The Pressure to Be Perfect Makes You Lose Your Voice #Fertility #FertilityJourney
Rosanne Austin explores how the pressure to be perfect on the fertility journey causes women to lose their authentic voice and build resentment. She explains how constantly trying to avoid mistakes and inconvenience leads to self-deception and missed opportunities for genuine connection.
Teachings 1
The pressure to be perfect and avoid inconveniencing others causes women to lose their authentic voice during fertility struggles
Women consistently wargame every move to avoid mistakes and inconvenience, leading to self-silencing patterns
Perspectives 2
Constantly keeping things 'neat and tidy' leads to lying to ourselves about what's really happening in our fertility journey
The pattern of self-deception extends to omitting truths from others, which becomes a form of deception
Building resentment toward others often stems from not giving them the chance to show up authentically for us during fertility challenges
Women build anger and disappointment when people around them haven't been given the opportunity to be supportive
Quotable Moments 1
“We put so much pressure on ourselves to be perfect, to not be an inconvenience, to not let people down, to wargame every move that we make so as to not make mistakes, not inconvenience anyone. That it gets to the point where we lose our voice.”
— Rosanne Austin
Questions This Video Answers
Why do I feel resentful toward others during my fertility journey?
“We build up resentment. We build up anger. We build up disappointment with the people around us when the reality is they they might not have even had a chance to be who we want them to be to us on the fertility journey.”
— Rosanne Austin
Resentment often builds when you suppress your authentic needs to appear perfect and avoid inconveniencing others. This prevents people from truly supporting you because they never get the chance to know what you really need.
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Key Points 3
The pressure to be perfect and avoid inconveniencing others causes women to lose their authentic voice during fertility struggles
Constantly keeping things 'neat and tidy' leads to lying to ourselves about what's really happening in our fertility journey
Building resentment toward others often stems from not giving them the chance to show up authentically for us during fertility challenges
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