Dad Speaks On Overcoming Pregnancy Loss: Adam's Story
Adam shares his perspective as a partner through fertility struggles, pregnancy loss, and ultimately welcoming baby Riley after years of IVF treatments and devastating losses.
Breakthroughs 1
The mindset coaching work transformed Katie from feeling like a victim to owning her destiny and taking control
Adam observed Katie 'stopped being less of a victim' and 'started to own her own destiny' - they even bought baby items before their final pregnancy
Teachings 5
Men should check their egos and participate fully in fertility testing and treatment, as the male partner's contribution is relatively small compared to what women endure
Adam got semen analysis, wore cooling pants, changed lifestyle factors, and took supplements - acknowledging this was 'insignificant' compared to Katie's experience
Partners can serve as emotional buffers by fielding questions from family members to protect the woman from triggering conversations
Adam told family members to direct all fertility questions to him instead of Katie, saying 'if you have a question, come to me' so Katie could focus on herself
Men should ask their partners what they need instead of assuming they know how to provide support
Adam learned through communication that sometimes Katie needed a tight hug during panic attacks, other times she just needed him present in the room
Men experience fertility struggles differently - often in moments rather than constantly - and should acknowledge this privilege while still showing up fully
Adam felt 'devastated' in specific moments but acknowledged he didn't live the experience '24/7' like Katie, calling this his 'privilege'
Support your partner's exploration of different approaches like mindset coaching, even if you don't fully understand them
Adam initially thought the coaching was 'witchcraft' and 'bollocks' but supported Katie anyway, later admitting 'it worked' and was 'transformational'
Quotable Moments 3
“She kind of stopped being less of a victim. She started to kind of own her own destiny.”
— Adam“Just check yourself and just be like, if I can do this, like my partner's saying try this, explore it, give it a go.”
— Adam“Don't abuse that. Don't take that for granted. And be there when you can.”
— Adam
Questions This Video Answers
How can male partners support women through fertility struggles?
“Just check yourself and just be like, if I can do this, like my partner's saying try this, explore it, give it a go.”
— Adam
Men can participate fully in testing and treatment, serve as emotional buffers with family, ask what their partner needs instead of assuming, and support different approaches even if they don't understand them.
What changes happen with fertility mindset coaching?
“She kind of stopped being less of a victim. She started to kind of own her own destiny.”
— Adam
Partners can observe their loved one stop feeling like a victim and start owning their destiny, with reduced anxiety, better sleep, and renewed hope for the future.
Do men experience fertility struggles differently than women?
“I felt that as a privilege for me, just who I am, or maybe it's men entirely, I was able to kind of live kind of outside of that and have it not affect me too much.”
— Adam
Yes, men often experience the pain in specific moments rather than constantly, which can create guilt about not suffering enough while their partner lives it 24/7.
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Key Points 6
Men should check their egos and participate fully in fertility testing and treatment, as the male partner's contribution is relatively small compared to what women endure
Partners can serve as emotional buffers by fielding questions from family members to protect the woman from triggering conversations
The mindset coaching work transformed Katie from feeling like a victim to owning her destiny and taking control
Men should ask their partners what they need instead of assuming they know how to provide support
Men experience fertility struggles differently - often in moments rather than constantly - and should acknowledge this privilege while still showing up fully
Support your partner's exploration of different approaches like mindset coaching, even if you don't fully understand them
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