As 2023 comes to a close, many fertility warriors feel defeated by another year without their baby. Rosanne Austin teaches three strategic points for smart women to close out the year powerfully and prepare for their baby in 2024: getting honest about your feelings, recognizing that timelines are made up, and upping your game differently than before.
Rosanne opens by acknowledging the pain many women feel as another year ends without their baby, while promoting her upcoming four-day challenge. She emphasizes that this podcast delivers real strategies that have helped women turn their journeys around in record time, with some achieving pregnancy within 12 months despite years of previous struggle.
The first strategic point requires brutal honesty about what you're feeling regarding where you are on your journey. Rosanne shares her own breakthrough moment of saying 'I am not going to live this way anymore' shortly before conceiving at 43, demonstrating how honest self-assessment combined with commitment creates transformation.
Rosanne challenges the worship of fertility timelines and age-related statistics, revealing how these are often manipulated by pharmaceutical companies. She emphasizes that countless women conceive in their 40s and that the desire for a child is timeless, transcending arbitrary medical deadlines.
The final point focuses on strategic change that includes YOU in the equation. Rather than adding more supplements or treatments, smart women change their perspective and approach to the journey. Rosanne emphasizes this is a learnable skill set that requires active participation, not passive consumption of information.
“I am so delighted to be here with you this week as usual... talking about the shit that really matters on this journey”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 1:02
First, be honest about what you're feeling about where you are, then ask what you want to do about it. Remember that timelines are made up, and focus on upping your game by changing your perspective, not just working harder.
“Statistics get manipulated all the fucking time. You gotta ask yourself who paid for those statistics, who paid for that study”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 12:30
No, fertility statistics are often manipulated by people trying to sell treatments. You should ask who paid for those studies. There are loads of women getting pregnant in their forties and after years of trying.
“It does mean that you're going to have to do things differently, and differently does not mean more or harder. Frankly, differently can be less work and less stress”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 15:14
Upping your game doesn't mean working harder or adding more supplements. It means doing things differently from a new perspective, which often involves less work and stress, not more. The key is including yourself and your mindset in the equation.
“I have women come to me all the time, three years, five years, ten years deep on their journey... They do my program, and bam, within twelve months, they're pregnant”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 4:07
Women who have been trying for 3-10 years can get pregnant within 12 months once they get their mindset right. The time spent getting to their baby after the mindset shift is dramatically shorter than the years they spent in fear and negativity.
“Smart women are gonna close out twenty twenty three differently than those who are gonna wallow in what didn't work out this year”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 14:54
Use three strategic points: be honest about your feelings and decide what to do about them, understand that timelines are made up, and identify where you need to up your game by including yourself and your mindset in the solution.
“Gold star mamas are gonna say, okay. I'm really fucking disappointed, so what do I wanna do about that?”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 10:17
Be honest about feeling disappointed, then ask yourself what you want to do about it. Gold star mamas don't just acknowledge their feelings—they take empowered action by focusing forward on what they want.
A three-point strategic framework for ending the year powerfully and setting yourself up for fertility success
Be honest about your feelings
Acknowledge what you're truly feeling about where you are on your journey. Don't pretend everything is fine or try to muscle through pain. Then ask yourself the gold star question: What do I want to do about this? Focus forward on empowered action rather than staying stuck in negative emotions.
Reject timeline tyranny
Understand that fertility timelines are completely made up and often manipulated by pharmaceutical companies. Question who paid for the studies behind scary statistics. Remember that loads of women get pregnant in their 40s and after years of trying. Your desire for your child is timeless.
Up your game strategically
Identify what needs to change, ensuring YOU are included in the equation. This doesn't mean working harder or adding more supplements—it means doing things differently from a new perspective. Focus on changing how you think about your journey, as this is where real transformation happens.
You must be brutally honest about what you're feeling regarding where you are on your fertility journey before you can create meaningful change
Rosanne shares that shortly before conceiving her son Asher at 43, she had an honest moment of saying 'I am not going to live this way anymore,' combining frustration with commitment that led to her breakthrough.
The timeline for when your baby will come is completely made up—no one has any control over when or how your baby arrives
Statistics about pregnancy over 40 are manipulated by people trying to sell drugs, and there are loads of women getting pregnant in their forties and after years of trying, as evidenced by the podcast's many miracle mama stories.
Smart women worship at the altar of their commitment to their baby, not at the altar of a timeline
Rosanne emphasizes that the desire for your child is timeless and points to her interview with Dr. Zaher Mirhi about how fertility statistics are often manipulated by pharmaceutical companies.
You cannot keep making the same choices and expecting a different result—it's time to up your game, but differently means less work and stress, not more
Women in Rosanne's programs who were 3-10 years deep in their journey got pregnant within 12 months once they got their minds right, spending less time getting to their baby after the mindset shift.
When you get your mind on board, women who spent years in fear and negativity can turn their journey around within twelve months
Rosanne shares that women come to her 3-5-10 years deep on their journey, do her program, and within 12 months they're pregnant, spending dramatically less time getting to their baby once they change their mindset.
Pain sustained for too long will take you out of the fertility game—you cannot muscle through misery and expect success
Rosanne warns that pretending everything is fine or trying to muscle through pain leads to being taken out of the game, referencing episode 244 on empowerment vs entitlement.
Your answer to upping your game must include YOU at some level—this is a skill set that requires active learning, not just reading blog posts
Rosanne explains that women will change everything else—diet, exercise, supplements, EMF exposure—but rarely look at themselves and how they think, which is where the real transformation happens.
The empowered woman's eyes are forward, focused on what she wants, understanding there are no free lunches on this journey
Gold star mamas ask 'what do I want to do about this' when facing disappointment, rather than staying stuck in negative emotions, as Rosanne teaches in the three-point framework.
You must be brutally honest about what you're feeling regarding where you are on your fertility journey before you can create meaningful change
▶ 6:50The timeline for when your baby will come is completely made up—no one has any control over when or how your baby arrives
▶ 10:58Smart women worship at the altar of their commitment to their baby, not at the altar of a timeline
▶ 12:20You cannot keep making the same choices and expecting a different result—it's time to up your game, but differently means less work and stress, not more
▶ 15:44When you get your mind on board, women who spent years in fear and negativity can turn their journey around within twelve months
▶ 4:07Pain sustained for too long will take you out of the fertility game—you cannot muscle through misery and expect success
▶ 9:35Your answer to upping your game must include YOU at some level—this is a skill set that requires active learning, not just reading blog posts
▶ 18:59The empowered woman's eyes are forward, focused on what she wants, understanding there are no free lunches on this journey
▶ 10:37“Another year going by without a baby means you're in the exact same position and no closer to success”
CONSIDER: It's impossible to be in the exact same position because time has passed, things have happened, and nobody has ever lived today before—you're always evolving
“Getting pregnant over 40 is so much harder and such a challenge based on statistics”
CONSIDER: Statistics get manipulated all the time by people trying to sell you drugs—there are loads of women getting pregnant in their forties and after years of trying
“Upping your game means working harder and doing more treatments, supplements, and protocols”
CONSIDER: Upping your game means doing things differently from a different perspective, which can actually mean less work and stress
“I am not gonna live this way anymore”
“Statistics get manipulated all the fucking time. You gotta ask yourself who paid for those statistics, who paid for that study”
“Smart women don't live under the tyranny of a timeline”
“You cannot keep making the same choices and expecting a different result”
“This desire for their child is fucking timeless”
“The empowered woman on this journey, her eyes are forward. They are focused on what she wants”
“Pain sustained for too long will take you out of the game”
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Conditions
Frameworks & Methods
Common Beliefs
If trying harder were the answer to fertility success, women would already be pregnant - the issue isn't lack of effort but the wrong approach
Women featured on the Fearlessly Fertile podcast who succeeded were told they had less than 1% chances and couldn't get pregnant with their own eggs, yet conceived by shifting away from force-based approaches.
Soft power is about alignment, emotional regulation, clarity, vision, receptivity and influence - not about being passive or giving up
Every woman who appeared on the Fearlessly Fertile podcast exercised soft power by ending the pushing and desperation of force and stepping into influence, clarity, certainty, and faith.
The desire in your heart to be a mom is there because it was fucking meant for you - this desire is your divine assignment
Rosanne conceived naturally at 43 after years of treatment failure by following this principle. Recent podcast guests Elise and Mikayla both held babies after choosing belief over their circumstances.
Belief always precedes the miracle - you must believe even in the darkest moments, not just when things feel good
All of the recent podcast success stories featured women who believed bigger than their current circumstances. A fertility expert interviewed confirmed that most fertility challenges are figureoutable.
