Fertility Mindset: The Lie Keeping You From Pregnancy #fertility #ttc #fearlesslyfertile
Rosanne Austin teaches why lying to yourself on the fertility journey destroys self-respect and blocks pregnancy success, and how radical honesty creates the foundation for fertility breakthrough.
Teachings 5
When you lie to yourself, you lose respect for yourself and others, and cease to love - this blocks fertility success
Dostoevsky quote from Brothers Karamazov: 'The man who lies to himself and listens to his own lie comes to a point that he cannot distinguish the truth within him or around him and so loses all respect for himself and for others. And having no respect, he ceases to love.'
Women lie to themselves out of convenience, fear, shame and guilt, worried about what others think
12+ years coaching women across six continents who suppress truth due to pressure to be perfect and not inconvenience others
Lying to yourself sends messages to your nervous system that it's not safe to conceive
Fear, doubt, shame and negativity from self-deception creates physiological stress response that blocks conception
Self-worth is critical on the fertility journey - when you don't respect yourself, you can't see yourself as worthy of success
Blocks and obstacles women create go directly to how they see themselves, not just in fertility but life overall
Every woman who creates outrageous fertility success first comes to grips with the truth within her
Pattern observed across 12+ years coaching successful fertility clients - truth creates peace, surrender and resolve that no lie can approximate
Perspectives 1
This fertility journey is emotional and spiritual, not just physical - you can't just look at the physical when struggling
Smart successful women have the physical aspects nailed but struggle with emotional/spiritual components that wake them at 2am seeking reassurance
Quotable Moments 4
“Above all, don't lie to yourself. The man who lies to himself and listens to his own lie comes to a point that he cannot distinguish the truth within him or around him and so loses all respect for himself and for others. And having no respect, he ceases to love.”
— Rosanne Austin“Your power, your self-respect is going to come from the truth. This is why I want to pull it out of you. Just be freaking honest.”
— Rosanne Austin“Every single woman who has created outrageous success on this journey had to first come to grips with the truth within her.”
— Rosanne Austin“What if all of that fear, doubt, that shame, negativity, and not enoughness is sending messages to your nervous system that it's just freaking not safe for you to conceive right now?”
— Rosanne Austin
Questions This Video Answers
Why is lying to yourself bad for fertility success?
“What if all of that fear, doubt, that shame, negativity, and not enoughness is sending messages to your nervous system that it's just freaking not safe for you to conceive right now?”
— Rosanne Austin
Lying to yourself destroys self-respect and sends stress signals to your nervous system that it's not safe to conceive. When you lose self-respect, you can't see yourself as worthy of fertility success.
What lies do women tell themselves on the fertility journey?
“Maybe you've taken on the the lazy attitude of, 'Well, we'll see what happens. I'll be okay either way. If if this baby doesn't come, maybe that's just the way it was supposed to be.' When you know in your heart, I'm going all the way for this baby.”
— Rosanne Austin
Common lies include downplaying how badly you want a baby ('we'll see what happens'), not being honest with your partner about your needs, tolerating inappropriate questions from family, and not acknowledging the depth of your pain.
How do you know if you're lying to yourself about fertility?
“You know, when you are lying to yourself because that tiny little voice that we consistently suppress is going to be barking at you the whole time.”
— Rosanne Austin
You know you're lying to yourself because that tiny voice you consistently suppress will be barking at you the whole time. Your inner wisdom knows the truth even when you try to ignore it.
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Key Points 6
When you lie to yourself, you lose respect for yourself and others, and cease to love - this blocks fertility success
Women lie to themselves out of convenience, fear, shame and guilt, worried about what others think
Lying to yourself sends messages to your nervous system that it's not safe to conceive
Self-worth is critical on the fertility journey - when you don't respect yourself, you can't see yourself as worthy of success
This fertility journey is emotional and spiritual, not just physical - you can't just look at the physical when struggling
Every woman who creates outrageous fertility success first comes to grips with the truth within her
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