Robin shares her extraordinary 15-year fertility journey, including 10 years of trying before her son, secondary fertility struggles, and how mindset coaching helped her conceive her daughter Ruby at 38 after multiple IVF failures. Her story demonstrates the power of trusting intuition, reprogramming automatic mental responses, and never giving up on your dream.
RobinAge 38· IVF· Baby girl RubyBefore
Programmed for failure after 15 years of trauma, desperate and confrontational with husband, spiraling into worst-case scenarios
Key Shift
Reprogrammed automatic mental responses through daily practice, learned to interrupt catastrophic thinking patterns, trusted intuition over medical advice
After
Thinking in empowering voice, able to hold the line on intuitive decisions, partnered with husband from purpose rather than desperation
Robin opens with her remarkable story spanning 15 years of trying to conceive, including 5 years of natural attempts, multiple IVF failures, and the discovery that immune issues were preventing pregnancy despite healthy embryos. Her journey demonstrates that even after a decade of setbacks, success remains possible with the right approach.
After conceiving her son Blake following 11 years of trying, Robin faced judgment for wanting a second child. Society's message that she should 'be grateful for what she had' created internal conflict, but she learned to honor her desire for more children as equally valid. This section powerfully addresses the unique challenges of secondary fertility struggles.
Robin's lowest moment came after her tenth embryo transfer failed and COVID shut down fertility clinics. She realized she couldn't continue with the same desperate, fear-based approach and made the crucial decision to invest in mindset coaching, recognizing that her mental and emotional state needed training alongside medical treatment.
Through daily affirmation practice and repetitive mindset work, Robin learned to interrupt catastrophic thinking patterns that had become automatic after years of disappointment. She describes the exhausting but necessary work of rewiring her brain's default responses from failure expectation to trust and belief.
In her final IVF cycle, Robin chose fresh embryo transfer against medical advice about advanced maternal age, trusting meditation guidance that her daughter wanted to be born as a Leo. This decision, made at exactly 11:11 AM, resulted in Ruby's conception and demonstrates the power of honoring inner wisdom alongside medical protocol.
Robin's story concludes with Ruby's conception and the confirmation of her gender after dreams suggesting a boy had created final surprises. Now 17 weeks pregnant, Robin reflects on how becoming 'a woman open to being surprised' was essential for her daughter's arrival and her own evolution as a mother.
“My husband and I started trying to get pregnant fifteen years ago, so it has been a very long, long journey.”
— Robin▶ 6:23
Robin's 15-year fertility journey shows that even after a decade of trying, multiple IVF failures, and secondary fertility struggles, success is possible with the right mindset work and medical protocol.
“That is one of the most heartbreaking things that we can do to each other on this journey. If we aren't careful, a lack and scarcity mindset can turn big hearted, amazing women against each other”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 3:28
Secondary infertility is struggling to conceive after already having a child. The desire for another baby is completely valid and deserves the same respect and commitment as trying for your first child.
“I had to reprogram my automatic mental responses to things. So because of fifteen years of trauma, I was so programmed for failure.”
— Robin▶ 40:00
Robin reprogrammed 15 years of fertility trauma through daily affirmations, repetitive positive practices, and learning to interrupt catastrophic thinking patterns in real-time during treatment cycles.
“But in my meditations, my daughter had really I was like, I'm pretty sure she wants to be a Leo. And so if we had done a fresh transfer in November, then she would that's when she would she would be a Leo.”
— Robin▶ 49:00
Robin successfully conceived by trusting her meditation guidance to do a fresh transfer despite her doctor's recommendation to freeze embryos due to advanced maternal age, showing intuition can sometimes override statistics.
“Through our work, I was able to just get into touch with the fact that this is my purpose, like, this is part of my life's calling. And I was able to then bring that to him in a way where he could understand that and and and see my heart.”
— Robin▶ 29:00
Robin transformed her communication from desperate and confrontational to sharing from her heart and purpose, helping her husband understand this was her life's calling rather than just another treatment attempt.
“He suspected that the reason I wasn't getting pregnant was immune related, and nobody had ever mentioned that before. He's like, well, you've had healthy embryos, but you've never even had a positive pregnancy test.”
— Robin▶ 8:05
Robin had unexplained infertility for 11 years until a doctor suspected immune issues. Treatment with immunosuppressants alongside IVF finally enabled her to achieve and maintain pregnancy.
Robin's method for overcoming 15 years of fertility programming for failure
Daily affirmation practice
Repeat positive affirmations consistently every morning, focusing on trusting your body and baby
Interrupt negative patterns
When catastrophic thoughts arise, immediately redirect with empowering phrases like 'I trust my body, I trust my baby'
Visualization and manifestation
Use games like 'remember when' to feel your success as already accomplished
Connect with your purpose
Anchor your desire in purpose rather than desperation when communicating with your partner
Secondary fertility struggles are just as valid as primary fertility issues - the desire for another child deserves the same respect and commitment
Robin faced judgment for wanting a second child after 10 years of trying for her first, but conceived daughter Ruby after refusing to accept that 'one should be enough' and working through guilt about wanting more children.
Each baby requires you to become a different version of yourself - what got you the first baby won't necessarily work for the second
Robin successfully conceived her son Blake with IVF and immunosuppressants after 11 years, but needed to completely reprogram her mindset and level up to conceive daughter Ruby after additional failures.
Fifteen years of fertility trauma creates automatic mental programming for failure that must be consciously reprogrammed through repetition
Robin had to reprogram automatic responses through daily affirmations and mindset work, eventually thinking in Rosanne's voice during challenging moments, which enabled her to trust her body and conceive Ruby naturally via fresh transfer.
Trusting your intuition about fresh transfer timing can override medical statistics and lead to success
Robin chose fresh transfer against doctor's advice about advanced maternal age, trusting her meditation guidance that her daughter wanted to be a Leo, and conceived Ruby through that fresh transfer at exactly 11:11 AM.
Being willing to be surprised opens you to positive outcomes beyond your control-oriented planning
Robin had to become 'a woman open to being surprised' to conceive Ruby, experiencing the surprise of a positive pregnancy test after bleeding and cramping, fulfilling her desire to be surprised like women who conceive naturally.
Getting your partner on the same page requires leading from purpose rather than desperation or blame
Robin transformed her communication with husband Chris from confrontational and desperate to sharing her heart and purpose, leading him to agree to one more IVF round after initially refusing any more treatment.
You can interrupt catastrophic thinking patterns in real-time during fertility treatment
Robin learned to interrupt spiraling thoughts when only 3 eggs fertilized during her final IVF, using 'I trust my body, I trust my baby, I trust Gus' instead of going to 'crazy town' like previous cycles.
The 'remember when' manifestation game helps partners align on the vision and feel it as real
Robin and Chris played the 'remember when' game on Easter weekend, envisioning being 5 months pregnant a year later, and Robin was indeed 5 months pregnant with Ruby the following Easter weekend.
Immune-related fertility issues can prevent pregnancy even with healthy embryos and normal sperm
Robin never achieved pregnancy in 5 years despite healthy embryos until a new doctor suspected immune issues and prescribed immunosuppressants, leading to her first positive pregnancy test after 11 years of trying.
Training mentally, physically and emotionally for IVF creates dramatically different outcomes than desperate rushing
Robin's panicked IVF round failed completely, but after 4 months of mindset training, choosing optimal timing, and preparing support systems, her final IVF round with one embryo resulted in Ruby.
Secondary fertility struggles are just as valid as primary fertility issues - the desire for another child deserves the same respect and commitment
▶ 3:00Each baby requires you to become a different version of yourself - what got you the first baby won't necessarily work for the second
▶ 37:35Fifteen years of fertility trauma creates automatic mental programming for failure that must be consciously reprogrammed through repetition
▶ 40:00Trusting your intuition about fresh transfer timing can override medical statistics and lead to success
▶ 49:00Being willing to be surprised opens you to positive outcomes beyond your control-oriented planning
▶ 45:00Getting your partner on the same page requires leading from purpose rather than desperation or blame
▶ 29:00You can interrupt catastrophic thinking patterns in real-time during fertility treatment
▶ 47:00The 'remember when' manifestation game helps partners align on the vision and feel it as real
▶ 55:00Immune-related fertility issues can prevent pregnancy even with healthy embryos and normal sperm
▶ 8:05Training mentally, physically and emotionally for IVF creates dramatically different outcomes than desperate rushing
▶ 46:00“You should be grateful for one child and not want more”
CONSIDER: Secondary fertility desires are just as valid - you can be grateful AND want more children
“Fresh transfers at advanced maternal age have poor success rates”
CONSIDER: Trusting your intuition about timing can override medical statistics
“If you've cracked the fertility code once, the same approach will work again”
CONSIDER: Each baby requires you to become a different version of yourself
“I can't do this again. I can't do this. This pain, this torture, this weight, and I was right. I couldn't do that that way anymore because that was not working.”
“You have to know that you're courageous as fuck. And I really wanna honor that in you right now as you're listening to this because this week's interview is a story of courage.”
“I love our son so much that I just want four. Like, I want another baby. I want another child. I want a sibling for him.”
“Our children are so intentional. Like, we have to commit to wanting them every single day to get them here.”
“What if exactly what you need is in those three? What do you want? Like, seventeen babies? No. What if you know?”
“Never give up. That desire, if it's in your heart, it's meant for you. But there will be a way. There will be a way through.”
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Frameworks & Methods
Common Beliefs
You cannot physiologically separate your mind from your body - if you're living your fertility journey in fear, doubt, and negativity, it impacts your physical health
Lizzie spent 18 months in fear and self-hatred after her autoimmune diagnosis, calling herself a 'murderer' of her babies. Once she shifted to trusting her body and embracing softness, she conceived naturally at 42 within one month.
When you get your mind right, you crush space and time - you compress timelines because you are the common denominator
Lizzie spent 18 months in misery trying everything except mindset work. After 8 weeks of mindset training, she conceived naturally within one month and carried to term despite 2% odds and her partner's stage 4 cancer treatment.
Almost everything fertility-related is fixable with the right plan and approach, regardless of what your diagnosis says
Marc Sklar has seen couples overcome seemingly impossible diagnoses in his 21 years of practice by addressing root causes rather than accepting initial verdicts.
Lab results are just a snapshot in time and don't determine your fertility potential permanently
Marc Sklar explains that hormonal labs drawn on the wrong cycle day (like day 18 instead of day 3) have limited value, and that fluctuations are normal throughout a cycle.
