Lavinia shares her incredible 10-year fertility journey from Hashimoto's diagnosis to holding her baby girl at 43. After multiple IVF failures, miscarriage, and autoimmune issues, she transformed her mindset through the Fearlessly Fertile Method and conceived with her last embryo.
LaviniaAge 43· IVF· Baby girlBefore
Living like a victim, constantly thinking worst-case scenarios, planning obsessively and getting destroyed when timelines didn't work out
Key Shift
Shifted from 'this is happening TO me' to 'this is happening FOR me' and reframed pregnancy loss as proof she could conceive
After
Empowered, trusting, able to schedule appointments 6 months in advance with complete faith in her outcome
Lavinia's journey began in Romania when she was diagnosed with Hashimoto's thyroid condition. After moving to Spain and struggling to conceive, she encountered the aggressive IVF-first approach common in fertility clinics, where doctors recommended IVF at age 36 without comprehensive testing.
Through multiple IVF cycles, Lavinia experienced the crushing disappointment of embryos failing to develop and the devastating loss of a pregnancy that initially tested positive. Each setback deepened her sense of victimhood and despair, leading her to seek answers beyond conventional medicine.
At her lowest point, Lavinia discovered the Fearlessly Fertile Method and began the deep work of examining her limiting beliefs and victim mentality. This transformation shifted her perspective from 'this is happening to me' to 'this is happening for me,' fundamentally changing her approach to the journey.
Demonstrating her newfound faith, Lavinia scheduled her pregnancy appointment six months before her final embryo transfer. At age 43, after 10 years of trying, she successfully conceived and carried her baby girl to term, proving that persistence combined with mindset transformation can overcome seemingly insurmountable odds.
“I was forty three when I had her. I'm forty four now.”
— Lavinia▶ 33:02
Yes, many women conceive at 43 and beyond, even after multiple treatment failures. Lavinia conceived at 43 after 10 years of trying, proving that age and past failures don't determine your future outcome.
“I realized that, no, this was really strange to say, but it's like a blessing because I found out that I can get pregnant. So it was only to find the way to stay pregnant.”
— Lavinia▶ 23:46
A positive pregnancy test, even one that ends in loss, proves your body can conceive. It's evidence of your fertility, not failure. The focus shifts to finding ways to support a healthy pregnancy rather than believing conception is impossible.
“I actually scheduled my first, doctor's appointment before I even had the transfer done. So the transfer was done in October. I I did the the the schedule, like, in in in the summer.”
— Lavinia▶ 28:03
Living from your vision means making plans and appointments based on your desired outcome, not your current circumstances. It's acting with complete faith that your goal will manifest, even before you see physical evidence.
“despite all of her pain, all of her misery, Lavinia is holding her baby girl today because she had the courage to say yes.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 1:22
There is no universal timeline that's 'too long' if you're still saying yes to your vision of motherhood. Some women succeed after 10+ years when they address the right combination of physical and mental factors.
“I realized that it's not it's not this. It's I'm not like this. I was always thinking that, okay. This is this is my journey. This is what I have to do. This was my fight, let's say, or my journey that I was I had to leave it.”
— Lavinia▶ 22:12
Victim mentality in fertility means believing things are happening TO you rather than FOR you. It's feeling powerless, focusing on what's not working, and believing you have no control over your outcomes.
“I think that you appreciate things a lot a lot more or differently at that now, especially after, having a journey that was so long, you see things differently.”
— Lavinia▶ 33:33
Many women find being a mom in their 40s deeply rewarding because they appreciate every moment more fully. After a long fertility journey, the challenges that younger moms complain about feel like privileges to cherish.
The fertility journey can be a catalyst for complete life transformation if you allow it to wake you up to an entirely different way of living
Lavinia spent 10 years on her fertility journey from age 33-43, transforming from someone living in victim mentality to an empowered woman who now coaches other women through fertility struggles.
You can meditate all day, but if you don't change the underlying belief system that's causing you to be stuck in worst-case scenario thinking, meditation alone won't create the transformation you need
Lavinia tried meditation and felt better physically but still had racing thoughts about 'what if I transfer and it doesn't work' until she addressed her limiting beliefs through mindset work.
A positive pregnancy test followed by loss is actually proof that you CAN get pregnant - it's evidence of your body's ability, not failure
Lavinia had a positive pregnancy test that ended in loss, which she initially saw as her 'rock bottom.' Through mindset work, she reframed it as proof she could get pregnant and just needed to find the way to stay pregnant.
Living from your vision means making appointments and plans based on your desired outcome, not your current circumstances
Lavinia scheduled her 8-week pregnancy checkup 6 months in advance before her embryo transfer, demonstrating complete faith in her outcome. She had to postpone it by one month but kept the appointment and was indeed pregnant.
The switch from 'this is happening TO me' to 'this is happening FOR me' is critical for success on the fertility journey
Lavinia identified this mindset shift as key to her transformation from victim to empowered creator, allowing her to take advantage of her experiences and continue moving forward instead of staying stuck.
Being a mom in your 40s after a long fertility journey means you appreciate every moment differently because you know how precious and fleeting it all is
Lavinia had her daughter at 43 after 10 years of trying and says she enjoys contact sleeping and night wakings that other moms complain about because she knows these phases pass quickly.
You can tell when someone is going to be successful based on how they think about their past experiences and setbacks
Lavinia was able to reframe her pregnancy loss as proof she could conceive rather than evidence of failure, demonstrating the thinking pattern that leads to eventual success.
When doctors immediately recommend IVF based solely on age without proper testing, it's time to seek a second opinion
At age 36, Lavinia was told by a fertility doctor to do IVF without comprehensive testing. She walked away and sought other options, demonstrating the importance of advocating for proper evaluation.
Working on yourself isn't just beneficial for you - it's creating the optimal environment for your baby to develop in utero
Lavinia recognized that her mindset transformation meant her baby wouldn't be 'swimming around in cortisol' and that she became a better mother because of the personal growth work she did during her 10-year journey.
The mindset work needed for fertility success extends beyond just getting to a positive pregnancy test - you need mental strength for the full 40 weeks
Lavinia experienced fear creeping back in after her positive test, remembering her previous loss, but was able to use her mindset tools to stay grounded throughout pregnancy.
The fertility journey can be a catalyst for complete life transformation if you allow it to wake you up to an entirely different way of living
▶ 36:41You can meditate all day, but if you don't change the underlying belief system that's causing you to be stuck in worst-case scenario thinking, meditation alone won't create the transformation you need
▶ 14:45A positive pregnancy test followed by loss is actually proof that you CAN get pregnant - it's evidence of your body's ability, not failure
▶ 23:51Living from your vision means making appointments and plans based on your desired outcome, not your current circumstances
▶ 28:03The switch from 'this is happening TO me' to 'this is happening FOR me' is critical for success on the fertility journey
▶ 26:00Being a mom in your 40s after a long fertility journey means you appreciate every moment differently because you know how precious and fleeting it all is
▶ 33:12You can tell when someone is going to be successful based on how they think about their past experiences and setbacks
▶ 23:29When doctors immediately recommend IVF based solely on age without proper testing, it's time to seek a second opinion
▶ 5:28Working on yourself isn't just beneficial for you - it's creating the optimal environment for your baby to develop in utero
▶ 30:51The mindset work needed for fertility success extends beyond just getting to a positive pregnancy test - you need mental strength for the full 40 weeks
▶ 30:09“A pregnancy loss means your body has failed and proves you can't get pregnant”
CONSIDER: A positive pregnancy test, even one that ends in loss, is proof that your body CAN conceive - it's evidence of ability, not failure
“At 36, if you haven't conceived quickly, IVF is the automatic next step”
CONSIDER: Age alone is not an indication for immediate IVF without proper comprehensive testing to identify potential underlying issues
“Victims of circumstances have no control over their fertility outcomes”
CONSIDER: Recognizing victim mentality is an invitation to start creating a different experience and taking responsibility for your journey
“You can meditate all fucking day. But if you don't change the underlying belief system that's causing you to be stuck in what if limited thinking, the worst case scenarios, the meditation is not going to change that on its own.”
“This is when I realized that this is this is my issue because I started maybe I wasn't like this always, but I started at some point to feel like a victim. It doesn't happen to me. Everybody else is getting pregnant. I'm not.”
“I realized that, no, this was really strange to say, but it's like a blessing because I found out that I can get pregnant. So it was only to find the way to stay pregnant.”
“In October, I'm sure that I'm going to be pregnant. And, well, I did it. I I had to postpone for one month because we had to postpone also the the transfer for one month. But in the end, I I just I went for it”
“despite all of her pain, all of her misery, Lavinia is holding her baby girl today because she had the courage to say yes.”
“They have to trust it, that it will happen in in its own time. I always was thinking that, okay. This is this is my journey. This is what I have to do. This was my fight, let's say, or my journey that I was I had to leave it.”
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Frameworks & Methods
You can meditate all day, but if you don't change the underlying belief system that's causing you to be stuck in 'what if' limited thinking and worst case scenarios, meditation alone won't create change.
Levvenia meditated for years but remained stuck in negative thinking patterns until she addressed her limiting beliefs through mindset work
Owning that you are behaving like a victim is not an accusation - it's an invitation to start creating a different experience.
Levvenia recognized her victim mentality after years of thinking 'it doesn't happen to me, everybody else is getting pregnant' and transformed into an empowered creator
The pain and struggle of your fertility journey disappears once you have your baby in your arms - nothing else matters
Trish, who struggled for years before conceiving her daughter Geordie and is now pregnant again, shares that the relief and magnitude of love outweighs all the grief, sadness and disappointment from the journey.
You are the absolute boss and decision maker of your fertility journey - not the doctors
Diana applied this mindset shift to conceive her son and now has two daughters, ages 2 and 2 months. She uses these same techniques for career decisions and all life choices.
