Finding Joy

Being a mom in your 40s after a long fertility journey means you appreciate every moment differently because you know how precious and fleeting it all is

Lavinia had her daughter at 43 after 10 years of trying and says she enjoys contact sleeping and night wakings that other moms complain about because she knows these phases pass quickly.

Natural conception can happen after multiple IVF failures when the pressure is removed and joy returns

Katie and Adam conceived naturally after years of IVF treatments and devastating losses, with Adam noting it happened when Katie found happiness again and they had stopped intensive medical intervention.

Pregnancy announcements become sources of joy rather than triggers when mindset shifts occur

Krysten described how after her mindset work, she could finally see a pregnancy announcement and think 'that's amazing, so happy for them' and know her time was coming, instead of crying like before.

Taking breaks from trying to conceive can lead to natural conception when couples realign with themselves

After 3 years of treatments, Krysten and Carson took a break, went on their delayed honeymoon to Italy, focused on being themselves again, and conceived naturally during the cycle when Carson had COVID and they weren't focused on trying.

You can feel joy and peace while still wanting your baby

Melissa reached a point where she told her husband 'I have never been this happy in my entire life' with no baby in sight. She said 'I don't even mind if we don't have a baby' while still believing it would come. She conceived one month later.

Taking a step back and choosing happiness over desperation can change everything

Erika made the conscious decision to gift herself happiness and stop making rash decisions from desperation, which led to her natural conception after 9 years of failed treatments.

Living your life fully during fertility treatment, not putting everything on hold, creates the energy for conception

Diana traveled to Rome, Paris, Germany, and Prague during her successful pregnancy cycle, walking 20 kilometers daily in Rome and working business shows, refusing to stop living for her baby.

Taking time off to live your life—including drinking wine in Italy—can be exactly what your fertility journey needs.

Mette took three months off after multiple IVF failures to travel to Italy with her husband, drinking and eating freely without thinking about babies, before returning to conceive naturally.

When you lose yourself on the fertility journey, you stop doing things that bring you joy and punish yourself instead

Marina stopped seeing friends, traveling to Brazil, and doing activities she loved during her 5-year journey, which she identified as a key factor keeping her stuck.

Perfectionism around diet and lifestyle can become a saboteur that prevents conception

Agata, a dietitian, realized her food perfectionism was sabotaging her. When she went to Big Bear and indulged in foods she'd restricted, she felt like herself again—and that cycle she conceived.

Living your life fully while trying to conceive creates the energy that attracts your baby

Connie conceived during a 3-week European vacation where she drank wine, ate gluten and cheese, and prioritized joy over fertility rules.

You don't have to be a slave to your fertility treatment — you can treat yourself like a queen and still conceive

Dr. Mariève went skiing and had a beer the day after her successful transfer, completely opposite to her previous restricted cycles, and conceived her son at 36 after four failed transfers.

Making treatment livable is key to lasting long enough for success — if you're miserable, you'll quit before your breakthrough

Dr. Mariève nearly stopped after her fourth transfer failure with a genetically normal embryo, but learning to have joy during treatment gave her the resilience to continue to her successful fifth transfer.

You need to show your baby who you are — let them feel what it's like to live with you

Dr. Mariève went skiing the day after transfer thinking 'if he wants to stick, I need to show him how fun it is to be living with us' — and conceived her son on that cycle.

When you see all the good things you already have, you stop focusing on what you lack and your baby comes when they're ready

Dr. Mariève's main goal was becoming more grateful. Even after her miscarriage, she was happier than she'd been in two years because she could see her great life again, then conceived shortly after.

Asher came when Rosanne and her husband finally rejected the idea they had to spend another day miserable and started rolling out the red carpet with joy and possibility

In the cycle prior to conceiving Asher naturally at 43, Rosanne hadn't felt so alive in years, and conceiving had nothing to do with diets, lotions or potions - it was about the joyful place where he would grow.

Conceiving Asher had nothing to do with diets, lotions, or potions - it had everything to do with Rosanne being the joyful place where he would grow and thrive

Rosanne conceived naturally at 43 after years of treatment failure, and in the cycle prior to conceiving she hadn't felt so alive in years while living luxuriously.

When you become unfun in the name of having a baby, your partner will tap out faster than you can say 'make me another appointment at the clinic'

Austin describes how denying yourself joy and becoming rigid in pursuit of pregnancy creates marital discord and pushes partners away

The greatest justice for families isn't necessarily from the system, but from choosing to live vibrant, meaningful lives

Each family affected by the Idaho murders went on to do amazing things in the victims' names, with Olivia Gonsalves giving birth to a daughter named after her sister in room 1113 at 4 AM - the exact date, room number, and time connected to the murders

You need balance - you need to do what's medically necessary, but you also need to eat ice cream sometimes and go out with friends

Francois observed that Super Cat conceived naturally after they shifted from obsessive problem-solving to including fun and relaxation, eating New York bagels with gluten and cream cheese during their Christmas vacation where they conceived.

Focus on legacy over labels - what matters is that your child knows you love them and feels welcome to share their feelings

After eight years with her son, Rosanne has found that knowing daily that you love them, that they can talk to you, be seen and heard, and that you're there when you can be is enough for creating a lasting legacy.

Pain can become purpose when you consciously choose to help others through similar experiences rather than staying in victimhood

Lyndsay transformed from suicidal depression over her CRPS diagnosis to hosting The Pain Game podcast, saying 'what has happened to me is a gift' and choosing daily to see her pain as a blessing rather than a curse.

Daily gratitude practice shifts focus from what's missing to abundance that already exists

Chrissie and her husband implemented a daily gratitude practice during her program and continue it today, which helped her see 'winks from Gus' and maintain faith even during failed cycles.

What you're doing in despair is blocking your baby - when you spiral in fear and doubt, you're actively working against your vision

Multiple fertility experts on the podcast have confirmed that stress and negative mindset impact fertility outcomes. Women who shift out of despair consistently see better results.

Don't stop your life while you're on this fertility journey - you can live and be on this journey and have joy

Caroline was told to plan her wedding during her fertility journey, which brought joy back into her life. She conceived naturally in November, just two months after getting married in September.

Every month is a new month - you can reclaim your life back with this perspective

Caroline used this reframe to move through disappointment when her period came, knowing she was one month closer to her wedding and had been taking supplements longer, creating forward momentum instead of defeat.

You can conceive in joy - it doesn't have to be hard in the sense of suffering

Caroline learned she didn't need to suffer to 'earn' her baby. She conceived naturally in November after a joyful September wedding and October honeymoon, embracing pleasure and celebration instead of struggle.

Resilience means finding another gear within yourself to keep going when everything looks impossible

Jo went through 8 IVF cycles, 7 transfers, multiple natural pregnancies ending in loss, genetic incompatibility treatment, and surgery in another country before achieving her successful pregnancy at 20 weeks.

Look for experiences that helped deepen your resilience and view your past with gratitude, emotional maturity, and faith rather than anger and victimhood

Rosanne explains that this approach shows you three things: you don't give up on yourself, you're more resilient than you think, and you can do hard things to get where you want to be

Pain sustained for too long will take you out of the fertility game—you cannot muscle through misery and expect success

Rosanne warns that pretending everything is fine or trying to muscle through pain leads to being taken out of the game, referencing episode 244 on empowerment vs entitlement.

Happiness is available right here, right now - it's not a destination but a choice

Mark shifted from chasing external success to finding peace through meditation and Buddhist teachings. He went from being suicidal and £80,000 in debt to building a six-figure business for 30 years by changing his mindset.

You can maintain joy and live fully while going through fertility treatment instead of putting life on hold

Claire and her partner did more activities in the year of treatment than they'd ever done before, went on holiday during the process, and she grew her business to reach income goals in less than a year.

The fertility journey doesn't have to be miserable - you can do the treatments with joy and surrender

Yasemin noticed IVF clinics were filled with misery where 'nobody says hi to each other' despite trying to create life. She learned to do the same treatments but with joyfulness and detachment from outcome.

Following your joy creates heart rate variability and higher vibrational frequencies that improve immune, brain, and reproductive functioning

Rosanne conceived naturally after she and her husband said their biggest yeses to joy, returning from an incredible European vacation. A sports medicine physician she coached conceived after going skiing two days post-transfer despite being told not to, and her son is now 18 months old.

Vitamin J (joy) and showing your baby who you are makes it easier for them to find you

Carolyn stopped avoiding activities like salsa dancing and ocean swimming due to fertility fears, started having fun again, and conceived naturally at 45 while enjoying herself in Mexico.

Misery on the fertility journey is a choice - you can be on the journey and still enjoy your life

Marina was miserable for 5 years but didn't realize it until she changed her mindset and started enjoying life again, which led to her pregnancy within 4 months.

The most damaging thing to a child is a parent with an unlived life - and this applies even before conception

Rosanne observes that women who live fulfilling lives while trying to conceive get pregnant faster, while those at low frequencies during interviews have such heavy energy 'it's like the oxygen is being pulled out of the room.'

The happier you are and the more fulfilled you are, the faster your baby comes in because you're not putting pressure on this unborn child to unfuck your life

Women in Rosanne's program who become more alive and engaged in their lives consistently get pregnant - some naturally after years of treatment failure, others finally succeed with IVF.

When you put other areas of your life on pause to focus only on having a baby, those parts of you begin to atrophy like unused muscles

Rosanne regularly sees women who haven't had fun in years, haven't gone on vacation, and have let their professional development go neutral while obsessing over conception.

The primary driver for successful women shifts from fear to desire - they become focused on seeing the scenes in their heart play out in their life

Rosanne identified this pattern after coaching women globally for 8+ years. Her own success conceiving naturally at 43 came from focusing on moments like Asher's slumber party invitation rather than fear-based thinking.

Treating your fertility journey like a team keeps it light, fun, and more productive

Mr. Austin found that approaching their journey as teammates, with high-fives and shared accountability, made them more successful and kept joy in their relationship.

Joy and high vibration matter more than perfect diet - you can be healthy on various diets if you prioritize happiness first

Dr. Kiltz states 'I don't care what you eat. You can eat a pure vegan, vegetarian plant based meal, and you can still be healthy and well. Come to the joy of life side first.' He emphasizes that troubles are treasures from God.

Pleasure brings you into your body and into the present moment - you can't be freaked out about what's happening next week or obsessed about what didn't happen last month

Lauren recommends making a pleasure list on your phone of simple things like specific peppermint tea or 20-minute walks to access during stressful moments when you can't think of what's pleasurable.

Living a pleasurable life is about micro moments - are you completely present to the sensations of that cup of coffee or tea, or are you looking at your phone already freaked out about emails?

Lauren explains that pleasure doesn't require five hours at the spa or luxurious bubble baths - it's about being present to simple sensory experiences throughout the day.

From coaching women to fertility success for almost eight years, the consistent factor isn't extreme diets but when women bring joy back, love themselves, get into healthy relationships, and allow themselves to receive

Rosanne references watching women's faces in YouTube videos and podcast interviews, noting that fertility success comes from joy and self-love rather than eliminating dairy from their diet.

You can live your life and try to conceive simultaneously - vacation and fertility are not mutually exclusive

Alina bought a motorbike while trying to conceive and went on vacation to Santorini despite fertility concerns. Rosanne encouraged her to live fully, and Alina conceived naturally on that vacation, proving you don't have to put life on hold.

Joy on this journey breeds resilience — that's how you put one foot in front of the other long enough for success

Dr. Mariève went from nearly quitting after four failures to having the resilience to continue because she found her joy again, leading to conception on her fifth transfer.

Two things can be true at the same time — you can want your baby desperately AND live a full, joyful life

Dr. Mariève exemplified 'Yes, and' — Yes I want this baby, and I'm going to ski, have beer, get facials, and live fully. This approach led to conception after four failures.

When you feel loved, supported, seen, and taken care of, your energy goes through the fucking roof and you see opportunities, take leaps, and enhance your optimism

This strategic approach to mindset impacts fertility results because thoughts, beliefs, actions, and results are interconnected - you cannot outrun this truth.

People who are truly thriving take care of themselves and are not starved of joy - it's their joy, pleasure, and connection to their faith that keep them moving forward

This observation about thriving people contrasts with the pleasure anorexia that dims your light and restricts your resilience on the fertility journey.

The pleasure anorexia we engage in on this journey has got to fucking stop because it dims your light and restricts your resilience

Rosanne asks how your baby is supposed to find you when you're living this journey like a dried up prune of the woman you once were, emphasizing that pleasure makes you unstoppable.

Having fertility challenges gives physicians more compassion for patients facing tough situations

Dr. Caroline says her fertility journey and mindset work made her a better physician: 'I have talked with patients who've been in hard situations trying to get pregnant, and I get where they are coming from.'

Recognition and acknowledgment of your journey's challenges is essential for maintaining momentum forward

Rosanne acknowledges that 'very few people see' the growth women experience when 'challenged in so many ways' and 'having to step up their game in what feels like a thousand different areas,' which is why she dedicates this episode to recognition.

Being all in means way more attractive energy for calling in a baby than living in fear, doubt, negativity, and misery

Rosanne emphasizes the law of cause and effect - thoughts, beliefs, actions, results - and how showing up wildly different creates wildly different results on the fertility journey.

Gratitude will slay fear, negativity, and doubt every single time

When women complete Rosanne's two-step process of identifying gifts from difficult years and how to use them, they place themselves in gratitude which becomes their power position against fertility journey fears.

The more you come alive in your life, the quicker your baby gets here

Rosanne shares this principle from her own experience conceiving naturally at 43 after years of fertility treatment failure, emphasizing how she and her husband lived big and purposefully before Asher arrived.

You must engage in life affirming activities because you are trying to call in life

Rosanne teaches this principle led to her natural conception at 43 and drives the transformations she sees in her successful clients worldwide.

While everyone else is running around like Chicken Little, you gotta be clear about you, solid in you, and have peace within you

This internal stability is what differentiates successful fertility clients who beat the odds from those who get caught in fear cycles and poor decision-making.

The journey to becoming a mother often prepares you to be exactly the mother your specific child needs - every challenge shapes who you become

Hannah realized 'we maybe needed to go through what we needed to go through to get the baby we're getting now and to be the parents that we're gonna be now' - pregnant with a daughter at 43 after her fertility journey.

Everything that presented itself to you this year was a gift, if you're willing to see it that way - the up moments show how good life can be, the down moments remind you of your resilience

This reframing principle helped Rosanne transform years of fertility treatment failure into wisdom that enabled her natural conception at 43 and now helps women across six continents.

When you can focus on love and appreciation while owning the whole truth about your circumstances, you put yourself on the path to personal mastery

This balanced approach enabled Rosanne to acknowledge her fertility struggles while maintaining hope, leading to her natural conception at 43 after years of failed treatments.

You have incredible love to give, memories to create, and a purpose to fulfill

Rosanne's son Asher, conceived naturally at 43, demonstrates that age-defying conception happens when women understand their purpose.

Pain can be transformed into purpose when you decide to serve other women

Jennifer McAleer turned her experience with recurrent miscarriage and fertility struggles into founding Jade and Jo, a company creating hormone-friendly fertility foods for women

Pleasure is feminine energy, and the most successful conception experiences happen when women are connected to pleasure and joy rather than stressed and controlling

Rachel Birch conceived both times when she was fully present and enjoying herself with her husband, not when she was doing mechanical sex with legs up the wall for 30 minutes.

Beating yourself up and waiting for pregnancy to bring happiness creates stress that works against conception

Jennifer realized after 6 years that she was 'really beating up myself' and thinking she'd get happiness once pregnant, but had to find happiness before baby comes because 'your baby wants you to be happy now.'

The stress of helplessness about not getting pregnant is worse than the actual fertility challenge itself

Dr. Siegel explains that when you fear not having a pregnancy, it becomes more likely to happen, but when someone helps you relax and laugh, pregnancy becomes more likely than not having it happen.

You don't have to completely sacrifice yourself and your personal satisfaction to be a great mother

Rosanne refuses to do multiple sports every weekend, calling it martyrdom, and believes in a 'yes and' approach where both mother and children can be happy and satisfied, having raised her son for eight years with this philosophy.

Over-restriction and perfectionism in diet and lifestyle can work against conception

Elise conceived when she loosened her strict fertility diet, having previously eliminated gluten, dairy, sugar, caffeine and alcohol. She got pregnant while eating more freely, similar to Rosanne's experience with raw cheese and champagne.

The process doesn't have to suck — you can find joy and fun even in the midst of fertility treatments

Chrissie transformed her experience by asking her husband for surprise Friday night dates, saying yes to invitations again, and making her final transfer a celebration with music and intention rather than a medical procedure to endure.

Stopping life while trying to conceive actually repels the baby — they want to join a vibrant, joyful life

Chrissie stopped traveling and attending events 'just in case' it interfered with treatment cycles, but once she started saying yes to life again and planning trips, she conceived and celebrated with a beach vacation the day after her positive test.

Desperate energy repels what you want - your future child wants to come to a fun, joyful mom living her life, not someone who has put everything on hold.

Amanda conceived after deciding in 2023 to focus on fun, enjoying life, having drinks, and not obsessing about diet. Within 6 months of this energetic shift from desperation to joy, she conceived through IUI.

There must be life beyond this baby if you intend to be a great mom - making your child your end-all-be-all leads to resentment on both sides

Ed Mylett's quote reinforces this: 'One of the most insidious forms of child neglect is a parent who doesn't chase their dreams and potential.' The retreat focused on mapping miracles in all life areas, not just babies.

Put your fertility journey in proper context - you're not pursuing a vanity project, you're shaping your family tree and contributing to humanity

Rosanne conceived naturally at 43 after years of treatment failure by shifting her perspective from personal struggle to sacred calling, and now teaches this context shift to women across six continents.