Rosanne Austin teaches how to maintain intimacy and passion in your relationship while trying to conceive. She addresses the common problem of sex becoming goal-oriented and mechanical during fertility journeys, offering a three-step framework to restore connection and remove the pressure that kills romance.
Rosanne begins by acknowledging how sex becomes mechanized and goal-oriented during fertility struggles. She emphasizes the importance of honest assessment without anger or frustration, coming from a place of love and commitment to the relationship instead.
The second step involves envisioning what you want your intimate life to be, engaging the creative rather than complaint-focused part of your brain. This shift moves couples from limitation into possibility and constructive thinking about their connection.
Rosanne teaches removing baby-making pressure from sex and replacing it with openness, receptivity, and fun. She explains how energy during conception affects fertility outcomes, drawing from both scientific understanding and traditional wisdom about avoiding 'low vibe' sexual experiences.
The episode concludes with Rosanne empowering women to exercise feminine leadership in transforming their intimate relationships. She positions this work as essential for both relationship health and fertility success, encouraging women to take constructive action.
“I am open. My heart is open. My body is receptive, and this is fucking fun.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 14:00
Use a three-step approach: honestly assess your current sex life, envision what you want it to be, then remove the goal orientation. Replace baby-making pressure with 'I am open, my heart is open, my body is receptive, and this is fucking fun.'
“Everything is energy, people. Everything is energy. Energy is neither created nor destroyed. It just is, and energy is the basis of all matter.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 11:48
Yes, according to Rosanne Austin, everything is energy and emotional states during conception matter. Emotional congestion around sex affects female receptivity and the energy men bring to giving samples, potentially impacting fertility outcomes.
“It takes the spontaneity out. It can take the intimacy out, really. It's no longer an expression. It's a destination.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 9:56
Sex becomes mechanical because it transforms from an expression of love into a goal-oriented destination focused on conception timing. The pressure, deadlines, and fertile window tracking remove spontaneity and intimacy from the experience.
“As a woman who is the keeper of her relationship, this is an opportunity for you to really exercise some extremely powerful feminine leadership here.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 15:03
Women can exercise feminine leadership by taking constructive steps to transform their intimate relationship. This includes honestly assessing the current state, clearly envisioning desires, and approaching sex with openness rather than goal orientation.
“The fact that you wanna get pregnant is not going away. Right? Like, duh. That's obvious. Right? That's an awesome side effect of having a great sex life, is that you increase that possibility.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 10:46
Focus on being open, having your heart open, allowing your body to be receptive, and remembering that sex is fun. Think of pregnancy as an awesome side effect of having a great sex life rather than the primary goal.
“Don't answer this question from anger. Really come from a place of love, come from a place of commitment to success in your relationship, and come from a place of commitment to your family.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 4:58
Take a moment to honestly evaluate your intimate life without exaggeration, but critically - don't answer from anger, frustration or your saboteur voice. Answer from a place of love, commitment to your relationship, and commitment to your family.
A three-step framework to restore intimacy and passion while trying to conceive
Assess Current State Honestly
Take an honest look at your sex life without exaggeration. Answer from love, commitment to your relationship, and commitment to your family - not from anger or frustration which creates stories and saboteur voices.
Envision What You Want
Ask yourself what you want your intimate time to be like. This engages a more creative, emotional part of your brain with better access to truth, moving you from limitation into possibility.
Remove Goal Orientation
Take the baby-making pressure out of sex and replace it with: 'I am open. My heart is open. My body is receptive, and this is fucking fun.' Let pregnancy be an awesome side effect of great intimacy rather than the destination.
Sex becomes goal-oriented and mechanized during fertility journeys, destroying intimacy and spontaneity
Rosanne observed through 12+ years of coaching that couples chase each other around during fertile windows 'like they're a Thanksgiving turkey' and sex becomes 'very goal oriented and so laden with expectation'
Take goal orientation out of sexy time and replace it with 'I am open, my heart is open, my body is receptive, and this is fucking fun'
Rosanne's celebrity acupuncturist in San Francisco's Chinatown specifically told her 'do not have sex when you are low vibe' because 'it's bad energy'
Everything is energy and emotional congestion around sex affects both receptivity in women and the energy men bring to giving samples
Rosanne explains that 'if you have some emotional congestion around the sex in your relationship, you're gonna be bunched up. Your partner's gonna be bunched up' and 'as a woman, that affects your receptivity'
Women are the keepers of their relationships and can exercise powerful feminine leadership to transform their sex life
Rosanne states 'as a woman who is the keeper of her relationship, this is an opportunity for you to really exercise some extremely powerful feminine leadership here'
Use a three-step framework: assess current state honestly, envision what you want it to be, then remove goal orientation
Rosanne developed this systematic approach after observing that 'people get stuck on question number one' (complaining about current state) and 'don't ask the smarter question, which is really, well, what do you want it to be?'
Answer questions about your sex life from love and commitment, not from anger or frustration
Rosanne emphasizes 'don't answer this question from anger. Really come from a place of love, come from a place of commitment to success in your relationship' based on her experience that anger-based answers are 'laden with stories and saboteur voices'
Envisioning what you want sexually engages a different, more creative part of your brain than complaining about problems
Rosanne explains 'you're very practiced at the complaining and bitching about the state of your sexy time. But where we're entering here is a place of constructive thought... It's a more creative part of your brain, probably more emotional, probably more access to truth'
Sex during fertility journeys often becomes a destination rather than an expression, removing intimacy and partner connection
Rosanne observes that goal-oriented sex 'takes the spontaneity out. It can take the intimacy out, really. It's no longer an expression. It's a destination' and partners no longer feel 'seen' by each other
Sex becomes goal-oriented and mechanized during fertility journeys, destroying intimacy and spontaneity
▶ 9:03Take goal orientation out of sexy time and replace it with 'I am open, my heart is open, my body is receptive, and this is fucking fun'
▶ 14:00Everything is energy and emotional congestion around sex affects both receptivity in women and the energy men bring to giving samples
▶ 11:27Women are the keepers of their relationships and can exercise powerful feminine leadership to transform their sex life
▶ 15:03Use a three-step framework: assess current state honestly, envision what you want it to be, then remove goal orientation
▶ 3:57Answer questions about your sex life from love and commitment, not from anger or frustration
▶ 4:58Envisioning what you want sexually engages a different, more creative part of your brain than complaining about problems
▶ 8:01Sex during fertility journeys often becomes a destination rather than an expression, removing intimacy and partner connection
▶ 9:56“Sex must be perfectly timed and goal-oriented to maximize conception chances”
CONSIDER: Remove goal orientation and focus on openness, receptivity, and fun - having a great sex life naturally increases conception possibilities as an awesome side effect
“Energy and emotions don't affect fertility outcomes in measurable ways”
CONSIDER: Everything is energy and emotional states during conception directly impact fertility success - you don't want angry, resentful energy near the creation process
“I am open. My heart is open. My body is receptive, and this is fucking fun.”
“As a woman who is the keeper of her relationship, this is an opportunity for you to really exercise some extremely powerful feminine leadership here.”
“Everything is energy, people. Everything is energy. Energy is neither created nor destroyed. It just is, and energy is the basis of all matter.”
“It takes the spontaneity out. It can take the intimacy out, really. It's no longer an expression. It's a destination.”
“Don't answer this question from anger. Really come from a place of love, come from a place of commitment to success in your relationship, and come from a place of commitment to your family.”
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