Betty shares her journey from stage 4 endometriosis and failed IVF to conceiving her miracle baby boy through donor eggs. After years of self-blame and fear, she learned to surrender control and embrace a path that looked different than expected.
Betty· donor· Baby boyBefore
Wrapped in heavy dark blanket of negative thoughts, blaming herself and her body, feeling like worst fears were coming true
Key Shift
Learning to surrender control, trust her intuition, and remain open to different paths to motherhood
After
Operating from peace and alignment, making decisions that felt right, embracing donor eggs without shame
Betty had always feared she wouldn't have children, and when diagnosed with stage 4 endometriosis covering her ovaries, that fear seemed to be coming true. She found herself wrapped in what she called 'a heavy, dark blanket' of negative thoughts toward her body, but recognized she needed to transform her relationship with faith and trust.
Through a powerful barbecue visualization where Betty saw herself breastfeeding her baby boy while loved ones celebrated, she experienced a turning point from blame to possibility. This vision helped her learn to surrender control and trust that motherhood was meant for her, even if the path looked different than expected.
After failed IVF and housing challenges, Betty made the intuitive decision to try donor eggs, feeling immediate peace about this choice. Despite unexpected complications with only 6 eggs retrieved instead of the anticipated many more, she maintained faith and successfully conceived.
Now 22 weeks pregnant with her active baby boy who has been kicking since 18 weeks, Betty emphasizes there's no shame in any path to motherhood. She kept her donor egg journey private but found that when she announced her pregnancy, people simply celebrated her joy without questioning the method.
“I had endometriosis stage four. So that was all over my ovaries, and so things just got really real from there. So that was in two thousand nineteen, and here we are.”
— Betty▶ 4:29
Yes, you can get pregnant with stage 4 endometriosis. Betty had stage 4 endometriosis all over her ovaries and is now 22 weeks pregnant with her miracle baby boy through donor eggs after failed IVF.
“Just letting that fear go, you'll be able to feel free, first of all. And then secondly, I think you mentioned that I look like out of that piece. I really was.”
— Betty▶ 31:34
Overcome fertility fear by recognizing that fear holds you back from feeling free and accessing peace. Surrender involves letting go of rigid expectations and trusting your inner guidance to make aligned decisions.
“I think surrender, again, is just letting go of all these ideas that you have or what you want or what you think you want it to look like. Just letting that go and letting your faith or God or whoever you believe in yourself, your instincts talk to you and tell you what you need.”
— Betty▶ 30:54
Surrender in fertility is letting go of rigid ideas about how your journey should look and allowing your faith and instincts to guide you. It's not giving up - it's releasing fear and control to access inner peace and make aligned decisions.
“I would want them to know that that whatever journey this takes you, that that's okay. And that's your journey, and that is your path in your life.”
— Betty▶ 27:07
No, there's no shame in any path to motherhood including donor eggs. What matters is reaching your destination of becoming a mom, not the specific route you take to get there.
“When I started doing the work, you know, for you, for myself, I was looking at all these roadblocks, and I was like, holy moly. Like, I have I have all these roadblocks in my way, and I'm letting that get in my way.”
— Betty▶ 9:40
Betty transformed her mindset through an 8-week program, moving from self-blame and fear to peace and surrender. The key is consistent work on identifying and removing mental roadblocks while building faith.
“I remember just the imagery that you created of the way that you wanted to welcome turning point. And I remember feeling it when when we did it. I was like, oh, shit. This is a turning point for her”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 14:13
Yes, visualization can be a powerful turning point. Betty visualized a barbecue where she was breastfeeding her baby boy with loved ones celebrating, and she's now 22 weeks pregnant with that exact vision becoming reality.
Betty's process for moving from self-blame and fear to surrender and conception
Identify Your Mental Roadblocks
Look at the ways you're blaming yourself and your body, and recognize these thoughts as barriers to your success
Visualize Your Desired Outcome
Create a detailed vision of welcoming your baby, like Betty's barbecue visualization where she saw herself breastfeeding her son
Practice Surrendering Control
Let go of rigid timelines and expectations about how your journey should unfold
Trust Your Intuition
When decisions feel right and peaceful, trust that guidance even if it looks different than planned
Remove Shame and Judgment
Release any shame about the path you need to take to motherhood - every path is valid
Your worst fears about your fertility journey coming true doesn't mean your dream is over - it's often the beginning of your transformation
Betty had always feared she wouldn't have kids, and when diagnosed with stage 4 endometriosis all over her ovaries after ruptured cysts, she thought her worst nightmare was coming true but went on to conceive her miracle baby boy.
Self-blame and attacking your body creates a heavy dark blanket that keeps you stuck, but you can choose to unravel it
Betty described being wrapped in 'a very heavy, dark blanket' of negative thoughts toward her body, saying 'my body sucks, why can't you just work?' but transformed this through mindset work.
The desire for motherhood is in your heart for a reason - you were meant to be a mom, but the path may look different than expected
Betty conceived her baby boy through donor eggs after failed IVF, demonstrating that surrendering expectations about how motherhood happens opens you to receiving your miracle.
Visualization of your desired outcome creates a turning point from blame to possibility, even when you don't know the path
Betty's barbecue visualization where she saw herself breastfeeding her baby boy while loved ones celebrated became a turning point, and she's now 22 weeks pregnant with that exact baby boy.
Faith without works is dead - true faith requires both spiritual surrender and taking aligned action
Betty combined deep faith with changing fertility clinics, choosing donor eggs, and doing mindset work, conceiving after previous treatment failures.
Surrendering control doesn't mean giving up - it means letting go of fear and rigid expectations to access your intuition
Betty went from clinging to linear thinking (marriage, house, baby) to making intuitive decisions like switching clinics and choosing donor eggs, leading to her current pregnancy at 22 weeks.
When you're operating from peace and alignment, everything starts falling into place naturally
Betty described feeling peace when choosing donor eggs, saying 'it just felt so right' and 'everything started to fall into place' leading to successful conception.
There is no shame in any path to motherhood - whether IVF, donor eggs, surrogacy - what matters is getting to your destination
Betty conceived through donor eggs after stage 4 endometriosis and IVF failure, emphasizing that her Latino family's old-school views couldn't diminish the miracle of her pregnancy.
People don't care how your baby came to be - they're just happy you finally got there
Betty kept her donor egg journey private, but when she announced her pregnancy, her family and friends were simply overjoyed without questioning the method.
Sometimes only getting a few eggs or embryos is exactly what's needed - quality over quantity
Betty's donor only produced 6 eggs when they expected many more, resulting in just 2 embryos, but one successful transfer led to her current 22-week pregnancy with one embryo still frozen.
Your worst fears about your fertility journey coming true doesn't mean your dream is over - it's often the beginning of your transformation
▶ 5:42Self-blame and attacking your body creates a heavy dark blanket that keeps you stuck, but you can choose to unravel it
▶ 6:13The desire for motherhood is in your heart for a reason - you were meant to be a mom, but the path may look different than expected
▶ 13:31Visualization of your desired outcome creates a turning point from blame to possibility, even when you don't know the path
▶ 14:13Faith without works is dead - true faith requires both spiritual surrender and taking aligned action
▶ 9:30Surrendering control doesn't mean giving up - it means letting go of fear and rigid expectations to access your intuition
▶ 32:24When you're operating from peace and alignment, everything starts falling into place naturally
▶ 27:27There is no shame in any path to motherhood - whether IVF, donor eggs, surrogacy - what matters is getting to your destination
▶ 27:27People don't care how your baby came to be - they're just happy you finally got there
▶ 33:59Sometimes only getting a few eggs or embryos is exactly what's needed - quality over quantity
▶ 24:58“You need to follow a linear path: marriage, house, then baby”
CONSIDER: Your path to motherhood may require pivoting and focusing on what actually matters most to you
“Surrender means giving up and being passive”
CONSIDER: Surrender is actively letting go of fear and control to access your inner guidance and take aligned action
“The desire in your heart to be a mom is there because it was meant for you.”
“I wanna be that woman that is so full of faith that nothing phases her.”
“Faith without works is dead. So, like, what is it that made you see that that there was a role that you played in this?”
“There's no shame in anything. There really isn't because whatever you decide your path to motherhood is, that's your path, and that's okay.”
“This little baby wanted to live. Like, he since I've been eighteen weeks, he's been kicking me. He's been moving around. He's just constantly letting me know, like, hey, mom, I'm here.”
“Surrender is letting that piece come into you.”
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You are the absolute boss and decision maker of your fertility journey - not the doctors
Diana applied this mindset shift to conceive her son and now has two daughters, ages 2 and 2 months. She uses these same techniques for career decisions and all life choices.
Victimhood affects every area of life, not just fertility - recognizing this pattern is the first step to transformation
Jamie recognized she was playing victim not only about pregnancy but every aspect of life - getting upset about others' vacations to places she didn't even want to go. This self-awareness led her to seek mindset help.
When you surrender to receiving help and stop resisting IVF, success rates dramatically improve
Jamie heard another client's story about failing IVF because she wasn't in the right headspace. This prompted Jamie to fully accept IVF help, leading to 42 eggs retrieved, 14 blasts, 10 perfect embryos, and twins from her first transfer.
