Episode 2 of a 3-part series on lack and scarcity mindset. Rosanne helps listeners identify their specific lack and scarcity stories through examining their excuses, particularly around time and money, and teaches how these reveal beliefs about worthiness.
Rosanne defines lack and scarcity as the belief that resources are finite with the assumption there isn't enough for you specifically. She emphasizes this isn't about external circumstances but internal stories about worthiness and possibility.
The episode focuses on how daily excuses, particularly about money and time, serve as a decoder ring for self-sabotage. Rosanne teaches that these excuses reveal what you truly believe you deserve and can predict how you'll respond to challenges on your fertility journey.
Rosanne challenges common money excuses like 'too expensive' or 'can't afford it,' pointing out we don't apply the same arbitrary limits to cars or business investments. She emphasizes that if you truly believe you deserve something, you'll find the resources.
Addressing time-based excuses, Rosanne shares the story of Kate from Ireland who became more fertile with age through mindset shifts. She teaches it's not about how long you've been trying, but how you've been approaching your journey.
The episode concludes with a three-step process to identify specific lack and scarcity stories, determine which is your biggest block, and get real about what these patterns are costing you in pursuing your dream of motherhood.
“Your excuses are your decoder ring for self sabotage. And what's even more telling about them is they show what you really think about what you deserve.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 12:14
Look at your excuses, especially around time and money. Common ones include 'I can't afford it,' 'that's too expensive,' 'I've already spent too much,' or 'if it was going to happen, it would have happened by now.' These reveal underlying lack and scarcity beliefs.
“Lack and scarcity is the belief or system of beliefs that there is a finite amount of something, and within that belief is the presupposition that there isn't enough for you, you specifically.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 5:54
Lack and scarcity is the belief that there's a finite amount of something (time, money, chances, blessings) with the presupposition that there isn't enough for you specifically. It includes victimhood and the idea that there's nothing you can do about it.
“If you actually believe you deserve it, you will find the money. It is that simple.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 15:39
Money excuses reveal whether you believe you deserve to find solutions. If you truly believe you deserve something, you'll find the money. The key is not applying the same measurements you'd use for a car to your dream of becoming a mom.
“It's not about the amount of years you've been doing this. It's about how you've been going about this.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 27:27
Yes, age isn't the determining factor - it's how you use your time and approach your journey. Many women get pregnant naturally in their 40s when they change their mindset and approach, regardless of how long they've been trying.
“Do you deserve, as a grown ass woman, to have your partner support even if they don't understand or agree? Because those are two very different things.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 15:59
No, as a grown woman you don't need permission. Having your partner's support is different from having their understanding or agreement. You deserve to stand up for yourself and what you believe you need.
“When you tell yourself, oh, I have it all, You know, I've got nothing to feel lack and scarcity over, and you make yourself small for wanting more, that, my love, is lack and scarcity.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 9:00
Making yourself small for wanting more, even when you already have blessings, is actually a lack and scarcity story in disguise. The desire in your heart to be a mom is there because it was meant for you.
A three-step process to identify and address the specific lack and scarcity beliefs blocking your fertility success
Identify Your Stories
Identify the exact lack and scarcity stories you tell on this journey about money, time, age, and other areas. Ask what these reveal about what you believe you deserve.
Find Your Biggest Block
Identify which lack and scarcity story is the biggest block for you. Be honest about what it's costing you today and what it will ultimately cost if you continue letting it run the show.
Get Real About Stakes
Answer whether you're willing to walk away from your dream because of arbitrary limits you've set, recognizing how lack and scarcity stories parade as prudence but will cost you your dreams.
Lack and scarcity is the belief that there's a finite amount of something with the presupposition that there isn't enough for you specifically
This belief system includes victimhood and the idea that there's nothing you can do about it, making you accept misery and be jealous of others who have what you want.
Your excuses are your decoder ring for self-sabotage and reveal what you really think you deserve
Whether it's 'I can't afford it' or 'I don't have time,' these excuses show your lack and scarcity stories and demonstrate what you believe you're worthy of receiving.
If you actually believe you deserve it, you will find the money - it is that simple
The same measurements we use for a car shouldn't apply to your dream of becoming a mom. When worthiness isn't the issue, resourcefulness follows.
As a grown woman, you don't need your partner's permission - having their support is different from having their understanding or agreement
One of the most interesting tests of worthiness is how you respond to opposition - do you cave or do you move forward standing up for yourself?
Nothing is free - the things that matter most in life require investment of time and money, sometimes both
Real love requires investment of the most valuable thing we have - time. You can always make more money but you can't make more time.
If you can bleed, you can breed - it's not about the amount of time spent, it's about how you spend it
Kate in Ireland found herself years later, quote unquote older, far more fertile when she started thinking, believing, and taking action differently and ended up getting pregnant naturally.
When you make yourself small for wanting more by saying 'I already have so much,' that is in essence a lack and scarcity story
On the external it may look like you have it all going on, but the way you see yourself, your worthiness, can be running authentic lack and scarcity stories internally.
Lack and scarcity stories parade as prudence and sensibility, but they will cost you your dream
People don't question investing $150,000 in a business, but for having a baby we apply a warped sense of value and make ourselves wrong for making investments of that size.
Lack and scarcity is the belief that there's a finite amount of something with the presupposition that there isn't enough for you specifically
▶ 5:54Your excuses are your decoder ring for self-sabotage and reveal what you really think you deserve
▶ 12:14If you actually believe you deserve it, you will find the money - it is that simple
▶ 15:39As a grown woman, you don't need your partner's permission - having their support is different from having their understanding or agreement
▶ 15:59Nothing is free - the things that matter most in life require investment of time and money, sometimes both
▶ 18:33If you can bleed, you can breed - it's not about the amount of time spent, it's about how you spend it
▶ 21:07When you make yourself small for wanting more by saying 'I already have so much,' that is in essence a lack and scarcity story
▶ 8:58Lack and scarcity stories parade as prudence and sensibility, but they will cost you your dream
▶ 24:43“Being grateful for what you have means you shouldn't want more”
CONSIDER: Making yourself small for wanting more is actually a lack and scarcity story in disguise
“Expensive fertility treatments aren't worth the investment”
CONSIDER: We don't question $150,000 business investments or $50,000 cars, but apply warped value judgments to investing in motherhood
“If it was going to happen, it would have happened by now”
CONSIDER: It's not about the amount of time spent, it's about how you spend it
“Your excuses are your decoder ring for self sabotage. And what's even more telling about them is they show what you really think about what you deserve.”
“If you actually believe you deserve it, you will find the money. It is that simple.”
“If you can bleed, you can breed.”
“Lack and scarcity is the leading killer of dreams on this journey.”
“Nothing is free. You can always make more money. You can't make more time.”
“It's not about the amount of years you've been doing this. It's about how you've been going about this.”
“Do you deserve, as a grown ass woman, to have your partner support even if they don't understand or agree?”
EP201 Are You Really Ready? The Dream v. Being Ready to Receive It.
Are you just dreaming about your baby, or are you actually ready to receive them?
EP192 Baby-Making Breakthrough: New Behaviors
Why your mantras aren't working and the behavioral shifts that actually create fertility breakthroughs.
EP71 Proactively Using Mindset Helped Her Show Miscarriage Who’s Boss
How a type-A veterinarian used mindset work to go from heartbreaking miscarriage to natural pregnancy at 40 in just one month.
Conditions
Frameworks & Methods
Common Beliefs
There's a fundamental difference between wanting a baby from lack versus being ready to receive one - wanting comes from what isn't here, while readiness focuses on preparing for what's to come
Rosanne observed this shift in all successful clients featured on her podcast over 200+ episodes, noting when 'the switch flips' from chasing energy to confident readiness
Being ready to receive has an innate emotional maturity, confidence, peace and calm that is decidedly different from the desperate energy of 'when is my baby gonna get here?'
Rosanne describes recognizing this shift in all women who achieved success on her podcast, noting it's 'truly a beautiful thing' to observe when the transformation happens
Affirmations and mantras are useless without corresponding behaviors that match your desires
Rosanne conceived naturally at 43 within 12 months of making behavioral changes that aligned with believing her baby was coming, after 6 years of fertility treatment failures.
Your behavior must align with your expectation that your baby is coming - think and act like the woman who beats the odds
Rosanne bought her dream SUV because she decided she was going to fill it with her family, and conceived Asher within 12 months of making this identity shift.
