Rosanne introduces the first Fertility Success Principle: integrity. She explains how successful women approach their fertility journey with integrity to themselves, their vision, and their values, emphasizing the importance of doing the work and paying the price for success.
Rosanne introduces integrity as the first fertility success principle, defining it as consistency to yourself, your vision, and your values. She explains how studying successful women across different backgrounds revealed this common thread among all who beat the odds.
True integrity involves doing what you say you'll do, not cutting corners, owning your mistakes, asking for help, and being willing to pay the price for your dreams. It's about showing up fully committed even when it's uncomfortable or inconvenient.
Drawing from her mentor Bob Proctor's wisdom, Rosanne explains that success requires paying a price that may include pain, disappointment, and consecutive failures. The key is stepping up and staying committed rather than making excuses or seeking sympathy.
Recent client successes demonstrate how women who apply these principles with integrity break through their blocks and achieve pregnancy. Rosanne emphasizes showing yourself the same integrity you show others and provides a practical exercise for implementation.
“Integrity to your self, integrity to your vision, integrity to your values, integrity to your partnership, integrity to your spirituality. Integrity, integrity, integrity.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 3:16
The first fertility success principle is integrity - integrity to yourself, your vision, your values, your partnership, and your spirituality. It means doing what you say you're going to do, not cutting corners, and being all in for paying the price to make your dreams come true.
“Show yourself and your desire to be a monk the same level of integrity. Show up to this journey in integrity with yourself.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 7:05
Apply integrity by doing the work without cutting corners, owning up to your mistakes, asking for help when needed, and being willing to pay the price for your dreams. Show yourself the same level of integrity you show at work or to other people.
“Anyone who is actually committed to your success won't tolerate lame excuses either. When you act with integrity, there are no excuses to be made.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 6:55
Coaches committed to your success won't tolerate excuses because excuses don't put babies in your arms. When you act with integrity, there are no excuses to be made - only consistent action toward your goal.
“Part of the price we pay on this journey can be pain, disappointment, consecutive consistent failures, and periods of time when you're left in a state of what the fuck.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 4:50
Paying the price means being willing to experience pain, disappointment, consecutive failures, and periods of uncertainty while staying committed to your goal. It's about stepping up and doing the work even when it's uncomfortable.
“When I stopped making excuses, bucked up, and started thinking, believing, and acting with integrity, everything about my journey changed.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 10:24
When you stop making excuses and start thinking, believing, and acting with integrity, everything about your journey changes. You break through blocks and start showing up like women who win.
A practical exercise to implement the fertility success principle of integrity
Pause and Reflect
When faced with a choice today or this week, take a moment and ask yourself what you really want
Connect with Your Values
Think about what you truly stand for and what matters most to you
Make an Integrity-Based Decision
Give yourself permission to make a decision with integrity and notice what's different
Share the Learning
Text the link to this podcast episode to someone who you think could benefit from it
Integrity is the foundational fertility success principle that separates women who conceive from those who don't
Rosanne studied 10+ years of fertility success patterns across women of different diagnoses, ages, and cultures, finding integrity as the common thread among all who beat the odds.
Integrity means doing what you say you're going to do, not cutting corners, owning up to your bullshit, and asking for help when you need it
Rosanne defines integrity through specific behaviors: doing the work, putting skin in the game, standing up when uncomfortable, and being all in for paying the price to make dreams come true.
If you aren't willing to pay the price, you don't deserve the reward
Rosanne credits her mentor Bob Proctor with this principle that transformed her approach, explaining that successful women step up and pay the price even through pain, disappointment, and consecutive failures.
You must get out of the shit pit of pain and self-pity because that's not where you will find your baby
Rosanne emphasizes that while compassion and support for real pain is important, women committed to success must pick themselves up and move forward rather than staying in victimhood.
Two women recently announced pregnancies after applying fertility success principles with integrity
In the past two weeks before this episode, two of Rosanne's clients announced pregnancies after learning to think differently, covering their bases, and showing up like women who win through consistent application of her teachings.
When women start thinking, believing, and acting with integrity, they break through the blocks
Rosanne observes this pattern repeatedly with her clients - when they stop making excuses and start operating with integrity, everything about their journey changes, just like it did for her own success at 43.
Show yourself and your desire to be a mom the same level of integrity you show at work or to other people
Rosanne points out that most women already operate with integrity in professional settings but need to apply that same standard to their fertility journey and relationship with themselves.
Anyone who is actually committed to your success won't tolerate lame excuses
Rosanne explains her intolerance for excuses stems from making them herself before conceiving at 43, and that true mentors focused on results don't enable excuse-making behavior.
Integrity is the foundational fertility success principle that separates women who conceive from those who don't
▶ 3:16Integrity means doing what you say you're going to do, not cutting corners, owning up to your bullshit, and asking for help when you need it
▶ 3:36If you aren't willing to pay the price, you don't deserve the reward
▶ 3:58You must get out of the shit pit of pain and self-pity because that's not where you will find your baby
▶ 4:29Two women recently announced pregnancies after applying fertility success principles with integrity
▶ 5:12When women start thinking, believing, and acting with integrity, they break through the blocks
▶ 6:24Show yourself and your desire to be a mom the same level of integrity you show at work or to other people
▶ 7:05Anyone who is actually committed to your success won't tolerate lame excuses
▶ 6:55“You can stay in pain and self-pity indefinitely and still find success”
CONSIDER: While compassion for your pain is important, you must get out of the shit pit because that's not where you will find your baby
“Making excuses is acceptable when facing fertility challenges”
CONSIDER: When you act with integrity, there are no excuses to be made - successful women step up and pay the price
“Integrity to your self, integrity to your vision, integrity to your values, integrity to your partnership, integrity to your spirituality. Integrity, integrity, integrity.”
“If you aren't willing to pay the price, you don't deserve the reward.”
“You've gotta pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and get the fuck out of the shit pit because that is not where you will find your baby.”
“When you act with integrity, there are no excuses to be made.”
“Success leaves clues. If you desire success, do what successful people do.”
“When I stopped making excuses, bucked up, and started thinking, believing, and acting with integrity, everything about my journey changed.”
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Conditions
Frameworks & Methods
Common Beliefs
If trying harder were the answer to fertility success, women would already be pregnant - the issue isn't lack of effort but the wrong approach
Women featured on the Fearlessly Fertile podcast who succeeded were told they had less than 1% chances and couldn't get pregnant with their own eggs, yet conceived by shifting away from force-based approaches.
Soft power is about alignment, emotional regulation, clarity, vision, receptivity and influence - not about being passive or giving up
Every woman who appeared on the Fearlessly Fertile podcast exercised soft power by ending the pushing and desperation of force and stepping into influence, clarity, certainty, and faith.
Worthiness issues from earlier relationships directly impact fertility journey outcomes and decision-making patterns.
Liz spent 10 years in an unhealthy relationship telling herself she didn't want kids rather than facing the reality, then ghosted her future husband because she couldn't believe he liked her for who she was. These same worthiness patterns showed up as immediately running to IVF after one miscarriage at 41.
The way you do one thing is the way you do everything - relationship patterns will show up in your fertility journey.
Liz's pattern of feeling unworthy in her relationship (ghosting her husband because she couldn't believe he liked her) directly translated to feeling inadequate about conceiving and immediately seeking medical intervention after one miscarriage instead of trusting her body.
