Tracy
2 years journey · Fearlessly Fertile Method
The Transformation
Before
Doubting if she deserved happiness, considering adoption after only 1.5 years, jealous of other pregnancies, blocked by grief from father's death
Key Shift
Learned to recognize and dismiss saboteurs, trusted her intuition about fresh transfer, embraced feminine receptivity and visualization
After
Believing she deserved a child, trusting her gut about medical decisions, using visualization and mindset tools during pregnancy
In summary: Tracy's story demonstrates that fresh transfer success with untested embryo, overcame grief blocks from father's death, and conceived in 8 weeks after mindset work. after a 2 years journey.
Breakthroughs6
Grief can create massive fertility blocks that prevent you from believing you deserve to be happy
Tracy lost her father unexpectedly 3 years before and felt guilt about being happy and having a child he'd never meet, which created blocks until she reframed it as 'how proud he would be' and realized her kids would still know their grandpa through her stories.
▶ 7:22Comparison and jealousy of other people's pregnancies is a major saboteur that keeps you focused on everyone else's story instead of your own
Tracy struggled with jealousy every time someone announced a pregnancy, asking 'why them, why not me' until she learned to remember that not everyone shares their full fertility story and to focus on her own unique journey.
▶ 8:24Trusting your feminine intuition can lead you to treatment options your doctor never discussed
Tracy's doctor always did frozen transfers with PGS tested embryos, but when a nurse casually mentioned fresh transfer as an option, something inside Tracy kept saying 'this is what you need to do' and she conceived with that untested fresh transfer.
▶ 20:15Visualization and creating a physical vision board makes your fertility goals feel real and attainable
Tracy created a vision board with family images, fitness goals, and home goals, and bought a onesie to hang by her medications, creating a relaxing space that helped her visualize being pregnant instead of doubting herself.
▶ 16:40PGS testing may not be necessary and abnormal embryos can still result in healthy babies
Tracy only had 2 normal embryos from 3 retrievals, but conceived with an untested fresh transfer that could have tested abnormal. She now has a letter at her clinic to not discard abnormal embryos because other clinics will transfer them and research shows they can work.
▶ 23:12Going from not believing you deserve happiness to fully owning that you deserve a child is a massive transformation
Tracy went from questioning if she deserved to have a child because her father died and would never meet the baby, to fully believing 'I do deserve this, I do deserve a child' and letting the course of action take place.
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Teachings1
When you learn to recognize saboteurs, you can give them one second and then kick them out
Tracy learned to notice when saboteurs came up and would literally say 'you can have your one second, but after that, you're out' because she didn't have time to listen to thoughts that would change her mind and tell her something wasn't right.
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Reframes1
Femininity isn't about being a girly girl - it's about trusting your body and intuition instead of trying to control everything
Tracy initially resisted the concept of femininity because she lifts weights and isn't girly, but learned that femininity is about mindset - trusting her gut, visualizing herself pregnant, and letting her body take a more natural course versus stress and control.
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Quotable Moments5
“I probably would not be pregnant. I probably would still be upset and jealous and wondering if this is for me truly”
— Tracy16:29“every time I felt one come out, I was like, okay. You can have your one second, but after that, you're you're out”
— Tracy15:37“for some reason, something inside of me just kept saying, this is what you need to do”
— Tracy21:17“I do deserve this. I do need you know, I do deserve a child, and it's just now letting the course of action take place”
— Tracy14:14“you don't know what everyone's been through. So you just have to keep reminding yourself, you know, they could have struggled just as much as you or even longer”
— Tracy9:35