Dr. Erica Bove, founder of Love and Science Fertility, discusses bringing compassion and intuition to reproductive medicine. She shares how she stops embryo transfers if women aren't receptive and advocates for treating the whole person, not just statistics.
Reproductive Endocrinology and Infertility with integrative approach
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Dr. Erica Bove shares her spiritual calling to reproductive medicine, following in her grandfather's footsteps as an OB-GYN. She explains how she discovered that bringing her authentic self to patient interactions created better outcomes than sterile, protocol-driven approaches.
Dr. Bove reveals her unique practice of stopping embryo transfers if she senses a woman isn't in a receptive state. She describes being able to predict implantation success with nearly 100% accuracy by tuning into energetic forces during the procedure.
The conversation challenges common misconceptions about fertility markers like AMH and FSH. Dr. Bove explains these only indicate treatment success rates, not natural conception ability, and advocates for 'less is more' approaches for many women.
Both experts discuss how women, especially those over 40, must make room in their lives for a baby by addressing stress, work-life balance, and aligning their lifestyle with their desire for motherhood rather than pursuing aggressive treatments first.
The episode concludes with insights about fertility as a love story and spiritual journey. Both speakers emphasize that the desire to become a parent exists for a reason and that persistence combined with inner work leads to success.
“I will tell you, like, with almost a hundred percent certainty, I can tell if an embryo is gonna take before I leave the OR.”
— Dr. Erica Bove▶ 19:37
According to Dr. Erica Bove, a reproductive endocrinologist, she can sense whether an embryo will implant with nearly 100% certainty before leaving the operating room, even though implantation shouldn't occur for 24-48 hours minimum.
“All those things tell us is that fertility treatments in an office setting are less likely to work. Those are not fertility markers.”
— Dr. Erica Bove▶ 45:13
Dr. Erica Bove explains that concerning lab values like low AMH and high FSH only indicate that fertility treatments in clinical settings are less likely to work. They are not fertility markers and don't prevent natural conception, as it only takes one good egg meeting good sperm.
“If even at the level of your uterus, something, doubt, negativity, self blame, shame, any of those things is blocking it, it's not gonna take.”
— Dr. Erica Bove▶ 20:08
Dr. Erica Bove explains that negative emotions like doubt, shame, and stress can block embryo implantation even at the uterine level. She stops embryo transfers if women aren't in a receptive state and uses prayer and meditation to help align all vectors for success.
“When I see somebody with sort of concerning lab values, sometimes I say to them, actually, less is more.”
— Dr. Erica Bove▶ 45:56
Dr. Erica Bove advocates for 'less is more' for many women in their forties, especially those with concerning lab values. She recommends creating space in life, reducing stress, and optimizing lifestyle before pursuing expensive, stressful fertility treatments.
“So many people conceive with values that they've been told are like, oh, no. You're near menopause. This is never gonna happen.”
— Dr. Erica Bove▶ 45:45
Yes, according to Dr. Erica Bove, many people conceive naturally with lab values they've been told indicate near menopause. Low AMH only affects fertility treatment success rates, not natural conception ability.
“The women who abdicate their power tend to go through this thing where they just hold on to that, you know, what it is they really want. They keep allowing themselves to be treated in a way that doesn't include their own intuition and they continue to struggle.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 16:51
According to both Dr. Bove and Rosanne Austin, women who abdicate their power and don't trust their intuition tend to struggle more. Success requires standing in your power, making empowered choices, and being in a receptive feminine state rather than forcing outcomes.
Dr. Bove's approach to ensuring optimal conditions for embryo implantation
Assess energetic state
Tune into whether the woman feels receptive and open to receiving the embryo
Stop if needed
If sensing non-receptive energy, pause the transfer procedure
Create alignment
Use prayer, meditation, or other practices to help calm nerves and open channels
Proceed when ready
Only continue with transfer when all vectors are aligned for receptivity
A fertility doctor can sense whether an embryo will implant with nearly 100% certainty before leaving the operating room
Dr. Erica Bove states she can tell 'with almost a hundred percent certainty' if an embryo will take before leaving the OR, even though embryos shouldn't implant for 24-48 hours minimum.
If a woman is not in a receptive state to receive an embryo, the transfer should be stopped for prayer and meditation
Dr. Bove explains 'if I sense that a woman is really not in a receptive state to receive an embryo, I'm not gonna put that embryo in. I stop the show. We're praying. We're meditating.'
Doubt, negativity, self-blame and shame can block embryo implantation even at the level of the uterus
Dr. Bove states 'if even at the level of your uterus, something, doubt, negativity, self blame, shame, any of those things is blocking it, it's not gonna take. So we need to open the channels for this to happen.'
Lab values like AMH and FSH only indicate that fertility treatments are less likely to work in an office setting, not that natural conception is impossible
Dr. Bove clarifies 'those are not fertility markers. It's very, very important to understand this. All those things tell us is that fertility treatments in an office setting are less likely to work.'
For women with concerning lab values, less intervention is often more effective than aggressive IVF protocols
Dr. Bove explains 'when I see somebody with sort of concerning lab values, sometimes I say to them, actually, less is more. Why would we stress your body through this whole darn process to get one egg?'
Women in their forties must make space in their lives for a baby by reducing stress and clearing out what doesn't align with motherhood
Dr. Bove states 'many people have not made room in their lives for a baby, and they're working eighty hours a week. They are stressed to the max' and recommends 'declutter the stuff that is not going to align with new motherhood.'
The fertility journey is preparation for becoming the woman worthy of being your baby's mother through healing and transformation
Rosanne shares her belief that 'my son made me wait so that I could transform and become the woman that was worthy of being his mother' after conceiving naturally at 43.
Conceiving is fundamentally about receiving, which requires accessing feminine energy rather than masculine force
Rosanne explains 'conceiving is all about receiving. If you're trying to get like a man, you're going to create results that you probably don't want.'
People who desire to become parents will become parents if they don't give up on their journey
Dr. Bove states 'people who want to become parents will become parents. The desire is in your heart for a reason.' Rosanne confirms 'there's not a single person that I have met who did the work and made the decision to be a parent that didn't find a way.'
The only women who reach the end of their fertility journey without their baby are those who gave up
Rosanne states definitively 'The only women that get to the end of their journey without their baby are the ones that gave up' based on over 10 years of coaching experience.
A fertility doctor can sense whether an embryo will implant with nearly 100% certainty before leaving the operating room
▶ 19:37If a woman is not in a receptive state to receive an embryo, the transfer should be stopped for prayer and meditation
▶ 9:06Doubt, negativity, self-blame and shame can block embryo implantation even at the level of the uterus
▶ 20:08Lab values like AMH and FSH only indicate that fertility treatments are less likely to work in an office setting, not that natural conception is impossible
▶ 45:13For women with concerning lab values, less intervention is often more effective than aggressive IVF protocols
▶ 45:56Women in their forties must make space in their lives for a baby by reducing stress and clearing out what doesn't align with motherhood
▶ 40:56The fertility journey is preparation for becoming the woman worthy of being your baby's mother through healing and transformation
▶ 33:09Conceiving is fundamentally about receiving, which requires accessing feminine energy rather than masculine force
▶ 22:22People who desire to become parents will become parents if they don't give up on their journey
▶ 50:03The only women who reach the end of their fertility journey without their baby are those who gave up
▶ 51:16“IVF is a purely medical procedure based on statistics and protocols”
CONSIDER: Fertility medicine works best when it integrates love, intuition, and spiritual practices with science
“Poor lab values like low AMH mean you can't get pregnant naturally”
CONSIDER: Lab values only indicate fertility treatment success rates, not natural conception ability - it only takes one good egg meeting good sperm
“Career women in their forties should pursue aggressive fertility treatments immediately”
CONSIDER: Women in their forties need to create space and reduce stress in their lives before pursuing any fertility interventions
“If I sense that a woman is really not in a receptive state to receive an embryo, I'm not gonna put that embryo in. I stop the show. We're praying. We're meditating.”
“I will tell you, like, with almost a hundred percent certainty, I can tell if an embryo is gonna take before I leave the OR.”
“Conceiving is all about receiving. If you're trying to get like a man, you're going to create results that you probably don't want.”
“The only women that get to the end of their journey without their baby are the ones that gave up.”
“All those things tell us is that fertility treatments in an office setting are less likely to work. Those are not fertility markers.”
“People who want to become parents will become parents. The desire is in your heart for a reason.”
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Conditions
Frameworks & Methods
Common Beliefs
Physicians are not magicians - medical predictions are not absolute verdicts on what's possible for your fertility
Dr. Nisha, a physician with two doctoral degrees, was told at 44 she had undetectable AMH and was premenopausal with no chance of conception, yet conceived naturally in one cycle after changing her mindset approach.
The thought to be a mother is there because it was meant to be there - desires don't appear randomly in your heart
Dr. Nisha explains that just like she didn't randomly think about becoming a chef or going on shows, the deep desire for motherhood exists for a purpose and shouldn't be dismissed by statistics or outside opinions.
Conception is fundamentally about receiving, not controlling - women must learn to be like the egg that signals and chooses, not like the sperm that chases
Dr. Northrup explains that at ovulation, the egg releases chemical signals that sperm swim toward, and the egg chooses which sperm to accept. She taught this through Argentine tango where women must learn to receive the lead.
There are three ways of knowing: gut instinct from experience, studied knowledge from education, and information someone told you - the third is the one you didn't have to work for
Dr. Northrup draws from decades of medical practice where overeducated patients had 'endless attack surfaces for propaganda' because they relied primarily on what others told them rather than developing inner knowing.
