Rosanne teaches the concept of protecting your peace at all times on your fertility journey. She provides a practical framework for setting boundaries, taking responsibility for your emotional state, and creating a peace-protecting statement to use in challenging situations.
Rosanne introduces the concept of protecting your peace at all times, inspired by Pastor John Gray's teachings. She emphasizes this transcends religious beliefs and speaks directly to quality of life for women on fertility journeys who face challenges from multiple directions.
The core teaching focuses on personal responsibility - that your peace belongs to you, not external circumstances or other people. This means cutting negativity from your life, setting boundaries, and choosing what influences you allow in.
Rosanne provides a three-step framework: deciding you're in charge of your peace, creating a peace protecting statement for difficult situations, and practicing these tools. She connects this boundary-setting to preparation for motherhood advocacy.
“Protect your peace at all times. Bottom line, it means cutting the bullshit out of your life. It means you decide to be the grown up in your life.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 2:54
Start by deciding you're in charge of your peace, not others. Create a peace-protecting statement like 'I love you, but this conversation does nothing for my peace.' Set clear boundaries with people who bring fear or negativity into your life.
“Come up with your peace protecting statement, your PPS, your peace protecting statement. What are you going to say in situations where you've got to protect your peace?”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 7:42
A peace protecting statement (PPS) is a prepared response for when someone disturbs your peace. For example: 'I love you, but this conversation does nothing for my peace. I'm not having it.' It helps you exit negative situations quickly.
“If you wanna live your journey like a woman who succeeds and is standing with her baby at the end of it, you must protect your peace at all times.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 3:04
Peace is essential for living your fertility journey like a woman who succeeds. When you protect your peace, you stop letting outside influences dictate your journey, trust your heart over fear, and maintain the mindset necessary for success.
“This is not about you being better than anyone else or judging anyone. This is about your peace and your responsibility to protect it.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 5:18
Remember this isn't about being better than anyone - it's about protecting your peace. Use clear, loving statements like 'I love you, but this conversation doesn't serve my peace.' Focus on your responsibility to yourself, not judging others.
“Your peace is your responsibility, my darlings. A critical aspect of protecting your peace is embracing the fact that your peace is your responsibility.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 4:17
It means you take control of your thoughts, beliefs, and boundaries instead of letting circumstances dictate your emotional state. You choose what influences to allow in your life and stop taking on other people's fear about your fertility journey.
“This is great training for being a mom because you damn sure are not gonna allow people to talk crazy to your kid.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 8:53
Setting boundaries and protecting your peace during fertility treatment trains you for motherhood because you'll need to advocate for your child. You won't allow people to speak negatively to your child, just like you won't accept negativity about your fertility journey.
A three-step framework for maintaining emotional stability and boundaries during fertility treatment
Decide you're in charge of your peace
Make the conscious decision that you are responsible for your peace, not your partner, friends, family, or anyone else. As a grown woman, you will be the arbiter of your peace and won't shirk that responsibility.
Create your peace protecting statement (PPS)
Develop what you'll say when your peace is disturbed. Example: 'I love you, but this conversation does nothing for my peace. I'm not having it.' Be prepared so you don't show up ill-equipped to protect your boundaries.
Share and practice
Text this episode to someone who could benefit and practice using your peace protecting statement. Be willing to get it wrong and swing the proverbial bat - you need to be ready to exit when situations become negative.
Protecting your peace at all times is essential for living your fertility journey like a woman who succeeds
Rosanne conceived naturally at 43 after years of treatment failure by implementing mindset principles including peace protection, and now coaches women across six continents using these same strategies.
Your peace is your responsibility - not your partner's, friends', family's, or anyone else's
Through coaching thousands of women worldwide, Rosanne has observed that peace on the fertility journey starts with what you choose to allow in your life, requiring personal ownership rather than external validation.
Protecting your peace means cutting the bullshit out of your life and deciding to be the grown up in your life
Rosanne transformed from a type-A control freak perfectionist to conceiving naturally at 43 by implementing these boundary-setting principles, which she now teaches to help women take control of their fertility journeys.
Peace is a choice, peace is priceless, and peace is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself on this journey
Pastor John Gray's teaching on protecting peace transcends religious beliefs and speaks to quality of life, which Rosanne adapted specifically for women on fertility journeys who need clear strategies for emotional stability.
You must create a peace protecting statement (PPS) to use when your peace is being disturbed
Rosanne developed this practical tool after recognizing that women need concrete language strategies to maintain boundaries, exemplifying with 'I love you, but this conversation does nothing for my peace. I'm not having it.'
Setting peace-protecting boundaries is excellent training for motherhood because you won't allow people to talk crazy to your child
Rosanne connects fertility journey boundary-setting to future parenting skills, noting that women who learn to protect their peace during fertility treatment are better equipped to advocate for their children later.
If people around you speak fear, negativity, jealousy, and comparison, it's your responsibility to tell them you don't want any part of that mess
Through her work with thousands of women globally, Rosanne has identified that taking responsibility for cutting off negative influences is crucial for maintaining the mindset necessary for fertility success.
Protecting your peace at all times is essential for living your fertility journey like a woman who succeeds
▶ 2:54Your peace is your responsibility - not your partner's, friends', family's, or anyone else's
▶ 4:17Protecting your peace means cutting the bullshit out of your life and deciding to be the grown up in your life
▶ 3:34Peace is a choice, peace is priceless, and peace is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself on this journey
▶ 6:19You must create a peace protecting statement (PPS) to use when your peace is being disturbed
▶ 7:42Setting peace-protecting boundaries is excellent training for motherhood because you won't allow people to talk crazy to your child
▶ 8:53If people around you speak fear, negativity, jealousy, and comparison, it's your responsibility to tell them you don't want any part of that mess
▶ 4:27“External circumstances and other people determine your peace and emotional state on your fertility journey”
CONSIDER: Your peace is your responsibility and you have complete control over protecting it regardless of outside influences
“Setting boundaries with family and friends about fertility conversations makes you judgmental or holier-than-thou”
CONSIDER: Protecting your peace through boundaries is about your responsibility to yourself, not about being better than anyone else
“Protect your peace at all times.”
“Your peace is your responsibility, my darlings.”
“Bottom line, it means cutting the bullshit out of your life.”
“Peace is a choice. Peace is priceless. Peace is one of the greatest gifts you can give you on this journey.”
“How the fuck can you call in a miracle if you don't believe in them?”
“I love you, but this conversation does nothing for my peace. I'm not having it.”
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