Rosanne teaches how gratitude is the most powerful weapon against fertility journey fears. She explains how fear stems from lack and scarcity thinking, while gratitude neutralizes fear by showing evidence of abundance and possibility in your life.
Rosanne opens by acknowledging how the eager anticipation of trying to conceive quickly transforms into knots in your stomach and anxiety. She addresses the endless agonizing over past life choices and missed opportunities that characterizes this journey.
Despite how it feels, Rosanne teaches that you haven't missed out or made mistakes - this journey is simply part of your life story. She shares her own experience of almost giving up and the hard lessons she learned that ultimately led to success.
Rosanne reveals that gratitude is the simple but powerful tool to kick fear's ass every time. She explains how gratitude allowed her to see divine guidance and support that was always there but invisible due to her drama and victim mentality.
True gratitude isn't about being grateful for what you have instead of wanting more - it's about seeing the good in your life as evidence of what's possible. Rosanne teaches that your current blessings are just the tip of the iceberg of available abundance.
Rosanne explains that fertility journey fear is driven by lack and scarcity thinking about time, money, failures, and support. When you face this fear head-on with gratitude showing evidence of abundance, fear gets neutralized every time.
Rosanne provides concrete steps including answering every fear with finding something to be grateful for and creating a list of 50 things you're grateful for. She introduces the powerful mantra 'I am so grateful for all that I have, AND I want more.'
“Gratitude has the power to neutralize fear. You simply can't be afraid at the same time you are in deep gratitude.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 7:01
Gratitude neutralizes fear because you can't be afraid and grateful at the same time. Fear stems from lack and scarcity thinking, while gratitude shows you evidence of abundance and possibility in your life.
“Fear on this journey is largely driven by a feeling of lack in scarcity. The things that scare us most in our mind are all related to lack and scarcity.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 7:21
Most fertility journey fear is driven by lack and scarcity thinking - worrying about running out of time due to age, not having enough money for treatments, failing too many times, or losing partner support.
“Answer your fear with gratitude. Whenever you feel fear, find one thing to be grateful for.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 10:59
When you feel fear, find one thing to be grateful for in that moment. Make a list of 50 things you're grateful for. Use the mantra 'I am so grateful for all that I have, AND I want more' - focusing on 'and' not 'but' for abundance thinking.
“I am so grateful for all that I have, and I want more. And don't you dare let anyone tell you that is greedy. That is faith and that is gratitude knowing that this is a kind and generous universe.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 9:57
Absolutely. True gratitude is evidence of what's possible, not settling for less. Your mantra should be 'I am so grateful for all that I have, AND I want more' - this shows faith in a generous universe with abundance for you too.
“If you catch yourself saying shit like, I am grateful, but wrong. Time to dig deeper, babe. Check your gratitude because it sounds a hell of a lot like scarcity.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 9:16
Gratitude gets a bad rap when it's used to keep you small or make you wrong for wanting more. If you catch yourself saying 'I'm grateful BUT' you're in scarcity thinking. True gratitude is about abundance and possibility.
“Fear and faith require us to believe in something we can't see. Choose wisely. When you step to your fear with gratitude and faith, it's like you're punching it in the nuts and the throat at the same time.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 9:36
Fear and faith both require believing in something you can't see - you get to choose which one. When you step to fear with gratitude and faith, you neutralize it completely and build your belief in positive outcomes.
A practical exercise to build your gratitude muscle and kick fear's ass every time
Answer fear with gratitude
Whenever you feel fear, immediately find one thing to be grateful for in that situation - maybe the money for treatment, strength to continue, or someone being kind to you
Make a gratitude list
Create a list of 50 things you're grateful for, even if you have to scrape for items - this shows you how blessed you really are
Use the abundance mantra
Say 'I am so grateful for all that I have, AND I want more' - focus on 'and' not 'but' for abundance thinking
Check your gratitude language
If you catch yourself saying 'I'm grateful BUT' stop and dig deeper - that's scarcity thinking in disguise
Gratitude is the most powerful tool to neutralize fear on your fertility journey because you simply can't be afraid and grateful at the same time
Rosanne used this daily practice to conceive naturally at 43 after years of treatment failure, and teaches it to clients worldwide who beat the odds on their fertility journeys.
Fear on the fertility journey is largely driven by lack and scarcity thinking - worrying about running out of time, money, chances, or support
Rosanne observed that even badass women who can inject progesterone in oil without flinching will be reduced to tears over a Pampers commercial because of scarcity-based fear of what they don't have.
Gratitude should be used as evidence of what's possible, not to keep you small or make you wrong for wanting more
Rosanne teaches that true gratitude says 'I have all this cool shit in my life - this is evidence of the good that is to come' rather than settling for less.
Your new battle cry should be 'I am so grateful for all that I have, AND I want more' - using 'and' instead of 'but' to embrace abundance
Rosanne explains that 'and' is about abundance, belief, and positive pregnancy-making possibility, while 'but' reflects scarcity thinking that limits what you can receive.
When you face lack and scarcity-based fear head on with gratitude, you will kick it in the balls every fucking time
Rosanne used this approach during her own darkest moments on her fertility journey, ultimately conceiving naturally at 43, and now teaches it to help women across the globe beat the odds.
Fear and faith both require believing in something you can't see - choose wisely
Rosanne credits this wisdom from one of her favorite mentors as key to building faith through gratitude, which she used to overcome years of fertility treatment failure.
There is no limit to the good that is possible in your life - you didn't exhaust all your good when you won a spelling bee at seven years old
Rosanne teaches this abundance principle to counter the scarcity thinking that keeps women trapped in fear, helping her clients across six continents beat the odds on their fertility journeys.
You are exactly in the right place on your fertility journey - you didn't miss out or fuck up, this is just part of your life story
Rosanne learned this through her own journey of almost giving up before conceiving naturally at 43, and now teaches women ages 28-54 across six continents this same perspective.
Gratitude is the most powerful tool to neutralize fear on your fertility journey because you simply can't be afraid and grateful at the same time
▶ 2:55Fear on the fertility journey is largely driven by lack and scarcity thinking - worrying about running out of time, money, chances, or support
▶ 7:21Gratitude should be used as evidence of what's possible, not to keep you small or make you wrong for wanting more
▶ 5:39Your new battle cry should be 'I am so grateful for all that I have, AND I want more' - using 'and' instead of 'but' to embrace abundance
▶ 9:57When you face lack and scarcity-based fear head on with gratitude, you will kick it in the balls every fucking time
▶ 8:43Fear and faith both require believing in something you can't see - choose wisely
▶ 9:36There is no limit to the good that is possible in your life - you didn't exhaust all your good when you won a spelling bee at seven years old
▶ 6:10You are exactly in the right place on your fertility journey - you didn't miss out or fuck up, this is just part of your life story
▶ 2:04“Gratitude means settling for what you have and not wanting more”
CONSIDER: True gratitude is evidence of what's possible - seeing all the good in your life as proof that more good is coming
“You're behind or made mistakes that put you in this fertility struggle”
CONSIDER: You are exactly where you need to be - this journey is just part of your life story, not evidence you fucked up
“You simply can't be afraid at the same time you are in deep gratitude. You can't.”
“When you face that lack and scarcity based fear head on with gratitude, you will kick it in the balls every fucking time.”
“I am so grateful for all that I have, and I want more. And don't you dare let anyone tell you that is greedy.”
“Fear and faith require us to believe in something we can't see. Choose wisely.”
“You are exactly in the right place. You didn't miss out. You didn't fuck up. This journey is just part of your life story.”
“There is no limit to the good that is possible in this life. You didn't exhaust all the good that you had coming to you when you were seven years old and won a spelling bee.”
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Frameworks & Methods
Common Beliefs
If you truly desire something, you can have it - the timeline is completely irrelevant and made up
Rosanne conceived naturally at almost 44, months away from her 44th birthday, after years of treatment failure and being told she was running out of time.
You can choose to be an outlier, not a statistic - there's an X factor where belief, spirit, and faith come in
As a former prosecutor trained in facts and statistics, Rosanne had to make the mental leap to choose being an outlier rather than accepting statistical predictions about her fertility at 43.
The desire in your heart to be a mom is there because it was fucking meant for you - this desire is your divine assignment
Rosanne conceived naturally at 43 after years of treatment failure by following this principle. Recent podcast guests Elise and Mikayla both held babies after choosing belief over their circumstances.
Belief always precedes the miracle - you must believe even in the darkest moments, not just when things feel good
All of the recent podcast success stories featured women who believed bigger than their current circumstances. A fertility expert interviewed confirmed that most fertility challenges are figureoutable.
