Rosanne explores fertility success principle #6: having a high opinion of yourself. She explains how women who beat the odds believe they and their dreams matter, distinguishing this from narcissism and connecting it to abundant thinking that fuels different actions and better results.
Rosanne explains her direct communication style, comparing it to sharing insider knowledge about what makes successful people like Oprah or Steve Jobs tick. She serves women more committed to their dreams than their excuses, refusing to coddle when real transformation requires honest self-examination.
Women who beat fertility odds share one trait - they have a high opinion of themselves and believe their dreams matter. This isn't narcissism but respect for the unique expression they were meant to be, given their 1 in 444 trillion chance of being human.
Having a high opinion of yourself leads to abundant mindset where you can celebrate others' success knowing your blessing is coming too. This eliminates the jealousy and comparison that comes from scarcity thinking about limited good in the world.
Rosanne provides a three-step exercise: honestly assess your current self-opinion, write yourself a love letter and read it daily for a week, then share this message with others. She emphasizes that true respect comes from within, not external validation.
“When you think highly of yourself, you can be like, fuck yeah. That woman is so blessed to be pregnant. She's so beautiful. And my blessing is coming too. She can be blessed and so can I?”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 7:33
Develop a high opinion of yourself and abundant mindset. When you truly value yourself, you can see pregnant women and think 'She's so blessed and my blessing is coming too' instead of feeling stabbed by jealousy.
“Women who succeed on this journey believe that they and their dreams matter. They believe that they're worth the investment of time, money, sweat, and tears to bring their vision for motherhood to pass.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 4:27
It means believing you and your dreams matter enough to invest time, money, sweat and tears in your vision for motherhood. It's not narcissism - it's respecting the unique expression the creator meant you to be.
“When you have a high opinion of yourself, my love, you can go toe to toe with any expert or statistic and say, okay, cool. I hear what you have to say and I receive that information, but that information has nothing to do with me or my potential.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 8:43
When you have a high opinion of yourself, you can receive information from experts but say it has nothing to do with your potential. You're not defined by past numbers - you know and trust yourself.
“When you hold a high opinion of yourself, you can see beyond your past and statistics. You make choices that feel right to you, not decisions that people who don't know shit about you try to shame or bully you into.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 9:15
Everything follows thoughts, beliefs, actions, results. How you think about yourself directly impacts the actions you take, which determines your results. Self-love leads to loving choices that support your fertility dreams.
“Write yourself a love letter. It may be the most important love letter you ever write. Tell yourself why you love you. Write it like you are your biggest fan. Lay out your case counsel for why you deserve to be held in high regard by you.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 11:08
Write like you're your biggest fan, laying out why you deserve high regard. Tell yourself why you love you, focusing on your accomplishments and worth. Read it daily for a week as the first thing each morning.
A three-step exercise to develop the self-regard that successful fertility women share
Take an honest self-assessment
Look at how you currently think about yourself. Do you see yourself as deserving respect? Are you proud of your accomplishments? Can you look at your life and journey so far and think 'fuck yeah'?
Write yourself a love letter
Write like you're your biggest fan explaining why you love yourself and deserve high regard. Read it every morning for a week as the first thing you do, even though it will feel silly at first.
Share the message
Send this podcast episode to someone who could benefit and screenshot it for your social media story, spreading the message of self-worth to other women.
Women who beat the odds on their fertility journey have a high opinion of themselves and believe they and their dreams matter
Rosanne conceived naturally at 43 after years of treatment failure by developing this mindset. All successful women featured on the podcast share this trait of thinking highly enough of themselves to keep going and trust their instincts.
Having a high opinion of yourself doesn't mean narcissism - it means showing respect for the creator by valuing the unique expression you were meant to be
Gary Vaynerchuk notes you have a 1 in 444 trillion chance of being human - you're more likely to win the mega millions five times over than to be born, proving how blessed you are to be here.
Thinking highly of yourself is part of having an abundant mindset - you can think you're awesome AND want the same for others without competition
This mindset gets you out of lack and scarcity that fuels jealousy and comparison. Instead of feeling stabbed when seeing pregnant women, you can think 'She's blessed and my blessing is coming too.'
When you have a high opinion of yourself, you can go toe-to-toe with any expert or statistic and say that information has nothing to do with your potential
Women who beat the odds make choices that feel right to them, not decisions others shame them into. They hold loving thoughts and therefore make loving choices in furtherance of what they hold dear.
Everything follows the formula: thoughts, beliefs, actions, results - having a high opinion of yourself leads to completely different actions than someone who doesn't love themselves
Rosanne had to quit feeling sorry for herself and blaming others, rolling up her sleeves to do the mindset work. This shift in how she thought about herself directly led to different actions that put her son Asher in her arms.
Women who beat the odds on their fertility journey have a high opinion of themselves and believe they and their dreams matter
▶ 4:16Having a high opinion of yourself doesn't mean narcissism - it means showing respect for the creator by valuing the unique expression you were meant to be
▶ 4:47Thinking highly of yourself is part of having an abundant mindset - you can think you're awesome AND want the same for others without competition
▶ 7:12When you have a high opinion of yourself, you can go toe-to-toe with any expert or statistic and say that information has nothing to do with your potential
▶ 8:43Everything follows the formula: thoughts, beliefs, actions, results - having a high opinion of yourself leads to completely different actions than someone who doesn't love themselves
▶ 9:04“Having a high opinion of yourself is sinful, selfish, or means you think you're better than others”
CONSIDER: Having a high opinion of yourself shows respect for the creator and the unique expression you were meant to be - it's actually part of abundant thinking that lifts everyone
“Women who beat the odds on this journey have a high opinion of themselves.”
“You have a one in four hundred and forty four trillion chance of being human. That means you are more likely to win the mega millions five times over than being born.”
“I am so fucking awesome. And you know what? So are you. I'm living the dream, and I love it so much that, of course, I want the same for you.”
“When you have a high opinion of yourself, my love, you can go toe to toe with any expert or statistic and say, okay, cool. I hear what you have to say and I receive that information, but that information has nothing to do with me or my potential.”
“Own your dreams, mama. Own your value. Own your unique beauty. Own your truth. Own your accomplishments. Own the desire in your heart to be a mom. It's there because it was meant for you.”
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Secondary infertility creates unique isolation because you don't fit into either the 'can't conceive' club or the 'conceive easily' club, leading to shame and guilt about wanting more
Somaya experienced secondary infertility after her first son, enduring three ectopic pregnancies and multiple miscarriages while feeling guilty about not being grateful for her existing child.
Successful professionals often fail to apply their strategic thinking to fertility, instead relying on hope rather than creating a comprehensive plan with experts and resources
Somaya, a top legal recruiter in London, realized she would strategically involve experts for professional challenges but was just 'living on a prayer and hope' for her fertility journey.
When you think like a woman who succeeds on her fertility journey, you make the statistics, your diagnosis, all of your shady fertility past irrelevant
Joycelinne had fibroids and a blocked fallopian tube but conceived with IVF and is now 37 weeks pregnant with baby boy Ryu after transforming her mindset through the Fearlessly Fertile Method.
Other people's fertility stories can become reinforcement of your own fears if you're not careful
Joycelinne realized that praying for her struggling friend and hearing traumatic IVF stories from family members had reinforced her own fertility fears rather than offering hope.
