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Teaching2020-08-24·13 min

EP78 Thank GUS For No: The Divine Delay

EP78 Thank GUS For No: The Divine Delay

Rosanne teaches the concept of the 'divine delay' - how the 'no's' and setbacks on your fertility journey are actually blessings redirecting you toward necessary growth. She challenges listeners to find gratitude for delays and see them as opportunities to become the mother their future baby needs.

Reframing the 'No' on Your Fertility Journey

Rosanne challenges the common reaction to setbacks and introduces the concept of seeing delays as detours in the right direction. She explains how settling for negative interpretations is allowing your reptilian brain to run the show instead of seeking the deeper meaning.

The Divine Delay Explained

The divine delay is when the universe steps in to slow things down so you can work on something important. Rosanne shares her personal experience of being grateful that her son didn't come when she first wanted him, because she had so much growth to do first.

Why Growth Comes Before Baby

Rosanne explains that if you stay exactly as you've always been, you'll never become the mother you want to be. She emphasizes that big plans for your baby require big growth for mom, and the delays often facilitate this necessary transformation.

The Practical Exercise for Finding Lessons

Rosanne provides a specific three-step exercise for finding gratitude in setbacks: reflecting on all the 'no's' you've received, creating a list of 25 setbacks with their corresponding lessons, and sharing the message with others who need to hear it.

Questions This Episode Answers

What is the divine delay in fertility journeys

The divine delay, at least how I see it, is Gus, god universe source, stepping in and saying, hey, doll. We're gonna pump the brakes for just a second. I've got something for you to work on. I'm looking out for you. Trust me.

Rosanne Austin2:26

The divine delay is when setbacks and 'no's' on your fertility journey are actually the universe stepping in to help you grow into the mother your baby needs you to be. It's about seeing delays as blessings rather than roadblocks.

How to find gratitude for fertility setbacks

grab a piece of paper and make a list of twenty five of them. Yes. Twenty five. For each no or divine delay you have faced, I want you to list the lesson you learned as a result of it.

Rosanne Austin9:08

Make a list of 25 setbacks you've faced and identify the lesson learned from each one. Consider how each delay prepared you to be a better mother and look for the growth opportunities in every 'no' you receive.

Why do fertility delays happen before pregnancy

if you stay the way you've always been, you will never be the mom you actually want to be. We all have dreams of spending as much time as possible with these miracle children. But if you aren't learning patience or you aren't learning good boundaries or you aren't learning how to move beyond the upper limits that you've set for yourself or the old programming that your parents gave you, how the fuck are you ever going to create a better future for your children?

Rosanne Austin6:11

Delays often happen because you need to grow into the mother your baby needs you to be. If you stay the way you've always been, you may repeat old patterns instead of creating the better future you envision for your children.

What does no mean on fertility journey

a no is really a not yet. And let me tell you, like, one of the things that I'm I always share with my ladies is I am grateful for every single moment of my journey

Rosanne Austin4:29

A 'no' is really a 'not yet.' It's not about giving up but about understanding there may be something you need to learn or work on before moving forward. Gratitude for these no's keeps you open to guidance in the right direction.

How mindset affects fertility outcomes

Because remember, thoughts, beliefs, actions, results. You cannot get around it. It's logical and linear.

Rosanne Austin7:34

Mindset follows the sequence: thoughts, beliefs, actions, results. You cannot get around this logical progression. If you don't address what's happening in your mind, you may keep repeating losing patterns even if you have the physical aspects handled.

What to do when fertility treatment fails repeatedly

anyone who actually thinks strategically would be willing to take a step back and ask, hey. Is there something I might not be seeing? Is there a lesson I am missing right now because my ego is in the way.

Rosanne Austin3:27

Ask yourself if there's something you might not be seeing or a lesson you're missing. Take a step back to examine patterns and consider whether your mindset might be creating blocks between you and your baby.

How to Find Gratitude for Fertility Setbacks

A specific exercise to reframe fertility delays as divine delays and find the lessons within each setback

  1. 1

    Reflect on setbacks

    Think about all of the no's you've gotten on this journey. Lovingly consider each one of the setbacks you have faced.

  2. 2

    Create a lessons list

    Grab a piece of paper and make a list of 25 setbacks. Draw a line down the center. On one side, put the setback or divine delay. On the other side, write the lesson you learned as a result of it.

  3. 3

    Share and spread

    Take a screenshot of this podcast and post it to your social media tagging Rosanne. Text the link to someone who might desperately need to hear it.

All Teachings 6

TeachingReframing2:26

The 'divine delay' is when setbacks and 'no's' on your fertility journey are actually the universe stepping in to help you grow into the mother your baby needs you to be

Rosanne conceived naturally at 43 after years of treatment failure and credits the delays with helping her become a better mother: 'If Asher had come to me right when I wanted him to, I would have been the world's fucking worst mother.'

TeachingChallenging1:45

Stopping your consideration of setbacks at just the negative implications is settling for low-hanging fruit that takes zero effort and allows your reptilian brain to run the show

Austin has coached women ages 28-54 across six continents for 12+ years and observes this pattern daily in her Fearlessly Fertile Method program where women discover blocks they didn't know existed.

ReframeEmpowering4:29

A 'no' is really a 'not yet' and gratitude for divine delays keeps your eyes peeled for nudges and pushes in the right direction

Every single client Austin has featured on her podcast found a gear they didn't know they had as a result of changing what they thought and believed, and none of them settled - they demanded the whole enchilada, mind and body.

TeachingChallenging6:11

If you stay the way you've always been, you will never be the mom you actually want to be - big plans for your baby require big growth for mom

Women in Austin's Fearlessly Fertile Method program constantly tell her 'holy fuck, I had no idea I was blocking myself in this way' as they discover blocks and old patterns literally creating barriers between them and their babies.

TeachingEmpowering8:04

Every single client would tell you that the 'no's' they got gave them an opportunity to learn something that proved absolutely critical to their success on this journey

Austin references world-renowned doctors featured on her podcast like Dr. Siegel and Dr. Kiltz, as well as her medical professional clients, who all validate this principle through their own experiences and patient outcomes.

TeachingEmpowering7:34

The fertility journey follows the logical sequence: thoughts, beliefs, actions, results - you cannot get around this linear progression

Austin's methodology has helped women around the world make their mom dreams come true over 12+ years of coaching, with results that speak for themselves as evidenced by her 390+ podcast episodes featuring client success stories.

Episode Tone
1 reframing2 challenging3 empowering

Key Teachings 6

The 'divine delay' is when setbacks and 'no's' on your fertility journey are actually the universe stepping in to help you grow into the mother your baby needs you to be

2:26

Stopping your consideration of setbacks at just the negative implications is settling for low-hanging fruit that takes zero effort and allows your reptilian brain to run the show

1:45

A 'no' is really a 'not yet' and gratitude for divine delays keeps your eyes peeled for nudges and pushes in the right direction

4:29

If you stay the way you've always been, you will never be the mom you actually want to be - big plans for your baby require big growth for mom

6:11

Every single client would tell you that the 'no's' they got gave them an opportunity to learn something that proved absolutely critical to their success on this journey

8:04

The fertility journey follows the logical sequence: thoughts, beliefs, actions, results - you cannot get around this linear progression

7:34

Perspectives 2

Setbacks and delays on your fertility journey are just frustrating roadblocks

CONSIDER: Setbacks are divine delays - detours in the right direction that prepare you to be the mother your baby needs

A 'no' means you should give up or that things aren't working

CONSIDER: A 'no' is really a 'not yet' and keeps you moving forward in the right direction

Quotable Moments

If Asher had come to me right when I wanted him to, I would have been, like, the world's fucking worst mother.

Rosanne Austin5:00

A no is really a not yet.

Rosanne Austin4:49

If you stay the way you've always been, you will never be the mom you actually want to be.

Rosanne Austin6:11

Big plans require big growth for mom.

Rosanne Austin6:52

Thoughts, beliefs, actions, results. You cannot get around it. It's logical and linear.

Rosanne Austin7:34

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