Trusting Your Body

Running to medical intervention first without checking in with yourself often stems from a foundation of feeling inadequate.

Liz immediately went to IVF after one miscarriage at 41, despite having perfect labs and ovarian reserve of a 30-year-old. Her husband wisely suggested trying naturally first, but she refused because she was convinced she 'couldn't do this on my own.'

Natural pregnancies during IVF failures are evidence your body knows how to conceive naturally

Melissa had 4 out of 5 pregnancies naturally (despite low AMH diagnosis) but continued IVF because she was told that was the only way. She realized 'I'm actually fertile as f***' and conceived naturally at 39 just 2 months after stopping IVF.

The decision to stop hormones opened the door to natural conception

Erika made the conscious decision that she didn't want any more hormones in her body, and shortly after this decision, she conceived naturally in Florida.

Your body knows what she's doing - trust her even through loss

Caroline reframed three miscarriages as evidence her body was working, not broken. She told herself 'my body is doing what it knows how to do' and conceived naturally on her fourth pregnancy, now 24 weeks pregnant.

Fertility doctors said this would never happen, but my body was in the game - she was doing what she knows to do

Caroline was told with 36.9 FSH and 0.07 AMH she'd never conceive naturally, but she got pregnant four times total and is now 24 weeks pregnant naturally at 33.

Your body may be telling you when current treatments aren't working—listen to that wisdom instead of just following protocol.

Mette had seven egg retrievals with heavy hormone protocols that failed, but when she listened to her body and requested a natural cycle with no hormones, she conceived and is now 23 weeks pregnant.

When you've had recurrent miscarriage, trusting your body during early pregnancy requires active mindset work to avoid fear patterns.

Mette had two prior miscarriages at seven weeks but used mindset tools to take only one blood test during early pregnancy instead of constant monitoring, trusting her body to sustain the pregnancy.

Sometimes the most radical thing you can do is go completely natural after multiple treatment failures.

After seven egg retrievals and hormone treatments failed, Mette chose a completely natural cycle with no hormones for her final embryo transfer and conceived successfully.

You can interrupt catastrophic thinking patterns in real-time during fertility treatment

Robin learned to interrupt spiraling thoughts when only 3 eggs fertilized during her final IVF, using 'I trust my body, I trust my baby, I trust Gus' instead of going to 'crazy town' like previous cycles.

Taking a break from trying to conceive to heal your body can be the breakthrough you need, even at advanced maternal age

Sarah took 8 months off from trying at age 39 to heal endometriosis after two miscarriages, then conceived naturally 5 cycles after resuming trying at nearly 40.

Multiple abnormal embryos through IVF doesn't mean you can't conceive a healthy baby naturally.

Liz produced no normal embryos through two IVF cycles at 41-42, yet conceived naturally and had a healthy baby girl Betty. This proves that IVF lab results don't determine natural conception potential.

Taking breaks from treatment when guided intuitively allows healing and reset

Elise took intentional breaks from IVF to heal her Hashimoto's and reset her body, ultimately leading to drug-free embryo transfer and successful pregnancy at 45 after multiple failed rounds.

As long as you have your ovaries, uterus, and a period, there's hope

Erika was reminded that despite her short periods and fertility challenges, she still had all her reproductive organs functioning, and she went on to conceive naturally.

You are either the authority in your life or you hand that authority to somebody else - claim your authority

Caroline was told by fertility doctors she'd never conceive naturally with 36.9 FSH and 0.07 AMH, but she listened to her inner voice saying 'my body can do this' and conceived naturally within a year of mindset work.

Digital fertility apps manipulate data to match predetermined outcomes rather than your actual cycle, creating false information about your fertile window

Moy shares a patient example where the app changed ovulation timing after the fact, telling the woman her fertile window was different dates to match the app's algorithm rather than her actual biology.

Taking a break from fertility treatments doesn't mean giving up - it means giving your body what it needs

Multiple practitioners told Carolyn she needed 'more rest, sleep, exercise, and regular eating' - the basics - not extreme interventions. She took three weeks off work for the first time and conceived.

Vitamin J (joy) and showing your baby who you are makes it easier for them to find you

Carolyn stopped avoiding activities like salsa dancing and ocean swimming due to fertility fears, started having fun again, and conceived naturally at 45 while enjoying herself in Mexico.

Your visceral why must be different from worrying about your biological clock ticking - it should be carefully supported by trust in yourself that comes from following through

This distinction separates successful women from those who remain stuck. Rosanne's own journey from 6 years of suffering to natural conception at 43 exemplifies this shift from clock-watching to purpose-driven action.

We need to be our own cheerleader because a doctor can tell us physically what they see, but as women we're very in tune with our own bodies

Despite being told she had less than 1% chance, Anu trusted her body knowledge over statistics and conceived naturally at 44, proving the power of self-advocacy.

Your body has done everything you've asked it to do - the fact that you're alive proves how powerful and resilient it is

Chris Axelrad reframes the common belief that bodies are working against fertility patients, explaining that bodies continuously serve and support even when given processed food or inadequate water, without holding grudges

Trust allows you to relax and rest, while constant tracking creates a mindset of suspicion that forces continual questioning

Chris Axelrad compares obsessive cycle tracking to a pilot panicking at 1000 feet during takeoff instead of recognizing they're ascending, explaining that tracking should show trends retrospectively, not create moment-to-moment anxiety

Action creates momentum and gives you a new body of evidence to create new beliefs rather than chasing your tail with the same old results

Caroline learned how to trust herself and her body, and people who didn't even know what was going on commented that they noticed a positive change in her.

You can be fertile and not pregnant - these are two different things

Rosanne coached Carolyn to 'recognize you are fertile. You're having your period. It is regular. You are ovulating' instead of focusing on why she wasn't pregnant yet.

Don't stop believing things are happening to you - maybe they're happening for you

Kate reframed her body's inability to conceive as protection, realizing pregnancy wouldn't have been healthy with her autoimmune inflammation at the time.

Physical symptoms and how you feel in your body are more important indicators than lab numbers

Lucy stopped getting her FSH and AMH retested because she realized those numbers didn't matter - she knew her body was healing because her hot flashes stopped, her energy returned, and she felt less grumpy.