Rosanne shares a transformational three-word question that can revolutionize your fertility journey: 'Is this true for me?' This simple inquiry helps women reclaim their power, think critically about treatments and advice, and avoid wasting time and money on approaches that aren't right for their unique situation.
Rosanne describes how the fertility journey hits you with a relentless fire hose of information, statistics, and conflicting advice. Even medical professionals struggle with this overwhelming influx of data, leading most women to hand over their power and follow the path of least resistance.
The simple but powerful question 'Is this true for me?' helps women reclaim their critical thinking skills and evaluate whether advice applies to their unique situation. This question requires courage because it presupposes you deserve individualized consideration.
Despite being successful professionals, women across all fields abandon their analytical skills on fertility journeys. Rosanne's practice includes physicians worldwide who struggle with their own fertility decisions, proving this phenomenon affects everyone.
The question serves as a barrier against taking on other people's horror stories and irrelevant statistics. It slows down your thought process to prevent unnecessary emotional overwhelm while keeping you focused on what actually matters for your journey.
“Simple. She starts with a three word question. Is this true? Then, because she is a badass, she dresses it up. She makes that question transformational by adding two clutch words. For me. Is this true for me?”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 2:23
Ask yourself one simple question before accepting any advice: 'Is this true for me?' This helps you evaluate whether information applies to your unique situation rather than blindly following what worked for others.
“I don't care who I'm talking to. Lawyers, bankers, physicians, women of power all over the world. For some reason, there's something about this journey that has us toss our critical thinking skills right out the window.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 3:59
There's something about the fertility journey that causes even successful professionals to abandon their critical thinking skills. This happens to lawyers, bankers, physicians, and women of power worldwide when facing fertility challenges.
“It doesn't fucking matter what worked for twenty other people who are nothing like you. Women who beat the odds are focused on what's right for them, their unique situation.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 4:19
Ask 'Is this true for me?' before starting any treatment. This question helps you evaluate whether an approach fits your unique circumstances rather than following what worked for others who may be nothing like you.
“Consider this question your barrier against bullshit. Not only is this question practical due to its intelligent inquiry, It literally slows your thought process down so you can really evaluate the information presented, thereby keeping the freak out quotient down.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 6:45
Use 'Is this true for me?' as a filter for freak out and barrier against bullshit. Ask yourself what someone else's story has to do with your unique situation - often the answer is nothing.
“Quick pro tip, you, my love, are the best arbiter of whether something is true or not true for you. It's in your soul and has no educational prerequisite.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 2:47
No, you are the best arbiter of what's true for you. This wisdom is in your soul and has no educational prerequisite. Even doctors struggle with decisions on their own fertility journeys.
“Now here's a funny thing about this question. It takes ovaries of steel to ask it. When you ask it, the presupposition is that you are worthy of something more than a cursory consideration.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 5:11
It takes ovaries of steel to ask because it presupposes you're worthy of more than cursory consideration. It means your unique circumstances matter and puts everyone on notice that you're discerning.
A simple framework for critically evaluating fertility advice and treatments using the question 'Is this true for me?'
Ask the Base Question
When presented with any fertility advice, treatment, or statistic, start by asking 'Is this true?'
Add the Personal Element
Make it transformational by adding 'for me' - 'Is this true for me?' This personalizes the inquiry to your unique situation.
Evaluate Honestly
Take time to really consider whether this information applies to your specific circumstances, diagnosis, and goals.
Act on Your Assessment
If it's true for you, take it on and rock it out. If it's not true for you, own your 'hell no' without explanation or guilt.
Continue Using the Filter
Keep using this question throughout your journey to stay in control of your fertility destiny and avoid wasting time and money on irrelevant approaches.
The transformational question 'Is this true for me?' empowers women to think critically about fertility advice and treatments instead of blindly following what others recommend
Rosanne conceived naturally at 43 after years of fertility treatment failure by learning to evaluate what was actually right for her unique situation rather than following generic protocols.
Women on fertility journeys often abandon their critical thinking skills despite being successful professionals in other areas of their lives
Rosanne's coaching practice is loaded with physicians from around the world who struggle with decision-making on their own fertility journeys, proving that medical training doesn't exempt women from this phenomenon.
You are the best arbiter of whether something is true for you - this wisdom is in your soul and has no educational prerequisite
Rosanne herself tried extreme measures like boiling black chickens and steaming her vagina before learning to trust her own judgment about what would actually help her conceive.
Women who beat the odds focus on what's right for them and their unique situation, not cookie-cutter shotgun approaches
Rosanne conceived naturally at 43 despite years of treatment failure by getting laser focused on what would actually help her rather than trying everything that worked for other people.
Asking 'Is this true for me?' requires ovaries of steel because it presupposes you are worthy of more than cursory consideration
This question puts everyone on notice that you are discerning and expect attention to be paid to your unique circumstances, which many women struggle to demand in medical settings.
This question serves as a filter for freak out and a barrier against bullshit from other people's horror stories
Rather than taking on the story of someone's uncle's sister's hairstylist who underwent fifteen rounds of IVF and went broke, you can ask what that has to do with your unique situation.
The question literally slows your thought process down so you can evaluate information and keep the freak out quotient down
This practical approach helps women avoid taking on other people's misery and making it somehow true for them, reducing unnecessary emotional overwhelm on an already challenging journey.
The transformational question 'Is this true for me?' empowers women to think critically about fertility advice and treatments instead of blindly following what others recommend
▶ 2:23Women on fertility journeys often abandon their critical thinking skills despite being successful professionals in other areas of their lives
▶ 3:59You are the best arbiter of whether something is true for you - this wisdom is in your soul and has no educational prerequisite
▶ 2:47Women who beat the odds focus on what's right for them and their unique situation, not cookie-cutter shotgun approaches
▶ 4:31Asking 'Is this true for me?' requires ovaries of steel because it presupposes you are worthy of more than cursory consideration
▶ 5:11This question serves as a filter for freak out and a barrier against bullshit from other people's horror stories
▶ 6:45The question literally slows your thought process down so you can evaluate information and keep the freak out quotient down
▶ 7:07“You should follow expert advice and do what everyone tells you to do on your fertility journey”
CONSIDER: You are the best arbiter of what's true for you and should critically evaluate all advice through the lens of your unique situation
“Statistics and other people's outcomes determine what will happen to you”
CONSIDER: Statistics are not law, and other people's horror stories have nothing to do with your unique journey
“You need medical training or expert knowledge to know what's right for your fertility journey”
CONSIDER: Your inner wisdom about what's true for you exists in your soul and has no educational prerequisite
“Is this true for me?”
“You, my love, are the best arbiter of whether something is true or not true for you. It's in your soul and has no educational prerequisite.”
“It doesn't fucking matter what worked for twenty other people who are nothing like you.”
“It takes ovaries of steel to ask it.”
“Consider this question your barrier against bullshit.”
“For some reason, there's something about this journey that has us toss our critical thinking skills right out the window.”
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The pain and struggle of your fertility journey disappears once you have your baby in your arms - nothing else matters
Trish, who struggled for years before conceiving her daughter Geordie and is now pregnant again, shares that the relief and magnitude of love outweighs all the grief, sadness and disappointment from the journey.
You are the absolute boss and decision maker of your fertility journey - not the doctors
Diana applied this mindset shift to conceive her son and now has two daughters, ages 2 and 2 months. She uses these same techniques for career decisions and all life choices.
You can discover your dream of motherhood at any age and it's equally valid regardless of timing
Myrna spent 20 years saying she didn't want children, discovered her maternal calling at 42, and successfully became a mother at 45 with one embryo.
External success without fulfilling your deepest purpose leads to persistent emptiness and searching
Myrna achieved international success as a musician, traveled the world, and had career freedom, but felt constantly unsatisfied and kept searching for something until she realized motherhood was her missing piece.
