Part two of the Fertile AF Series examines women's dysfunctional relationship with time on their fertility journeys. Rosanne reveals how procrastinating on needed changes and living in the past sabotages fertility success.
Rosanne challenges the tendency to procrastinate on needed fertility changes, distinguishing between thoughtful consideration and fear-based delay. She emphasizes that women over 40 especially need comprehensive action rather than trying to shortcut with medicine alone.
She reframes the concept of divine delays, arguing that personal resistance and stories are not spiritually guided but rather individual hang-ups. When women address what they've been avoiding, results can come almost instantaneously.
Rosanne teaches that yesterday only exists in imagination and the stories we tell. Living in the past limits decision-making parameters and keeps women stuck in repeating patterns, while the power to create change exists only in the present moment.
She explains how mindset creates stress responses that affect fertility, emphasizing that you cannot out-treat or out-medicate problematic thinking patterns. Addressing both mind and body together creates the foundation for sustainable success.
“When you catch yourself procrastinating, resisting taking that next step, you have to ask why. There's a huge difference between thoughtful consideration and procrastination.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 2:26
You're procrastinating out of fear-based reasons, trying to see if you can get away with shortcuts instead of doing the work you know needs to be done. This only delays your breakthrough.
“The time is now. The time is not yesterday. Yesterday is only alive in your imagination, okay, and the stories you tell.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 11:32
Living in the past limits your decision-making and keeps you stuck in patterns. You have control over the stories you tell about past experiences and how you move forward.
“You cannot out treat or out medicate a bullshit mindset. It will keep you stuck as fuck.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 16:37
No, you cannot out-treat or out-medicate a problematic mindset. Mind and body work together, and untreated mindset issues will keep you stuck regardless of medical intervention.
“When you are in your forties, it's all fucking hands on deck, baby. And if you're lying to yourself about that because you think you don't need to address that yet, you're all wrong.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 4:28
Women over 40 need an 'all hands on deck' approach. You can't slow-roll mindset and health changes like you might in your twenties - the equation is different and requires focused action.
“When I started taking this shit seriously on my own journey, boom. It was compared to the number of years I spent in suffering, it was almost instantaneous.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 8:27
Many women see results within months of addressing mindset issues, compared to years spent struggling. The shift can be almost instantaneous relative to time spent suffering.
“If you understood that your mind is portable and it's going everywhere with you and it's shaping your experience, it's shaping your choices, it's also controlling the amount of stress that is going on in your life and creating a biological and chemical response in your body”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 5:51
Your mindset controls stress levels, which create biological and chemical responses in your body. Fear, doubt, negativity and comparison generate stress that impacts your physical fertility.
Procrastinating on needed fertility changes only delays your breakthrough and miracle
Rosanne spent years in suffering before addressing her mindset issues, but once she took action on her self-esteem and scarcity mindset, her results came almost instantaneously compared to the years of struggle.
Women over 40 need an 'all hands on deck' approach - the equation is different than in your twenties
Rosanne conceived naturally at 43 after addressing mindset and health factors she had previously avoided, demonstrating the need for comprehensive action at advanced maternal age.
Your resistance and stories are not divine delays - they're your own hang-ups keeping you stuck
Rosanne identifies how she used to cut corners and avoid mindset work, thinking she could get away with it, until her results showed what was really going on.
Women in my program get pregnant within months compared to years of previous struggling
Many women come on the podcast having achieved pregnancy within a year or even months of doing Rosanne's program, sometimes naturally and sometimes with IVF, creating results they couldn't get before.
Living in the past limits your decision-making parameters and keeps you stuck in Groundhog Day
Rosanne observes women torture themselves over past judgments from family members, ex-boyfriends, and parents, which controls their present choices and keeps them reliving the same patterns.
You cannot out-treat or out-medicate a bullshit mindset - it will keep you stuck as fuck
Based on 12+ years coaching thousands of women, Rosanne has observed that medical treatments alone fail when underlying mindset issues create stress and limit choices.
When you put shit off and live in the past, you don't love yourself - and having a baby will never feel like enough
Rosanne explains that women who don't address underlying issues will pass the same problems to their children and deal with the same cycles even after getting pregnant.
Stress is the cause of so many diseases, and your mindset creates that stress in your body
Rosanne explains how fear, doubt, negativity, comparison and shame create stress that produces biological and chemical responses in the body, which women can control through mindset work.
Procrastinating on needed fertility changes only delays your breakthrough and miracle
▶ 1:33Women over 40 need an 'all hands on deck' approach - the equation is different than in your twenties
▶ 3:58Your resistance and stories are not divine delays - they're your own hang-ups keeping you stuck
▶ 7:04Women in my program get pregnant within months compared to years of previous struggling
▶ 8:37Living in the past limits your decision-making parameters and keeps you stuck in Groundhog Day
▶ 13:12You cannot out-treat or out-medicate a bullshit mindset - it will keep you stuck as fuck
▶ 16:37When you put shit off and live in the past, you don't love yourself - and having a baby will never feel like enough
▶ 14:55Stress is the cause of so many diseases, and your mindset creates that stress in your body
▶ 5:00“Delays in your fertility journey are divine timing you should accept”
CONSIDER: Your resistance and procrastination are not divine - they're your own hang-ups delaying your miracle
“You can treat fertility issues with medicine alone”
CONSIDER: You cannot out-treat or out-medicate a bullshit mindset - mind and body work together
“The past defines your limitations and future possibilities”
CONSIDER: The time is now - yesterday only exists in your imagination and stories you tell
“You cannot out treat or out medicate a bullshit mindset. It will keep you stuck as fuck.”
“The time is now. Not four failed IVF cycles from now. The time is now.”
“Your resistance and your stories are not of god universe source. That's not fucking divine. It's your own fucking hang ups.”
“The time is now. The time is not yesterday. Yesterday is only alive in your imagination.”
“When you are in your forties, it's all fucking hands on deck, baby.”
“Are you serious about having a baby or not?”
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You must be brutally honest about what you're feeling regarding where you are on your fertility journey before you can create meaningful change
Rosanne shares that shortly before conceiving her son Asher at 43, she had an honest moment of saying 'I am not going to live this way anymore,' combining frustration with commitment that led to her breakthrough.
The timeline for when your baby will come is completely made up—no one has any control over when or how your baby arrives
Statistics about pregnancy over 40 are manipulated by people trying to sell drugs, and there are loads of women getting pregnant in their forties and after years of trying, as evidenced by the podcast's many miracle mama stories.
Mindset is the foundation of all success on the fertility journey - every decision about eating well, getting sleep, supplements, interventions, and your level of resilience is dictated by what you think and believe.
One of Rosanne's miracle mamas is 53 years old and holding her 6-week-old son at the time of this recording, demonstrating that mindset trumps physical limitations.
Success has nothing to do with luck - it's all about consistent behaviors you engage in. Behind every alleged overnight success were at least 100 decisions, big and small, that preceded a miracle mama calling in her baby.
Rosanne has coached women for 8+ years and consistently sees that breakthrough results come from accumulated decisions and behaviors, not random chance.
