be reframed as evidence of how badass and gangster you are for holding fast to your dreams
Rosanne had 84 failures before conceiving Asher naturally at 43. She teaches that each 'no' may signal a big yes is coming since no one fails all the time.
