Liz shares her journey from two failed IVF cycles with no normal embryos and two miscarriages to conceiving naturally at 42. After struggling with worthiness issues and control patterns, she learned to trust her intuition, took a break from treatment, and conceived baby Betty within weeks.
LizAge 42· natural· Baby girlBefore
Convinced she was inadequate and needed IVF to conceive, operating from worthiness issues and control patterns
Key Shift
Learning to trust her intuition and live her life for herself rather than others, taking a break when IVF didn't feel right
After
Peaceful and confident about her pregnancy, knowing she and baby would be okay
Liz traces her fertility struggles back to worthiness patterns that began in her twenties. After spending 10 years in an unhealthy relationship telling herself she didn't want kids, she met her future husband but ghosted him because she couldn't believe he liked her for who she was. These same inadequacy beliefs would later drive her to immediately seek IVF after one miscarriage, convinced she couldn't conceive on her own.
Despite having ovarian reserve numbers of a 30-year-old at 41, Liz's two IVF cycles produced no normal embryos. Her experience demonstrates how negative mindset and stress can override excellent physical markers. Even her husband wisely suggested trying naturally first, but Liz was convinced she needed medical intervention to succeed.
Through the Fearlessly Fertile Method, Liz learned to trust herself and live her life for herself rather than others. The self-proclaimed non-woo-woo woman discovered her intuition and made the crucial decision to take a break from IVF when it 'didn't feel right,' despite age pressure. Within three weeks, she conceived naturally at 42.
Liz's third pregnancy was completely different from her previous experiences marked by doom and panic. Instead, she felt immediate peace and knew everything would be okay. She had the 'easiest, greatest pregnancy' and welcomed baby Betty, proving that multiple abnormal embryos through IVF don't preclude healthy natural conception.
“Think about this. In the system of IVF, you had multiple embryos that were abnormal, right? Through two rounds of IVF, abnormal embryos. There are some women out there that are listening to this that have had a similar experience and are sitting in despair thinking that if under the system of IVF, all you can produce is an abnormal embryo that there's no freaking hope for you to get pregnant naturally, much less have a a healthy baby.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 33:09
Yes, you can conceive naturally even after IVF produces abnormal embryos. Liz had no normal embryos through two IVF cycles at 41-42, yet conceived naturally within weeks and had a healthy baby girl.
“I think it was finally, like, hearing all the things that you were saying that, like, listen to what your gut is telling you. Don't listen to anybody else. If if your intuition is leading you somewhere else, then go with that.”
— Liz▶ 28:28
Taking a break from treatment can be the right choice if it doesn't feel aligned, even at 42. Liz trusted her intuition that another IVF round 'didn't feel right' and conceived naturally within 3 weeks of her break.
“I just feel like that I I put so much pressure on myself and I was so negative and stressing out my body. And it just was so, like, such the wrong there was no way that those embryos could be healthy because everything, everything that I was putting them through was negative.”
— Liz▶ 33:50
Negative mindset and stress can impact embryo quality even with good lab numbers. Liz had perfect labs but produced no normal embryos when operating from fear and pressure, yet conceived naturally after mindset work.
“But I I was so convinced that I couldn't have a healthy pregnancy on my own that even when it happened, I was like, oh, no. This is just gonna end badly. I'm just gonna miscarry again.”
— Liz▶ 8:24
Fertility anxiety often stems from feeling inadequate or unworthy of having a baby easily. The mindset you bring to pregnancy directly impacts your experience - fear creates more fear, while peace creates more peace.
“The way we do one thing is the way we do everything. So if you feel all fucked up about whether or not somebody could love you, how would that not translate into questions about whether or not you wanna have a baby or whether you're worthy of having a baby with ease?”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 11:54
The way you handle relationships directly impacts your fertility journey. Patterns of feeling unworthy in love often translate to feeling inadequate about conceiving and immediately seeking external help rather than trusting yourself.
“All of my labs were so good. You know, like, my my whatever. Ovarian reserve, all of my hormones. I mean, everything was, like, what it should be. And even, like, one of the IVF doctors, she was like, really? You know, all of your numbers are are like a thirty year old.”
— Liz▶ 15:40
Perfect lab results don't guarantee success if mindset factors aren't addressed. Sometimes the missing piece isn't medical but psychological - stress, pressure and negative beliefs can override good physical indicators.
Worthiness issues from earlier relationships directly impact fertility journey outcomes and decision-making patterns.
Liz spent 10 years in an unhealthy relationship telling herself she didn't want kids rather than facing the reality, then ghosted her future husband because she couldn't believe he liked her for who she was. These same worthiness patterns showed up as immediately running to IVF after one miscarriage at 41.
The way you do one thing is the way you do everything - relationship patterns will show up in your fertility journey.
Liz's pattern of feeling unworthy in her relationship (ghosting her husband because she couldn't believe he liked her) directly translated to feeling inadequate about conceiving and immediately seeking medical intervention after one miscarriage instead of trusting her body.
Running to medical intervention first without checking in with yourself often stems from a foundation of feeling inadequate.
Liz immediately went to IVF after one miscarriage at 41, despite having perfect labs and ovarian reserve of a 30-year-old. Her husband wisely suggested trying naturally first, but she refused because she was convinced she 'couldn't do this on my own.'
Perfect labs and young biological markers don't guarantee IVF success when operating from a negative mindset.
Liz had ovarian reserve numbers like a 30-year-old at 41, yet produced no normal embryos through two IVF cycles. She later realized she 'put so much pressure on myself and was so negative and stressing out my body' that the embryos couldn't be healthy.
Trusting your intuition over medical protocols can be the key decision that changes everything.
Liz, who claimed she didn't possess intuition, listened to her gut feeling that another IVF round 'didn't feel right' at 42. She took a break against conventional wisdom about age and time pressure, then conceived naturally within 3 weeks.
The difference between struggle pregnancies and peaceful pregnancies is the mindset you bring to them.
Liz had the exact opposite reaction to her third pregnancy at 42 - instead of doom and panic like her previous pregnancies, she felt immediate peace and knew they would be okay. She had the 'easiest, greatest pregnancy' and perfect baby Betty.
Multiple abnormal embryos through IVF doesn't mean you can't conceive a healthy baby naturally.
Liz produced no normal embryos through two IVF cycles at 41-42, yet conceived naturally and had a healthy baby girl Betty. This proves that IVF lab results don't determine natural conception potential.
Living your life for yourself rather than others is foundational to becoming the mother you want to be.
Liz realized she had 'never framed my own life that way' - living for herself rather than others. She said this transformation was crucial because 'thank goodness I wasn't still that person with a baby' as it would impact her mothering.
Worthiness issues from earlier relationships directly impact fertility journey outcomes and decision-making patterns.
▶ 10:51The way you do one thing is the way you do everything - relationship patterns will show up in your fertility journey.
▶ 11:54Running to medical intervention first without checking in with yourself often stems from a foundation of feeling inadequate.
▶ 14:29Perfect labs and young biological markers don't guarantee IVF success when operating from a negative mindset.
▶ 15:40Trusting your intuition over medical protocols can be the key decision that changes everything.
▶ 27:12The difference between struggle pregnancies and peaceful pregnancies is the mindset you bring to them.
▶ 29:52Multiple abnormal embryos through IVF doesn't mean you can't conceive a healthy baby naturally.
▶ 33:09Living your life for yourself rather than others is foundational to becoming the mother you want to be.
▶ 22:09“If you have abnormal embryos through IVF, you can't conceive a healthy baby naturally”
CONSIDER: IVF lab results don't determine your natural conception potential - multiple abnormal embryos can be followed by healthy natural conception
“Age 42 means you need to rush into more aggressive treatment, not take breaks”
CONSIDER: Trusting your intuition about what feels right, even taking breaks, can be more powerful than age-driven urgency
“The way we do one thing is the way we do everything. So if you feel all fucked up about whether or not somebody could love you, how would that not translate into questions about whether or not you wanna have a baby or whether you're worthy of having a baby with ease?”
“I was so convinced that I couldn't have a healthy pregnancy on my own that even when it happened, I was like, oh, no. This is just gonna end badly.”
“I put so much pressure on myself and I was so negative and stressing out my body. There was no way that those embryos could be healthy because everything that I was putting them through was negative.”
“If your intuition is leading you somewhere else, then go with that. And I was like, you know what? Yes. I'm able to do that. I can make that decision.”
“You are enough. And if you want a baby, you can have a baby and you will have a baby. But you can't come at it from a mindset of control and work and tasks.”
“I would have told you that my being does not possess intuition. Like, I don't that's not something that is, like, in my soul, in my being. It's just not who I am.”
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