Rosanne interviews transformational coach and fellow former attorney Rachel Birch about the crucial role of feminine energy on the fertility journey. They explore how successful, type-A women often approach trying to conceive with masculine 'doing' energy when what's needed is feminine 'receiving' energy.
Feminine energy and manifestation for high-achieving women
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Two former attorneys explore how successful women often lack access to feminine energy due to career demands and upbringing. Rachel reveals her soul was craving femininity after years in masculine-dominated legal work, while Rosanne admits she would have dismissed talk of femininity as weakness ten years ago.
The distinction between doing/giving (masculine) and being/receiving (feminine) energy is clarified. Both energies are essential and must be used in balance - like alternating feet while walking - rather than staying stuck in one mode throughout the fertility journey.
Rachel shares how both her miracle pregnancies occurred through pleasurable, connected experiences rather than mechanical approaches. The concept of receiving - your baby, sperm, divine guidance - becomes central to understanding why control-based approaches often fail.
Specific methods for accessing receiving mode are explored, including meditation, nature connection, spiritual practices, and focusing on desired feelings rather than outcomes. The importance of trusting intuition and divine guidance is emphasized through real examples.
The waiting period transforms from frustration to gratitude when viewed as sacred preparation time. Since mothering requires constant masculine giving energy, the fertility journey becomes precious feminine receiving time to develop necessary life skills and self-care practices.
“Receiving is the feminine energy. Giving is the masculine counterpart... when you're trying to create something, manifest something, have a goal, you have to do the work being in the masculine, and then you have to be in the receiving place where you're actually receiving the fruits of your labor.”
— Rachel Birch▶ 8:46
Feminine energy on the fertility journey is about being in receiving mode - being open, allowing, feeling rather than constantly doing and controlling. It's the energy of receiving your baby, pleasure, and divine guidance.
“giving over control. Like, the control is the making it happen, the doing. Receiving mode is really being open to what God source the universe has for you.”
— Rachel Birch▶ 18:34
Get into receiving mode by giving over control, connecting with source through meditation or nature walks, and focusing on how you want to feel rather than specific outcomes. Practice self-care and listen to your intuition.
“if you stay in that masculine do do do, that energy can actually stop you from receiving. So you have to kind of like you have a left foot and a right foot, you have to use both and shift.”
— Rachel Birch▶ 9:07
Control and constant doing creates masculine energy that blocks receiving. You need both energies - masculine to take action, feminine to receive results. Staying stuck in control mode prevents you from being open to receive what you want.
“every single one of the skills that I learned on my journey, I used within the first year of Asher's life... these are all components that if you're smart, you're gonna learn to cultivate within yourself now because you're gonna need them ten thousand times more when your baby gets here.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 40:34
Yes, the fertility journey is sacred preparation time to develop the skills you'll need as a mother - patience, boundaries, self-care, and the ability to balance masculine and feminine energies.
“the masculine energy is the is the analytical, is the thinking, is the head, and the feminine energy is the feeling. It's the body. It's the kind of patient allowing side. And neither is stronger or weaker. You actually need both.”
— Rachel Birch▶ 8:27
Masculine energy is doing, giving, analytical thinking, and controlling. Feminine energy is being, receiving, feeling, and allowing. Both are necessary and should be used in balance like alternating feet while walking.
“pleasure is the feminine... the two times that it was like, you know what? Like, fuck it. Let's just do this thing, you know, and I was really, like, connected with my husband and enjoying myself, that's when I had a baby.”
— Rachel Birch▶ 14:56
Pleasure is feminine energy that opens you to receiving. The most successful conception experiences happen when women are connected to pleasure and joy with their partners rather than stressed and mechanical.
A practical guide to using both masculine doing energy and feminine receiving energy intelligently for fertility success
Recognize your default mode
Notice if you're stuck in masculine doing, planning, researching, and controlling. Most type-A women default to this mode.
Practice transitioning to feminine
Use meditation, nature walks, baths, or spiritual practices to shift into receiving mode. Find what helps you connect to source.
Focus on feelings over outcomes
Identify how you want to feel (safe, accomplished, elated) rather than attaching to specific outcomes or timelines.
Embrace pleasure and joy
Prioritize pleasurable experiences with your partner and in life generally. Pleasure is feminine energy that opens receiving.
Practice self-care and mothering yourself
Learn to receive nurturing and care. This is preparation for both receiving your baby and later giving care as a mother.
Masculine energy is about doing, giving, analyzing, and controlling, while feminine energy is about being, receiving, feeling, and allowing - both are essential for manifestation
Rachel Birch conceived both her sons as miracle babies - the second naturally at almost 40 after giving up control and 'turning it over to divine intervention.'
Most type-A women stay stuck in masculine 'doing' mode during their fertility journey, which actually blocks them from receiving what they want
Rosanne Austin conceived naturally at 43 after years of treatment failure when she learned to stop 'living her fertility journey like a man' and embrace feminine receiving energy.
Pleasure is feminine energy, and the most successful conception experiences happen when women are connected to pleasure and joy rather than stressed and controlling
Rachel Birch conceived both times when she was fully present and enjoying herself with her husband, not when she was doing mechanical sex with legs up the wall for 30 minutes.
Being in receiving mode means giving over control, connecting with source, and being open to how your desires manifest rather than forcing a specific outcome
Rachel Birch shares how following divine guidance to take a walk instead of working led to receiving a PayPal payment that hit her business goal - demonstrating the power of receiving mode.
Attachment to outcomes creates grabby, needy energy that repels what you want, while focusing on desired feelings allows multiple pathways for manifestation
Rachel explains how attaching to feelings like safety or accomplishment rather than specific outcomes prevents disappointment and opens possibilities - like the high school guy who wants one specific girl versus being open to connection.
The fertility journey is actually preparation time to develop the masculine-feminine balance and self-care skills you'll need as a mother
Rosanne shares how every skill she learned on her fertility journey - patience, boundaries, nurturing, discernment - she used within the first year of Asher's life.
Learning to mother yourself and receive feminine nurturing is essential preparation for becoming a mother to your baby
Rosanne realized she needed to learn softness and mothering from mentors since she was raised by a woman in her masculine, and this self-mothering was key to conceiving Asher naturally at 43.
Mothering is actually masculine energy - giving, caretaking, putting others' needs first - so the fertility journey is your time to be in feminine receiving energy
Rachel explains how mothering involves giving breast milk, sleep, time, energy constantly, which is why she's grateful for the preparatory feminine season before her business goals manifest.
Masculine energy is about doing, giving, analyzing, and controlling, while feminine energy is about being, receiving, feeling, and allowing - both are essential for manifestation
▶ 8:36Most type-A women stay stuck in masculine 'doing' mode during their fertility journey, which actually blocks them from receiving what they want
▶ 9:50Pleasure is feminine energy, and the most successful conception experiences happen when women are connected to pleasure and joy rather than stressed and controlling
▶ 14:36Being in receiving mode means giving over control, connecting with source, and being open to how your desires manifest rather than forcing a specific outcome
▶ 18:33Attachment to outcomes creates grabby, needy energy that repels what you want, while focusing on desired feelings allows multiple pathways for manifestation
▶ 32:02The fertility journey is actually preparation time to develop the masculine-feminine balance and self-care skills you'll need as a mother
▶ 40:23Learning to mother yourself and receive feminine nurturing is essential preparation for becoming a mother to your baby
▶ 34:35Mothering is actually masculine energy - giving, caretaking, putting others' needs first - so the fertility journey is your time to be in feminine receiving energy
▶ 38:41“Being feminine means being weak, submissive, or following gender stereotypes”
CONSIDER: Feminine energy is about powerful receiving, intuition, and being open to manifestation - it has nothing to do with weakness or gender roles
“Taking care of others is feminine nurturing energy”
CONSIDER: Caregiving and constant giving is actually masculine energy - true feminine energy is about receiving and self-care first
“The waiting period on your fertility journey is wasted time”
CONSIDER: This is sacred preparation time to develop the skills and energy balance you'll need as a mother
“Are you trying to have a baby like a man? This doesn't make any sense.”
“You're receiving your baby. You have to be open to receiving what you've been praying and wishing and working towards.”
“What if having what we want doesn't have to be so hard?”
“It's grabby and it's weird. It's not the kind of energy that you wanna be welcoming this baby with.”
“I know I'm taken care of. I know what comes to me may look a little different, but I'm open to it.”
“You feel now how you're gonna feel when you're when you find out you're pregnant, when your baby comes, you feel that now, you are magnetizing your baby to you.”
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Surrendering doesn't mean giving up desire - you can want something deeply while releasing attachment to the outcome
Kerry conceived naturally within 6 weeks of walking away from IVF treatments in Germany, then had her second child 9 months postpartum from one encounter
Your body will always choose survival over reproduction - constant stress signals your body that it's not safe to conceive
Kerry had a student at 52 who got pregnant naturally after years of IVF failure through fertility yoga practice that regulated her nervous system
Your subconscious programming creates hormonal signals that directly affect your endocrine and immune systems, influencing fertility without your conscious awareness
Dr. Kim D'Eramo explains how psychoneuroimmunology shows our beliefs and thoughts transmit neurologic signals to the immune and endocrine systems. She conceived naturally at almost 45 despite being told she had only a 13% chance of natural conception.
Fertility requires embracing feminine energy of receiving rather than masculine energy of achieving and controlling
Dr. D'Eramo conceived twice naturally, including at almost 45, after letting go of white-knuckling her way through fertility. Rosanne conceived naturally at 43 after 7 years of struggle when she stopped trying to out-medicate and out-diet her internal state.
