Learning to Receive

Men experience fertility struggles differently - living in the moment of devastation rather than carrying it 24/7 like women do

Adam describes feeling devastated in moments of receiving bad news from treatment centers, but not carrying the trauma constantly like Katie did with hormones and physical treatments affecting her body daily.

Strong women on fertility journeys struggle to ask for help because they see procreation as 'fundamentally a woman's job' and asking for help feels like admitting failure

Jon observed that successful women like Kirsty find it especially hard to ask for help with fertility because 'women are on this earth to procreate' and when they can't do it naturally, asking for help feels like admitting they're failing at their biological purpose.

Your achievements are not tied to your self-worth - you don't have to earn your worthiness through fertility success

Linda struggled with needing to achieve having a baby with her own eggs, but when she let herself be vulnerable and use donor eggs, her partner admired her sacrifice and their relationship deepened

Learning to receive help and let people support you is crucial for fertility success - stop fighting the process

Kara initially resisted IVF because others conceived naturally, but learned to receive help from doctors and her community, leading to successful IVF pregnancy after failed IUIs.

Learning to receive is as important as learning to give - you have to believe you're worth good things happening to you

Louise transformed from automatically saying 'oh, you shouldn't have done that' when receiving gifts to saying 'that's lovely, thank you very much' and recognizing she deserves good things, which extended to receiving her pregnancy.

Being a good steward of your blessings is more powerful than acting from fear of loss

Instead of saying 'I can't have caffeine because I'm afraid of losing the babies,' Ellie reframed it as 'I choose to be a good steward of this double blessing.' This mindset carried her through a successful twin pregnancy.

You must be in the vibration of what you desire to receive it - act as if it's already here

Maria moved her bed to make room for the bassinet before conceiving, practiced being a wife before marriage, and made space for baby items before they arrived - all manifestations showed up including a Moses basket from a high school friend she hadn't spoken to in 14 years.

Reconnecting with friends who are pregnant or new mothers, rather than avoiding them, can serve as powerful preparation for your own motherhood journey

After distancing herself from pregnant friends, Samana actively reached out again and used their experiences as learning opportunities rather than sources of pain, which helped her prepare mentally for motherhood.

When you surrender to receiving help and stop resisting IVF, success rates dramatically improve

Jamie heard another client's story about failing IVF because she wasn't in the right headspace. This prompted Jamie to fully accept IVF help, leading to 42 eggs retrieved, 14 blasts, 10 perfect embryos, and twins from her first transfer.

Approaching fertility treatment with an 'open hand' instead of an 'iron fist' creates lightness and receiving mode rather than desperation

Dr. Caroline's successful transfer happened when she approached it thinking 'if this isn't the time, that's okay, but if it comes, I'm here for it' rather than feeling her whole life hung in the balance.

Treatment shame blocks your ability to receive help and conceive your baby

Anne spent years hiding from being seen at fertility clinics, feeling like she didn't belong there, which blocked her from being open to treatment. Only when she released this shame and became an engaged participant did she conceive and reach 21 weeks pregnant.

Following rigid fertility rules and tracking can create stress that blocks conception

Yulia used ovulation sticks, temperature charting, and scientific tracking for months without success. She conceived naturally the month she stopped all tracking and just enjoyed her life and relationship.

You must forgive yourself and address self-worth before you can receive your baby

Tran received a voice in the shower telling her to forgive herself, which she initially didn't understand until she realized she was blocking her own ability to receive due to feelings of unworthiness.

The prove-it orientation, fear orientation, lone wolf 'I can do it all myself' approach is old school, broken down, and proven ineffective

Austin emphasizes that no matter how long someone has been on their journey, they have never tried conceiving from the place of receptivity, receiving, and regulation

Women are no longer tolerating isolation on the fertility journey and understand that asking for help is not a signal of weakness

Previous podcast episodes have covered the power of community and biological impact of support, showing that women who build support systems rather than struggling alone achieve better outcomes.

High-achieving women fall back on self-reliance because they got themselves through advanced education, but this isolates them on the fertility journey

Women who succeeded in medical school or law school think 'I don't need anybody else' but this shuts them off from real emotional needs they have on the fertility journey.

Oxytocin is released in positive social interactions and counteracts cortisol while promoting healthy ovulation and helping you rest and receive—your ability to rest and receive opens you up to conceive

Research in the Journal of Assisted Reproduction and Genetics showed higher perceived social support correlates with lower anxiety and higher psychological resilience in women going through IVF.

Women with high social support show much higher fertility-related quality of life and better outcomes than those in isolation

A 2019 study from Frontiers in Psychology showed women with strong community during fertility treatments had lower cortisol, and women with lower cortisol had higher rates of conception

Community creates emotional protection and a sense of belonging that increases oxytocin, which counterbalances cortisol and supports hormonal harmony

Research shows that a sense of belonging increases oxytocin production, and oxytocin can counterbalance cortisol while helping regulate the nervous system

Bitterness blocks your baby - the more time you spend in gratitude, the more open you become to receiving the good coming for you

Women sitting in corners saying 'nothing works out for me' cannot be open to receiving their babies, while those who cultivate gratitude develop the receptivity needed for conception.

High-achieving women must learn boundaries and asking for support before becoming mothers to avoid burning out their bandwidth

Rachel explains she now has someone prepare her food and sets boundaries with projects, noting that mothers have limited bandwidth and must choose priorities rather than trying to handle everything themselves

Conceiving is fundamentally about receiving - it requires opening your heart, mind, and body to create something entirely new and be vulnerable to change

Rosanne worked with her Fearlessly Conceived mastermind group of carefully selected women who transformed from struggling with limitations to living extraordinary lives with expanding businesses and families.

The courage to change internally becomes a catalyst that creates the courage to conceive - they are directly linked through your willingness to be open

Women in Rosanne's Fearlessly Conceived mastermind program transformed from their beginning-of-year identities to becoming women who could receive on physical, mental and spiritual levels within the 10-month intensive program.

Fear-based behaviors like pinching every resource and holding on to what you have actually block conception - courage requires opening your heart despite uncertainty

Rosanne observed that women who face setbacks on their fertility journey often shut down and become afraid, wanting to hold onto what they have left instead of opening up to receive what they want.

You attract partners at the level of your own self-awareness and willingness to receive love

Chia spent years choosing the wrong men until age 44 when she learned to take full responsibility for her relationship patterns and became willing to receive proper treatment from the right man

Partners need to learn through communication what support actually looks like rather than assuming they know

Adam learned that Katie needed him present in the room during panic attacks, not necessarily physical touch, and that what he thought was right wasn't always right - requiring ongoing communication and adjustment.

Small acts of support and repeatedly asking how to help can make huge differences for women on fertility journeys, even when they initially refuse help

Jon's simple acts like making difficult phone calls to fertility clinics and advocating during medical appointments became 'one of the biggest things' he did for Kirsty during their journey.

Conceiving is all about receiving, and if you're not conceiving, the reality is you're not open to receiving

Through eleven years of coaching thousands of women across hundreds of hours of teaching, Rosanne has seen that women who shift from over-giving and under-receiving to openness create fertility breakthroughs.

Your ability to receive comes from a deep conviction that you are worthy of having what you want, but 95% of your unconscious program may not believe that

Many women have unconscious programs running that receiving is greedy or selfish, or that anything they do for themselves takes away from their family, which blocks them from receiving their baby.

If you make receiving wrong, you will block what you want because the 95% unconscious program is working against you

Very smart women unconsciously block their success every day, which is why women do Rosanne's programs to change the way they live, think, believe, perceive and receive on multiple levels.

Conceiving is all about receiving, and women with poverty mindset tend to be the worst receivers

This connects to the previous episode on poverty vs abundance mindset - if you don't believe you deserve good care or investment in your dreams, you limit your ability to conceive.

Mother Teresa exemplifies abundance mindset despite taking a vow of poverty - she could call any CEO and borrow their plane because she knew how to receive

She demonstrates that abundance mindset isn't about having money but about knowing you can get whatever you need by asking for it and being open to receiving.

Make a list of 25 things that bring you peace and identify any negative associations with them to catch when you talk yourself out of peace

Many women associate taking naps with being lazy, preventing them from choosing rest when they need peace during their fertility journey.

Give yourself permission to make mistakes and change your mind about holiday boundaries

Rosanne encourages: 'give yourself permission to probably make a few mistakes... That's how we get better. That's how we get to know ourselves better' and reminds that 'as women, we have the right to change our minds at all times.'

Jealousy at its core is something you are denying yourself - it's all about what you allow yourself to have or receive

Rosanne explains that when women are jealous of others doing IVF or conceiving naturally, they're actually denying themselves those same opportunities through their own limiting stories.

Conceiving is all about receiving, so jealousy reveals what you're not allowing yourself to receive on your journey

This connects to Rosanne's repeated teaching across episodes that women succeed when they stop denying themselves opportunities and become resourceful in figuring out solutions.

Learning to receive rather than strive is essential for fertility success

Elise shifted from working extremely hard and trying hundreds of supplements to trusting intuitive guidance, which led to her successful conception at 45 after years of struggle and multiple treatment failures.

Fertility yoga creates spaciousness where magic happens - you need space around experiences and thoughts to be receptive

Kerry describes how surrender created spaciousness in her body and mind that allowed natural conception after 2.5 years of failed treatments

Transitioning from masculine control energy to feminine receptive energy transforms relationships and outcomes

Chrissie went from trying to protect her husband and do everything herself to expressing her desires clearly, asking for fresh flowers, and allowing him to plan surprise dates, which strengthened their relationship and her ability to receive.

The dreams that matter most are worthy of respect - get fucking help instead of trying to do everything alone

Rosanne is on a mission to help 100,000 women have babies through her methodology. Nobody who creates real success does it completely alone.

Your bedroom should be a place you feel proud of - where you may conceive your baby, sleep during pregnancy, and bring your newborn

Women who make upgrades to their beds and bedroom environments consistently report feeling more cared for and seeing shifts in how they approach their entire fertility journey.

Conceiving is all about receiving - the feminine is the part of us that is open to receive and conceive

Rosanne has taught this principle across 281+ podcast episodes and through her methodology that has helped women around the world make their mom dreams come true.

If you're not leveraging your feminine and her innate baby making ability, that's like trying to walk with one fucking leg

Rosanne explains that your body's gotta be open, your heart's gotta be open to receive this baby and carry it for forty weeks - the feminine is instrumental and the essence of what brings baby to you.

Learn to receive more and say no to people who don't deserve your energy

Rocky, now 20 weeks pregnant through donor eggs after trying since 2019, learned to set boundaries and focus only on relationships that truly matter to her.

Asking for help is not weakness—it's one of the key signs of strength and leadership

Natalia struggled to accept help postpartum until she realized her husband managed their move and household better than she would have, allowing her to be more present with her children

Women who've achieved success in other areas often struggle most with asking for help during postpartum challenges

Suzy, despite being Miss Arab America and a successful actress, felt she should naturally know how to be a mother and was embarrassed to admit she didn't even know when to push during delivery.

Fertility requires embracing feminine energy of receiving rather than masculine energy of achieving and controlling

Dr. D'Eramo conceived twice naturally, including at almost 45, after letting go of white-knuckling her way through fertility. Rosanne conceived naturally at 43 after 7 years of struggle when she stopped trying to out-medicate and out-diet her internal state.

Conceiving is all about receiving, but women are taught to fight and be perfect rather than lean back and receive

Rosanne conceived naturally at almost 44 after 7 years of struggle when she stopped white-knuckling her fertility journey. Dr. D'Eramo conceived at almost 45 when she moved from white-knuckling self-healing to asking what her body needed to rebalance.

Successful women must recognize fertility requires a different skill set—what made you successful in law school won't necessarily work for getting pregnant

Somaya, despite being a top legal recruiter in London, had to learn entirely new ways of thinking, believing, and taking action specifically for her fertility journey.

There's a fundamental difference between wanting a baby from lack versus being ready to receive one - wanting comes from what isn't here, while readiness focuses on preparing for what's to come

Rosanne observed this shift in all successful clients featured on her podcast over 200+ episodes, noting when 'the switch flips' from chasing energy to confident readiness

You must honestly assess whether you'll allow yourself proper support when baby arrives, or if you're setting yourself up for martyrdom Olympics

Rosanne sees this especially in maxed-out professionals (physicians, lawyers, teachers, nurses, engineers, scientists) who tell themselves they're too tired but won't get help

Conceiving is all about receiving - you must unfuck your feminine and reconnect with your ability to receive support, love, and what you need to succeed

Women have been trained to take on masculine traits for professional success, divorcing them from their innate feminine energy that's deeply connected to intuition and inner knowing.

When you surrender the idea that your baby has to come a certain way and say 'whatever it takes, I'm ready,' you eliminate saboteur stories and open to your baby's plan

Tania was approved for donor eggs and ready to proceed when she discovered she was pregnant naturally - her surrender and openness to any path allowed her miracle to unfold.

Walk in your femininity and practice receiving - receive help in business, support from your partner, assistance from your team instead of being superwoman

Tania shifted from being superwoman doing everything herself to receiving help and support, which aligned her with feminine receptivity and contributed to her natural conception.

Don't abandon your seed in moments of despair - call on support to hold you up when faith wavers

When Alicia Couri was considering abortion due to severe morning sickness during her pregnancy with Elijah, she called a friend to pray for her and reminded herself 'you prayed, you believed, and you received - don't abandon your seed now.'

You must be ready to receive what you're praying for, or you will subconsciously block it

Claire hit rock bottom before finding Rosanne's book, transformed her mindset from focusing on problems to solutions, and only then achieved success after years of treatment failures.

The biggest side effects of being a fertility patient are depression, PTSD, and anxiety - not physical complications

Dr. Eyvazzadeh now automatically recommends therapy and coaching support, scheduling appointments to coincide with test results and cycle updates, recognizing the mental health impact exceeds physical risks.

Take care of yourself as if you're already pregnant - you're worth it right now, not just when you conceive

Dr. Eyvazzadeh sees patients hurting themselves with poor nutrition, excessive drinking, and neglect while waiting to get pregnant, emphasizing self-care and manifestation as part of treatment.

Learning from other program members' experiences can provide the exact guidance needed for your own breakthrough

Samana connected with Mariette, another program graduate who had a similar first transfer failure, and Mariette's advice to 'just be you' became the key insight for Samana's successful second cycle.

Hiding truth from your partner isn't the smart play - it's the chicken shit play. There's nothing safe or smart about that.

Type A control freak women take on responsibility for everyone thinking it's safer, when this journey is exactly the time to allow yourself to receive support.

Ask for what you want or more - gratitude shouldn't make you small

Kate was using gratitude to diminish her desires, feeling greedy for wanting a baby when she had other blessings, until she learned to embrace abundance.

You must stop blocking opportunities if you want your baby to get here

Anne realized she was blocking IVF and other treatments due to wanting to conceive naturally. When she surrendered to all possibilities and stopped judging how her baby would arrive, she conceived and reached 21 weeks pregnant.

Professional women often struggle to ask for help because they're used to solving everything themselves

Anne, a successful professional, initially resisted getting help because she was used to solving workplace problems independently. Only when she hit rock bottom did she reach out for fertility mindset coaching.

Conceiving is about receiving, not forcing or controlling

Yulia discovered that conception happened when she stopped trying to control every aspect and created space to receive. She conceived naturally during her move to Berlin when focused on living fully rather than fertility metrics.

High-achieving women often need to learn to receive for the first time in a long time to conceive

Many of Rosanne's clients are professionals at the top of their game who give so much to others that they realize 'if mama's gonna conceive, she's got to receive.'

Conceiving is all about receiving - when you receive, you are telling God, universe, source, I trust you to provide

This principle guided Rosanne's own natural conception at 43 and is fundamental to the mindset work that helps women in her program succeed where medical treatment alone has failed.

When you become really good at receiving, you become a master at giving

This principle is central to Rosanne's work with women who learn to receive support and invest in themselves, which then allows them to show up powerfully for their fertility journey and future families.

Reserve time during the holiday season that is exclusively for you with no explanations, no apologies, and no guilt

Rosanne calls this 'a ninja move, a queen move, a lady boss move' and shares her own example of sneaking down to the Rotunda restaurant at Neiman Marcus in San Francisco during her fertility journey, which felt like being Holly Golightly in front of Tiffany's.

Your bra sits over your heart chakra, so wearing an unsupportive or old bra means you don't think you deserve to be supported

Morgan Wider teaches that investing in beautiful lingerie honors your femininity and the parts of your body that will make your baby, connecting physical support to emotional self-worth.

Building your support team is an investment in yourself, not a luxury - surround yourself with people who believe in your vision.

Anne Marie invested in a mindset coach, acupuncturist, personal trainer, nutritionist, and support group of women going through fertility challenges - creating her 'bump squad' that supported her success.

The real health and wellness journey begins with yourself in the mirror and learning how to love in the mirror

Dr. Kiltz teaches that self-love creates a vibration that attracts the tools and alignment needed for fertility success, based on his experience with over 20,000 births.

Conceiving is fundamentally about receiving, not achieving—type A women must learn to soften into receptivity while maintaining their power

Rosanne explains how her own disconnection from femininity made her see her body as 'a pile of parts' during fertility struggles, and reconnecting with feminine energy transformed both her fertility journey and mothering ability

You can surrender how and when conception happens while maintaining your desire—surrendering doesn't mean giving up your dream

Rosanne clarifies that surrender means releasing control over timing and method while staying committed to the outcome, distinguishing this from the harmful advice to 'just relax and it will happen'

High-achieving women often sabotage themselves by thinking they must do the fertility journey alone, but it requires entirely different skills

Type A women dominate in their professions and executive roles, but succeeding on fertility journey with real challenges requires an entirely different skill set that must be learned

Living by hell yes or hell no removes other people's baggage from your life and creates authentic relationships based on choice, not obligation

Rosanne teaches: 'You will also notice that your life isn't so cluttered with other people's baggage when you live by hell yes and hell no... Everyone gets free from ridiculous juvenile expectations to be compliant... you'll come together knowing that whatever you're doing is from a place of loving choice, not obligation.'

Creating hierarchies between different types of love blocks us from experiencing unconditional love and attracts what we desire most

Cam, who followed Rosanne's approach through her book and podcast, conceived after three years of trying on her second IUI by applying these mindset principles about receiving love.

The relationship with our animals provides rich preparation for the patience, tenacity, compassion, and pure love needed in relationships with children

Rosanne's own experience with her chihuahuas and chocolate lab Jake taught her maternal skills that prepared her for conceiving naturally at 43 after years of treatment failure.

Blocking love that feeds your soul and nurtures your heart prevents you from putting one foot in front of the other on your fertility journey

During Rosanne's darkest fertility moments, her chihuahuas Tiberias and Diego would lie in bed with her as she nursed disappointment and heartbreak, providing the emotional support that kept her going until her natural conception at 43.

The more love you let in, the brighter you shine like a beacon waving that baby straight home to you

Cam's success story demonstrates this principle - by following Rosanne's approach of receiving love fully while maintaining her fertility goal, she conceived after three long years on her second IUI.

Seeing your own value leads to worthy choices and a full life instead of self-sabotage

When Rosanne saw her own value, she stopped making saboteur choices, stopped being chintzy, and stopped denying herself the things she desired.

Learning to mother yourself and receive feminine nurturing is essential preparation for becoming a mother to your baby

Rosanne realized she needed to learn softness and mothering from mentors since she was raised by a woman in her masculine, and this self-mothering was key to conceiving Asher naturally at 43.

Conceiving is fundamentally about receiving both physically and metaphorically - the metaphorical aspect is what creates major blocks between women and their babies

Rosanne conceived naturally at 43 after years of treatment failure once she opened herself to receiving coaching and support, demonstrating how addressing receiving blocks led to immediate incremental results.

Most women set arbitrary limits on what they allow themselves to receive - only if it's covered by insurance, not too far, within a certain price range, not too weird, or they can DIY it

Rosanne identified these exact patterns in her own journey and in the incredibly accomplished women she coaches who literally paint themselves into corners, blocking support that could help them get results faster and smarter.

Type A, control freak, high-achieving women are particularly susceptible to blocking receiving because they're so used to doing things on their own and their way

As a recovering type A control freak herself, Rosanne was so caught up in doing everything herself that it wasn't until things went far off the rails that she realized getting help made sense, leading to her natural conception at 43.

Opening yourself to receiving coaching and education can lead to faster and more effective results than trying to figure it out alone

Rosanne's results spoke for themselves - years of treatment failure until she received coaching support, then natural conception at 43. She also applied this principle to birth her bestselling book by hiring an amazing team and going number one internationally.

The same principles that help women receive what they need to conceive also apply to other major goals and dreams

Rosanne broke down the blocks between herself and her son using the same approach she later used for her book - hiring support and allowing herself to receive help, resulting in both her natural conception at 43 and an internationally bestselling book.

Having a coach and getting mentorship to see beyond the confines of your comfort zone is critical for getting results faster and smarter

Rosanne credits her coaches and mentors for helping her see beyond the walls she built around herself, enabling her to become a bestselling author with clients worldwide and conceive her son Asher at 43.

Struggle is not a prerequisite for receiving what you want

Melissa realized she believed she had to struggle to be worthy of motherhood based on her childhood conditioning. After working through this block, she found joy and became 'the happiest I've ever been' before conceiving naturally.

The process doesn't have to suck — you can find joy and fun even in the midst of fertility treatments

Chrissie transformed her experience by asking her husband for surprise Friday night dates, saying yes to invitations again, and making her final transfer a celebration with music and intention rather than a medical procedure to endure.

The village is for the mother, not the baby - children need connections with their parents more than anyone else

Suzy reframes the saying 'it takes a village to raise a child,' explaining that healthy attachment with parents is most important for children, while the village exists to support the exhausted mother.

Donor egg decisions become simple when reframed as receiving a gift from a loving woman rather than creating drama about what it means

Rosanne teaches that the complexity around donor eggs dissolves when viewed as 'receiving a gift from a beautiful woman that is so loving and open enough to give me her eggs.'

Receiving love should be about 'yes, and' rather than either/or propositions - allowing all forms of love to coexist and nurture us

Rosanne demonstrates this through her own journey, receiving love from her pets during her darkest fertility moments while remaining open to her future child, ultimately conceiving naturally at 43.

Holiday joy does not require martyrdom—you cannot give from an empty cup

Everyone knows the martyr who ends up hating everyone because their needs are never met, constantly bitching and complaining—you don't want to be that person.