Fertility mindset coach Rosanne Austin interviews EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) expert Ben Schwartz about using tapping to heal fertility trauma and stress. Ben explains how this mind-body technique works on acupressure points while verbalizing negative emotions to desensitize trauma responses that can block conception.
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Rosanne opens by sharing her personal revelation that despite perfect physical protocols, her toxic mindset was blocking conception. She emphasizes that medicine alone cannot save you without addressing the mental and emotional components that influence treatment success.
Ben Schwartz explains how Emotional Freedom Technique works on acupuncture principles, using fingertip tapping on meridian points while focusing on emotional trauma. He reveals that research shows the placebo effect accounts for one-third of all medical treatment success, proving the mind's powerful influence on healing.
Ben reveals that 90% of our behavior is driven by unconscious patterns, which is why conscious willpower alone can't overcome self-sabotage. He explains how unhealed trauma like miscarriage creates physiological stress that shuts down reproductive hormones and blocks conception.
Ben guides listeners through a complete EFT sequence, demonstrating how to tap specific acupressure points while verbalizing negative emotions about fertility struggles. He emphasizes expressing authentic negative feelings rather than positive affirmations to effectively release trapped trauma.
“EFT is a mind body technique, and it's the really the core technique in a whole field of psychology called energy psychology.”
— Ben Schwartz▶ 6:08
EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) is a mind-body technique that combines tapping on acupressure points while focusing on emotional trauma or stress. It works by desensitizing your nervous system's reaction to disturbing memories or feelings, helping release unconscious blocks to conception.
“when you have not dealt with that, haven't released the emotional trauma of that completely is gonna haunt you inevitably and when you're trying to get pregnant again, that fear is always there. That creates stress, that shuts down your hormones”
— Ben Schwartz▶ 14:22
Yes, stress has a documented impact on fertility. Research shows the placebo effect accounts for one-third of medical treatment success, proving the mind's power. Additionally, when wildlife populations are stressed by environmental factors, they stop reproducing - the same biological response occurs in humans.
“Tapping the side of the hand, just steadily tapping there and just say these words, Even though I'm so frustrated with my body.”
— Ben Schwartz▶ 26:04
Start by tapping the side of your hand while saying an acceptance statement like 'Even though I feel frustrated with my body, I deeply accept myself.' Then tap points in order: top of head, eyebrow, corner of eye, under eye, under nose, chin, collarbone, and under arm while verbalizing your actual negative feelings rather than positive affirmations.
“Perfectionism is very, common in this in this area, you know, with fertility issues. It's it's a known thing. The more you try to do it all right and do it perfectly, the more you're working against yourself.”
— Ben Schwartz▶ 32:26
Yes, perfectionism is a known factor that works against fertility success. The more you try to control and perfect every aspect of your fertility journey, the more stress you create. Conception requires surrendering and letting go rather than rigid control, which is opposite to how perfectionist thinking works.
“our unconscious mind accounts for at least ninety percent of what's influencing you. The conscious mind is only a small fraction of what is steering your boat.”
— Ben Schwartz▶ 30:32
The unconscious mind accounts for at least 90% of what influences your behavior and decisions, while conscious awareness is only a small fraction. This means unconscious trauma, fears, or self-sabotage patterns can powerfully impact fertility even when you consciously want to conceive.
“miscarriages in the past. Those are traumas. Nobody has a miscarriage and is not traumatized by that to some degree, sometimes to a large degree.”
— Ben Schwartz▶ 14:11
Yes, EFT tapping is specifically designed to heal trauma, and miscarriages are traumas that affect everyone who experiences them. Unhealed miscarriage trauma creates fear that haunts future conception attempts, shutting down hormones and affecting your body's ability to relax and conceive naturally.
A basic EFT tapping sequence to release fertility-related stress and trauma
Setup Statement
Tap the side of your hand while saying 'Even though I feel frustrated with my body, I deeply and completely accept myself' (modify acceptance statement as needed)
Tap the Crown
Tap top of head 5-10 times while saying 'I feel helpless'
Tap Eyebrow Point
Tap center of eyebrow while saying 'Frustrated with my body'
Tap Corner of Eye
Tap temple area on orbital bone while expressing your feelings
Continue the Sequence
Tap under eye, under nose, chin, collarbone, and under arm while voicing negative emotions
Check Intensity
Rate emotional intensity 1-10 before and after, repeat rounds until neutral
End with Positives
After releasing negativity, add positive statements like 'My body could be my ally'
The placebo effect accounts for one third of positive medical outcomes, proving your mind has tremendous power to influence treatment success
Research shows placebo effect accounts for about one-third of positive results in any medicine or medical procedure, according to EFT expert Ben Schwartz
Unhealed miscarriage trauma creates fear that haunts future conception attempts, shutting down hormones and affecting the body's ability to relax and conceive
Ben Schwartz explains that miscarriages are traumas that nobody recovers from without emotional healing, and unresolved trauma creates stress that affects fertility physiology
EFT tapping works by focusing on disturbing emotions while tapping acupressure points to desensitize trauma responses and neutralize emotional charge
Ben Schwartz demonstrates specific tapping points from side of hand to top of head, eyebrow, corner of eye, under nose, chin, collarbone and under arm while verbalizing negative emotions
Your unconscious mind accounts for at least 90% of what influences you, which is why conscious willpower alone can't overcome self-sabotage patterns
Ben Schwartz explains that unconscious forces create tremendous stress in the body that you don't realize, and conscious mind is only a small fraction of what steers your decisions
Perfectionism is a known factor that works against fertility success - the more you try to do everything perfectly, the more you sabotage yourself
Ben Schwartz confirms perfectionist tendencies are very common with fertility issues and explains that unlike other life areas, conception requires surrendering and letting go rather than controlling
Stressed wildlife populations stop reproducing when humans encroach on their territory, proving stress directly impacts fertility across species
Ben Schwartz explains that wildlife biologists observe animal populations dropping when stressed by human encroachment, hunting increases, or resource scarcity
EFT tapping should focus on expressing the negative emotions and trauma, not positive affirmations - you purge negativity out rather than cover it up
Ben Schwartz demonstrates tapping technique saying 'I feel hopeless' and 'frustrated with my body' rather than positive statements, explaining this releases trapped emotions
If you aren't working on the mind piece of fertility, you have a gaping hole in your strategy regardless of how healthy your diet is
Rosanne Austin explains that eating kale won't help if you're quietly sabotaging yourself, and emphasizes mind-body work as essential for complete fertility strategy
The placebo effect accounts for one third of positive medical outcomes, proving your mind has tremendous power to influence treatment success
▶ 11:07Unhealed miscarriage trauma creates fear that haunts future conception attempts, shutting down hormones and affecting the body's ability to relax and conceive
▶ 14:11EFT tapping works by focusing on disturbing emotions while tapping acupressure points to desensitize trauma responses and neutralize emotional charge
▶ 16:46Your unconscious mind accounts for at least 90% of what influences you, which is why conscious willpower alone can't overcome self-sabotage patterns
▶ 30:32Perfectionism is a known factor that works against fertility success - the more you try to do everything perfectly, the more you sabotage yourself
▶ 32:26Stressed wildlife populations stop reproducing when humans encroach on their territory, proving stress directly impacts fertility across species
▶ 33:17EFT tapping should focus on expressing the negative emotions and trauma, not positive affirmations - you purge negativity out rather than cover it up
▶ 21:24If you aren't working on the mind piece of fertility, you have a gaping hole in your strategy regardless of how healthy your diet is
▶ 33:59“Medicine alone will save me and fix my fertility problems”
CONSIDER: Medicine is amazing and a blessing, but it is nothing without you and your will - your mind and body must work together
“I can control my fertility outcomes through perfect execution of protocols”
CONSIDER: Perfectionism actually works against fertility - conception requires surrendering, letting go and relaxing rather than controlling everything
“Medicine is amazing, and it is indeed a blessing, but it is nothing without you and your fucking will.”
“the reason I wasn't getting pregnant was me. None of my treatments would work nor would my body cooperate if I was literally tearing myself apart like that.”
“your mind is actually one third of the influence at least of something working or not. the healer is you.”
“If you aren't working on the mind piece, you've got a gaping hole in your strategy, baby, because you can eat as much kale as you want. But if you're quietly sabotaging yourself”
“our unconscious mind accounts for at least ninety percent of what's influencing you. The conscious mind is only a small fraction of what is steering your boat.”
“you can think of it as a way to purge the negativity out of you.”
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