Seema shares her powerful journey from a difficult abortion decision to natural conception at 39 through IVF, despite endometriosis, cancer scares, and fertility challenges. Her story reveals how forgiveness and inner strength cleared the path to her baby.
SeemaAge 39· IVF· Became a mamaBefore
Scared, unsure, torturing herself with guilt over past abortion, blaming partner
Key Shift
Made decision to forgive herself and take unstoppable action toward motherhood
After
Fierce mama bear energy with unwavering faith in herself and clear boundaries
Seema opens up about her difficult decision to have an abortion in 2016 and how years later, when trying to conceive with her fiancé Mike, she tortured herself believing it was karma preventing pregnancy. Despite being able to conceive before, she struggled with unexplained fertility issues and blamed herself completely.
Just as Seema was preparing for her embryo transfer, she received a devastating call that abnormal cells had been found and transfer was cancelled due to potential cancer. The doctor delivered this news poorly on a Friday afternoon, leaving her in limbo over the weekend before further testing revealed she could proceed with monitoring.
Working with Rosanne through the Fearlessly Fertile Method, Seema learned to forgive herself and stop returning mentally to her past decision. She built her 'bump squad,' included Mike in the journey, and developed unshakeable faith in herself and their goal of becoming parents.
Seema achieved her goal of emailing Rosanne before her 40th birthday with pregnancy news, conceiving through IVF at 39. She shares her insights about allowing bad days while not letting them overtake your primary goal, and emphasizes the importance of building support systems and believing in yourself.
“forgiveness is a critical aspect to clearing the blocks between you and your baby”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 2:56
Forgiveness of past decisions is critical to clearing blocks between you and your baby. You made decisions based on the information and circumstances you had at that time, which don't determine your fertility future.
“she had to make a decision about who she was gonna be on this journey”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 3:27
Mama bear energy is the fierce, unstoppable determination that emerges when you make a clear decision about who you're going to be on your fertility journey. It's about taking action despite obstacles and refusing to quit.
“find your bump squad. Find that group of people that will be there for you no matter what happens”
— Seema▶ 42:49
Building your 'bump squad' means surrounding yourself with people who will celebrate every success and support you during low moments. Include your partner by encouraging them to find their own support system too.
“there was no option of me leaving without my baby”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 40:10
Endometriosis doesn't prevent IVF success when you have the right mindset and approach. Success comes from making decisions about who you'll be on the journey and taking consistent action despite obstacles.
“It's okay to have bad days. It's okay to feel low. It's okay to feel upset, but don't let that overtake your primary goal”
— Seema▶ 41:46
Allow yourself to have bad days and feel low, but don't let those feelings overtake your primary goal. Keep the vision of being a mother at the front of your mind and believe in yourself.
“this wasn't just about me. This is the journey that me and Mike were doing together”
— Seema▶ 25:05
Fertility isn't just about the woman - it's a journey both partners do together. Both need support systems, and including your partner strengthens the relationship and improves outcomes.
“Look at how quickly you were able to change your life”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 29:51
Significant mindset transformation can happen in just 8 weeks with the right tools and commitment. The key is making a decision and taking consistent action despite obstacles.
“having coached women all over the world to fertility success and having lived this journey myself, it is abundantly clear to me that forgiveness is a critical aspect to clearing the blocks between you and your baby”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 2:56
Yes, previous abortion doesn't prevent future pregnancy success, even with fertility challenges. The key is forgiving yourself and not allowing guilt to create mental blocks to conception.
A step-by-step approach to forgiving past decisions and clearing mental blocks to conception
Acknowledge the guilt
Recognize that you're carrying guilt about past decisions and how it's affecting your current fertility journey
Understand your past context
Remember you made decisions based on the information and circumstances you had at that time
Stop the mental returns
When guilt thoughts arise, consciously choose not to return to that place mentally
Practice active forgiveness
Actively work to forgive yourself rather than just hoping the guilt will fade
Focus forward
Channel your energy toward your current goal rather than past regrets
Build support
Share your feelings with trusted people who can help you process and move forward
Forgiveness of past fertility-related decisions is critical to clearing blocks between you and your baby
Seema tortured herself for years believing her 2016 abortion was causing karma to prevent pregnancy, but once she forgave herself and stopped returning to that place mentally, she conceived through IVF at 39 despite endometriosis and cancer scares.
Making a decision about who you're going to be on this journey activates unstoppable mama bear energy
Seema went from scared and unsure to fierce determination, declaring 'there was no option of me leaving without my baby' and promising herself she'd email Rosanne before her 40th birthday with pregnancy news - which she did with 2 weeks to spare.
People who are successful on this journey take action, not just feel sorry for themselves
Seema allowed herself one day to cry after her cancer scare, then said 'enough' and got back to action. She went from retrieval to transfer to pregnancy within months while dealing with potential cancer diagnosis.
Guilt and shame keep women trapped on this fertility journey through false karma beliefs
Seema believed for years that her abortion was karma preventing pregnancy, saying 'this is my fault' and crying constantly until she learned to forgive herself and move forward to conceive at 39.
Your fertility journey isn't just about you - it's about the journey you and your partner are doing together
Seema realized she was blaming Mike and making him feel on the outside, so she encouraged him to build his own support system and brought him into the process, strengthening their relationship and creating shared success.
Building your bump squad of supportive people is critical for fertility success
Seema surrounded herself with people who would celebrate every little success and hold her hand during low moments, including connecting with Mike's friend's wife who had been through IVF, creating her essential support network.
Faith in yourself becomes the foundation that carries you through fertility challenges
Seema developed faith by writing letters to herself celebrating each success, like having 'two fantastic eggs in the freezer,' which built her belief that good things were happening around her and lit an unstoppable inner fire.
Visualization and keeping your mama dream at the front of your mind is essential for success
Seema advises women to 'have that image of you being a mum right there at the very front of your mind and visualize it and keep dreaming about it because it is right there and it is achievable' - advice that worked for her own success at 39.
Forgiveness of past fertility-related decisions is critical to clearing blocks between you and your baby
▶ 2:56Making a decision about who you're going to be on this journey activates unstoppable mama bear energy
▶ 3:27People who are successful on this journey take action, not just feel sorry for themselves
▶ 20:56Guilt and shame keep women trapped on this fertility journey through false karma beliefs
▶ 2:35Your fertility journey isn't just about you - it's about the journey you and your partner are doing together
▶ 24:45Building your bump squad of supportive people is critical for fertility success
▶ 24:23Faith in yourself becomes the foundation that carries you through fertility challenges
▶ 38:05Visualization and keeping your mama dream at the front of your mind is essential for success
▶ 41:46“Past abortion decisions create fertility karma that prevents future pregnancy”
CONSIDER: Past decisions were made with the information you had then and don't determine your fertility future
“Having bad days and feeling low prevents fertility success”
CONSIDER: It's okay to have bad days as long as you don't let them overtake your primary goal
“Fertility struggles are primarily the woman's burden to bear alone”
CONSIDER: Fertility is a journey you and your partner do together, and both need support
“forgiveness is a critical aspect to clearing the blocks between you and your baby”
“People who are successful on this journey take fucking action”
“there was no option of me leaving without my baby”
“this is karma coming back to bite me”
“if that crazy pink and blue haired yank can do it, you know, so can I”
“It's okay to have bad days, but don't let that overtake your primary goal”
“find your bump squad. Find that group of people that will be there for you no matter what happens”
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Conditions
Frameworks & Methods
Common Beliefs
The desire in your heart to be a mom is there because it was meant for you - when there's a will, you will find a way
Kristen overcame 4 consecutive miscarriages in 9 months, low ovarian reserve, and a cancer scare to conceive naturally at 37 and carry her daughter to term after doing mindset work.
Medical tests will never find that mindset is the root cause - there's no test that could have diagnosed that
Kristen had every fertility test run and all came back perfectly healthy, yet she continued miscarrying until she addressed her mindset through the Fearlessly Fertile Method.
Women with less than 1% odds routinely beat those statistics through mindset work and trusting their maternal intuition over medical predictions
Pauline was told she had less than 1% chance of natural conception due to endometriosis and AMH of 0.16, but conceived naturally within one year of mindset work. Rosanne notes her clients routinely beat 1% odds as evidenced throughout her podcast library.
When IVF fails with poor response, pivoting to natural conception through mindset work can be more powerful than additional treatment cycles
Pauline's IVF cycle yielded only 2 eggs, with neither making it to blastocyst. Instead of doing another round as recommended, she chose mindset work and conceived naturally at age 34-35 within a year.
