Rosanne explores fertility success principle #7: trusting yourself unconditionally. She explains how women who beat the odds consistently trust their ability to figure things out, make decisions from their instincts rather than fear, and maintain unshakable faith in themselves regardless of outcomes.
Rosanne introduces fertility success principle #7, explaining that women who beat the odds consistently and unquestionably trust themselves. This isn't about perfection or having all the answers, but about believing you'll make the right decisions with whatever information you have and maintaining faith in your ability to figure things out as challenges arise.
True self-trust manifests as making decisions from instinct rather than seeking endless opinions, maintaining confidence regardless of outcomes, and having the courage to go against conventional wisdom when it doesn't feel right. These women have an ease about them and trust their inner knowing above external validation.
Self-trust is cultivated like any relationship - through keeping your word to yourself, backing your own plays, and demonstrating trustworthiness through action. Rosanne shares how her own journey from feeling unqualified to trusting herself completely changed everything, including her ability to walk away from treatments and conceive naturally at 43.
Rosanne provides a three-step exercise: honestly assess your current trust level, take one concrete action this week to build trust in yourself, and share this knowledge with others. The key is starting with action rather than waiting to feel ready, because trust is built through demonstration, not theory.
“Trust is cultivated by action. Quit playing chicken with trust in yourself.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 15:32
Start by asking yourself honestly if you trust yourself, then do one thing this week to build that trust - like following your instinct on a decision without second-guessing. Trust is built through consistency and keeping your word to yourself.
“Women who beat the odds on this journey unquestionably and consistently trust themselves.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 5:00
Self-trust on the fertility journey means believing you'll make the right decision with whatever information you have, not needing multiple opinions before deciding, and maintaining faith in yourself regardless of outcomes. It's about having unshakable confidence in your ability to figure things out.
“When you trust yourself, the game changes completely. You don't need anyone's permission or buy in.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 7:28
Trusting yourself is crucial for fertility success because it allows you to make decisions from abundance rather than fear, follow your instincts about your body and treatment choices, and maintain unwavering faith in your journey regardless of setbacks.
“Do you trust yourself? And all you have to do is go back to the most recent decision and really pick that apart.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 13:48
You can assess your self-trust by examining recent decisions - did you agonize for hours and seek multiple opinions, or did you trust your instinct? Women with strong self-trust make decisions without endless consultation and maintain confidence regardless of outcomes.
“This trust breeds confidence. The kind of confidence that's bulletproof, unshakable, and is not built on bravado.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 7:58
Self-trust creates deep, unshakable confidence that's rooted in your core being, not superficial bravado. It's the feeling that you'll be good no matter what happens, which breeds the kind of bulletproof confidence needed for fertility success.
“No matter how sketchy shit gets, her trust is not conditional. It's committed.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 9:20
Yes, self-trust is not conditional on your results. Even after treatment failures, you can trust your ability to figure out next steps and find another path to your baby. Trust in yourself is about your capacity to navigate challenges, not about never facing setbacks.
A three-step process to cultivate unshakable self-trust that supports fertility success
Assess Your Current Trust Level
Ask yourself straight up: do you trust yourself? Rate your self-trust on a scale of 1-10. Look at your most recent decision - did you agonize for hours and seek multiple opinions, or did you trust your instinct? Be honest about where you are without judgment.
Take One Trust-Building Action This Week
Do one thing to build trust in yourself: follow your instinct on a decision without second-guessing, trust your choice without conditioning love for yourself on the outcome, or start small with simple decisions like what to eat for lunch. Take action to demonstrate trust in yourself.
Share and Support Others
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Women who beat the odds on their fertility journey unquestionably and consistently trust themselves, believing they will make the right decision with whatever information they have
Rosanne conceived naturally at 43 after trusting herself to walk away from failed treatments and believe her baby would find another way to her.
Self-trust is not conditioned upon results or perfection - it's about having deep conviction in your ability to figure things out when challenges arise
Rosanne trusted herself to make the right choices despite years of fertility treatment failures, ultimately leading to natural conception at 43.
Women who trust themselves don't need to ask fifty other people's opinions before making a decision because they know that's just a distraction
Rosanne observed this pattern across 12+ years of coaching women to fertility success - those who succeeded made decisions from their instincts rather than endless consultation.
Self-trust breeds bulletproof confidence that is deeply rooted, not fleeting or superficial, but a feeling to the core that you will be good no matter what
This confidence allowed Rosanne to walk away from treatments and trust that her son would find a way to her, resulting in natural conception at 43.
Trusting yourself means being willing to endure the ridicule of others and choosing yourself and your mission no matter how sketchy things get
Rosanne faced skepticism when she left her prosecutor career and walked away from fertility treatments, but trusting herself led to conceiving naturally at 43.
Trust in yourself is built over time through consistency - keeping your word to yourself, doing what you say you'll do, and backing your own plays
Rosanne built self-trust by consistently honoring her instincts on her fertility journey, ultimately trusting herself to walk away from failed treatments and conceive naturally at 43.
For years on her journey, Rosanne felt unqualified and unworthy despite her degrees and success as a prosecutor because those were other people's measures of trust, not her own
Rosanne was a successful prosecutor but still felt unworthy on her fertility journey until she learned to trust herself, leading to natural conception at 43 after treatment failures.
Self-trust gave Rosanne the courage to walk away from treatment and see that just because treatment didn't work, there wasn't no other way her boy would come
After years of failed fertility treatments, Rosanne trusted herself to try a different path and conceived naturally at 43.
Women who beat the odds on their fertility journey unquestionably and consistently trust themselves, believing they will make the right decision with whatever information they have
▶ 5:00Self-trust is not conditioned upon results or perfection - it's about having deep conviction in your ability to figure things out when challenges arise
▶ 5:21Women who trust themselves don't need to ask fifty other people's opinions before making a decision because they know that's just a distraction
▶ 6:13Self-trust breeds bulletproof confidence that is deeply rooted, not fleeting or superficial, but a feeling to the core that you will be good no matter what
▶ 7:58Trusting yourself means being willing to endure the ridicule of others and choosing yourself and your mission no matter how sketchy things get
▶ 9:09Trust in yourself is built over time through consistency - keeping your word to yourself, doing what you say you'll do, and backing your own plays
▶ 7:27For years on her journey, Rosanne felt unqualified and unworthy despite her degrees and success as a prosecutor because those were other people's measures of trust, not her own
▶ 10:53Self-trust gave Rosanne the courage to walk away from treatment and see that just because treatment didn't work, there wasn't no other way her boy would come
▶ 11:46“You need to be perfect or have all the answers to trust yourself”
CONSIDER: Self-trust doesn't require perfection - it's about believing you'll figure things out as they come up and loving yourself unconditionally
“You should get multiple opinions before making important fertility decisions”
CONSIDER: Women who succeed trust their instincts and don't need fifty people's opinions before making decisions because that's just distraction
“Your trust in yourself should be based on your past results”
CONSIDER: Self-trust is unconditional and not based on outcomes - it's about having faith in your ability to handle whatever comes up
“Women who beat the odds on this journey unquestionably and consistently trust themselves.”
“Trusting yourself doesn't mean you aren't scared or that you're perfect. It means that no matter what you believe, you are going to make the right decision for you with the information you have.”
“When you trust yourself, the game changes completely. You don't need anyone's permission or buy in.”
“This trust breeds confidence. The kind of confidence that's bulletproof, unshakable, and is not built on bravado.”
“It's about choosing herself and the mission Gus, God Universe source, gave her. No matter how sketchy shit gets, her trust is not conditional.”
“Trust is cultivated by action. Quit playing chicken with trust in yourself.”
“Love, you are made in the image of the divine. It's time to trust yourself.”
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Conditions
Frameworks & Methods
Worthiness issues from earlier relationships directly impact fertility journey outcomes and decision-making patterns.
Liz spent 10 years in an unhealthy relationship telling herself she didn't want kids rather than facing the reality, then ghosted her future husband because she couldn't believe he liked her for who she was. These same worthiness patterns showed up as immediately running to IVF after one miscarriage at 41.
The way you do one thing is the way you do everything - relationship patterns will show up in your fertility journey.
Liz's pattern of feeling unworthy in her relationship (ghosting her husband because she couldn't believe he liked her) directly translated to feeling inadequate about conceiving and immediately seeking medical intervention after one miscarriage instead of trusting her body.
Lack and scarcity thinking is fundamentally about worthiness—whether you believe you deserve the time, money, resources, and love you desire
Rosanne conceived naturally at 43 after years of treatment failure once she decided she was worth fighting for, despite initially justifying expensive shoes and Paris trips while beating herself up for 'draining resources' on fertility treatments.
The proof of what you believe you're worth is in your actions, not your words—there are tests of worthiness by the minute in how you respond to judgment and boundaries
Rosanne explains how tolerating idiotic conversations with judgmental relatives due to fear of not being loved is actually lack and scarcity thinking about love itself.
