Rosanne teaches the most important promise you'll ever make - to yourself. She challenges listeners to take full responsibility for their fertility success by making a heart-based commitment: 'I will do this for you.' This episode reframes the tendency to look to others for promises and guarantees on the fertility journey.
Rosanne opens by challenging listeners to move beyond hope as a strategy and instead make a concrete promise to themselves. She emphasizes the importance of taking time for self-reflection even during the busy holiday season, as this work is foundational to success in the coming year.
Before making any promises, Rosanne guides listeners to acknowledge and appreciate all the effort they've put into their fertility journey this year. She emphasizes the importance of recognizing your dedication regardless of outcomes, as this sets the foundation for the transformative promise to come.
The core teaching centers on making yourself the promise: 'I will do this for you.' Rosanne explains how this shifts you from looking to others for guarantees to positioning yourself as the authority on your journey, taking full responsibility for your success.
Rosanne challenges the common pattern of expecting doctors, partners, and family to make promises about your fertility success that you won't make to yourself. She teaches that all other people are pieces of the puzzle, but you are responsible for seeing your dream through.
Drawing on her recent results of 10 pregnancies announced in 18 days, Rosanne reinforces that mindset is health care and half the battle on the fertility journey. She explains why you cannot separate mind from body and how this understanding is crucial for success.
“I want you to just think about the woman you are at heart... And here's the promise that I'm gonna invite you to make... I will do it for you.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 6:54
Make yourself the promise: 'I will do this for you.' This means taking full responsibility for your fertility success rather than looking to others for guarantees.
“Nobody is gonna come save you on this journey. You are the one that is going to guarantee your success on this journey.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 9:09
Stop expecting others to make promises about your fertility journey that you won't make to yourself. Position yourself as the authority on your journey and take 100% responsibility for your success or failure.
“Mindset is health care. You cannot physiologically separate your mind from your body, loves.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 16:21
Mindset is health care - you cannot physiologically separate your mind from your body. It's half the battle on your fertility journey and impacts everything about your success.
“Your doctor isn't gonna do that. All of those people are are bits and pieces of this puzzle. But at the end of the day, seeing your dream through comes down to you.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 9:30
Stop expecting your doctor to make promises about your success that you won't make to yourself. Your doctor is just one piece of the puzzle - you are responsible for seeing your dream through.
“You have to believe that you're worth all that, that you're worth the inconvenience. You're worth the investment. You're worth the trouble.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 11:15
You have to believe you're worth every dime, month, day, and year you invest. You're worth the inconvenience, investment, trouble, miles driven, and flights taken in pursuit of your dream.
A step-by-step process for making a heart-based commitment to your fertility success
Reflect on Your Journey
Think about all the things you've done this year in the name of your dream - cycles, treatments, driving, supplements, programs. Feel appreciation for your effort regardless of outcome.
Connect to Your Heart
Think about the woman you are at heart - the one who would research for hours, stand on her head, eat only kale for a year in the name of this baby. Feel the tenacity you've shown in the face of despair and disappointment.
Make the Promise
Say to yourself: 'I will do this for you [your name]. I love you so much. I am going to do this for you. I don't care what anyone says or does. At the end of the day, it's me, myself, and I. I owe this to me.'
Position Yourself as Authority
Recognize that you are 100% responsible for your success or failure. Stop looking to doctors, partners, family for promises you won't keep to yourself.
Live with Integrity
Keep this promise with integrity to yourself, to the divine source that put this desire in your heart, and to your purpose. Lead from love and clarity of vision.
Hope is not a strategy for fertility success - you need clear vision and action
Rosanne references Jeff Bezos' quote 'Hope is not a strategy' and explains that getting to January first just hoping things change sets women up for failure on their fertility journey.
You must make yourself a promise: 'I will do this for you' - taking full responsibility for your fertility success
Rosanne shares that this promise to herself changed her life and led to her natural conception at 43 despite years of treatment failure. She emphasizes this is the foundation of becoming a woman who keeps promises to herself.
Nobody is going to come save you on this journey - you are the one who guarantees your success
Rosanne explains that looking to doctors, partners, family and friends for promises you won't make to yourself is hypocritical, and that all these people are just pieces of the puzzle while you are responsible for seeing your dream through.
When you make a heart-based promise to yourself, you position yourself as the authority on your journey
Rosanne teaches that making this promise shifts you from uncertainty, doubt, and negativity into being 100% responsible for your success or failure, no longer blaming doctors, partners, or family.
You have to believe you're worth every dime, month, day, and year you invest in this journey
Rosanne emphasizes that some women have been trying to conceive for a decade and must believe they're worth all the inconvenience, investment, trouble, miles driven, and flights taken in pursuit of their dream.
In just 18 days of November, 10 women in my coaching practice announced pregnancies - the kind of numbers you'd expect from a fertility clinic
Rosanne shares specific results from her practice: 10 pregnancies announced in 18 days, demonstrating the extraordinary power of mindset work which she calls 'health care' since you cannot physiologically separate mind from body.
Every woman who desires a child was meant to have one - there's something in her heart calling her to it
Rosanne expresses her total belief in this principle, explaining that following this deepest calling requires making a promise to yourself with integrity to God/universe/source that put the desire in your heart and integrity with your purpose.
Mindset is health care - you cannot physiologically separate your mind from your body
Rosanne explains that mindset is half the battle on the fertility journey, referencing her 10 pregnancies in 18 days result and emphasizing that when you think about health care in its whole sense (mind, body, spirit), mindset's impact is everything.
Hope is not a strategy for fertility success - you need clear vision and action
▶ 2:45You must make yourself a promise: 'I will do this for you' - taking full responsibility for your fertility success
▶ 7:34Nobody is going to come save you on this journey - you are the one who guarantees your success
▶ 9:09When you make a heart-based promise to yourself, you position yourself as the authority on your journey
▶ 9:52You have to believe you're worth every dime, month, day, and year you invest in this journey
▶ 10:54In just 18 days of November, 10 women in my coaching practice announced pregnancies - the kind of numbers you'd expect from a fertility clinic
▶ 15:51Every woman who desires a child was meant to have one - there's something in her heart calling her to it
▶ 13:07Mindset is health care - you cannot physiologically separate your mind from your body
▶ 16:21“Look to doctors, partners, family and friends to make promises and guarantees about your fertility success”
CONSIDER: You must make the promise to yourself - expecting others to deliver on promises you won't keep to yourself is hypocritical
“Hope that things will change and get better on your fertility journey”
CONSIDER: Hope is not a strategy - you need clear vision and purposeful action
“Hope is not a strategy”
“I will do this for you”
“Nobody is gonna come save you on this journey. You are the one that is going to guarantee your success on this journey.”
“Mindset is health care. You cannot physiologically separate your mind from your body, loves.”
“Do not expect other people to deliver on promises that you won't keep to yourself. It's hypocritical.”
“I totally believe that every woman that desires a child was meant to have one.”
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Frameworks & Methods
There's a difference between valid emotions and lifestyle self-pity that keeps you stuck in the same patterns for months or years
Rosanne distinguishes between honoring real feelings of frustration, sadness and grief versus staying stuck in 'nothing ever works out for me' thinking that becomes self-sabotage and prevents progress on the fertility journey.
Your mindset is the foundation of your fertility journey experience - thoughts, beliefs, actions, results is logical and linear
Rosanne explains that everything begins as a thought, so staying stuck in 'nothing works for me' thinking creates self-sabotage, while believing your desire is meant for you creates different actions and results.
Jealousy manifests in sneaky ways like explaining away others' success with thoughts like 'she was just lucky' or 'she must be better than me'
Rosanne identifies specific jealousy patterns that emerged as listeners heard success stories from Elise, Fran, Linda, and Lizzie over the past five weeks of episodes.
At its core, jealousy is an outward focus where you're looking at what other people have and saying 'why not me?' - making yourself separate from their success
Every successful woman featured over the past five weeks found a way to move past jealousy and focus inward on their vision rather than being carried off course by comparison.
