Feeling Alone and Unsupported While TTC? #fertility #fearlesslyfertile #fertilityjourney
Rosanne Austin addresses what happens when family and friends can't support your fertility journey, explaining that this divergence is normal and part of your evolution into motherhood.
Breakthroughs 1
A 54-year-old physician successfully had a baby at 55, proving that age limitations are often other people's projections of their own fears
One of my miracle mamas was fifty four when she gave birth and just turned fifty five, and her baby's just a couple months old. She is legit a new mom at fifty five. She's young, she's vibrant, she's successful, she's a physician
Teachings 3
Pruning people from your life isn't about being disloyal—it's about priorities and protecting your finite time to have babies
We have a finite amount of time to have these babies. You have made everybody else the priority up to this point. Now, you get to make yourself and your vision for your freaking life the priority
Your change makes others uncomfortable because it forces them to examine their own quitting patterns and limitations
Your change, your evolution, your progress is going to cause people to look at their own lives and say, shit, I really gave up on x y z. It makes people uncomfortable
Your job is not to make people comfortable—it's to live your purpose unapologetically while staying focused on your vision
Your job is not to make people comfortable. Your job is to live your purpose unapologetically. The fact that you decide to make your desires the priority and prune some people out doesn't make you an asshole. It makes you focused
Perspectives 2
Being on a fertility journey makes you unusual because most people give up on their dreams—barely 15% of people take action on what they learn
Tony Robbins explained at an event that barely fifteen percent of people would ever do anything with the things that he taught
Your evolution out of social circles is a natural part of personal growth—you're moving from just being your profession to wearing the hat of mom
You are moving from just being a physician, just being an attorney, just being a scientist, just being an engineer, to now wearing the hat of mom
Quotable Moments 3
“You are fucking weird. You're already weird for all of the reasons I told you. You're a high achiever. You're out there doing stuff, going the extra mile that most people don't.”
— Rosanne Austin“I'm changing because I choose to. My baby is on the other side of my change.”
— Rosanne Austin“Your job is not to make people comfortable. Your job is to live your purpose unapologetically.”
— Rosanne Austin
Questions This Video Answers
Why do family and friends stop supporting my fertility journey?
“You are doing something very unusual by being on this journey. Most people give up on their dreams. There will be a point when the people that you know and the people that you love and trust just aren't gonna get it anymore.”
— Rosanne Austin
It's not that they're bad people—your fertility journey represents unusual persistence toward a dream when most people give up. Your evolution into motherhood naturally creates divergence from people who can't relate to wanting 'more' than societal expectations.
Should I feel guilty about distancing myself from unsupportive people during fertility treatment?
“Pruning people out of your life is not about you being a pompous asshole or you not being loyal. It's about priorities. We have a finite amount of time to have these babies.”
— Rosanne Austin
No, pruning relationships is about priorities, not disloyalty. You have finite time to have babies and shouldn't waste energy managing others' emotions about your choices. Focus on people who support your vision.
How do I handle people who think I'm too old to have a baby?
“Most people will look at our lives through the lens of their own limitations. Don't take on other people's limitations. Don't take on other people's stories about what it is that you're doing.”
— Rosanne Austin
Remember that people view your life through their own limitations. A 54-year-old physician successfully had a baby and is thriving as a new mom at 55. Don't take on others' stories about what's possible for you.
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Key Points 6
Being on a fertility journey makes you unusual because most people give up on their dreams—barely 15% of people take action on what they learn
Your evolution out of social circles is a natural part of personal growth—you're moving from just being your profession to wearing the hat of mom
Pruning people from your life isn't about being disloyal—it's about priorities and protecting your finite time to have babies
Your change makes others uncomfortable because it forces them to examine their own quitting patterns and limitations
A 54-year-old physician successfully had a baby at 55, proving that age limitations are often other people's projections of their own fears
Your job is not to make people comfortable—it's to live your purpose unapologetically while staying focused on your vision
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