Bump Squad

Being open about your fertility struggles and building community support accelerates healing and success

Pauline shifted from keeping her fertility issues private to openly sharing with friends and family, which increased her confidence and support system during her journey to natural conception.

Building your bump squad of supportive people is critical for fertility success

Seema surrounded herself with people who would celebrate every little success and hold her hand during low moments, including connecting with Mike's friend's wife who had been through IVF, creating her essential support network.

You need people on your team who believe in you without bullshitting you

Maren specifically chose healthcare providers who were honest about her age and low ovarian reserve but still supportive of her goals. Her doctor would say 'you're not getting younger' but also 'it doesn't mean anything, you just keep going.'

Tapping into feminine softness actually makes you stronger, not weaker

Danielle, an executive who had rebelled against femininity her whole career, discovered that 'tapping into that softness made me a stronger person' and was key to her conception success.

Women are no longer tolerating isolation on the fertility journey and understand that asking for help is not a signal of weakness

Previous podcast episodes have covered the power of community and biological impact of support, showing that women who build support systems rather than struggling alone achieve better outcomes.

Being open to different solutions and experts gives you a strategic advantage - but mindset is the foundation that allows you to see these options

Jennifer's mindset work opened her up to working with fertility yoga instructor Jennifer Edmonds, medium Diane Crew, and even consulting an embryologist in Australia. She discovered she had endometritis only because she stayed open to her doctor's suggestion for additional testing.

Protecting your mindset requires the right people in your corner - statistics and naysayers can derail faith

Elise credits learning about Bump Squad criteria as crucial to maintaining hope, surrounding herself with women focused on vision rather than struggle, which helped her conceive at 45 despite multiple medical professionals dismissing her due to age.

The dreams that matter most are worthy of respect - get fucking help instead of trying to do everything alone

Rosanne is on a mission to help 100,000 women have babies through her methodology. Nobody who creates real success does it completely alone.

Community support provides grounding and strength during fertility challenges

Heather credits her Saturday morning support group and community of women for giving her clarity and grounding throughout her fertility journey, even though they never met face-to-face.

You must be equals and in partnership with anyone helping you on your fertility journey - no one is better than you regardless of their credentials

Rosanne states 'I don't care if that person has seventy five letters coming after their name. They are not better than you. They might know a few things that you don't, but they don't know you.'

The exercise is to list five things you're bitter about, then for each one ask: How can I be better as a result of this? How did this work out for me?

For example, if a fertility doctor relationship didn't work out, you can get better by developing more discernment for interviewing clinics and getting clearer about what you want in a partnership for your bump squad.

If you allow one poor experience to persuade you that all doctors are in it for the money and nobody cares about you, how are you ever gonna get the support you actually want?

With that attitude, everyone comes in at a deficit - even if they're truly on your team, you're gonna make them work ten times harder, and you're making your problem their problem, which is emotionally immature.

Bitterness is absolutely one hundred percent unquestionably shaping your decisions through the belief that everybody is out to get you

This follows the pattern of thoughts, beliefs, actions, results - if you're running around with beliefs in bitterness, you will not bring otherwise reasonable and trustworthy people onto your bump squad because you're letting the past totally shape your view of your future.

Medical opinions can vary dramatically - you have the power to seek providers who believe in you

Yasemin was told by one clinic to use donor eggs after two cycles, while another doctor said 'I don't see why not' when reviewing the same case. She ultimately found success with providers who believed in her potential.

Build a bump squad that asks 'what's the plan?' instead of offering pity when cycles don't work - surround yourself with solution-focused support

Tania's Mary Kay mentor Jen and bump squad responded to failed cycles by asking about next steps rather than expressing sympathy, keeping her focused on solutions and forward momentum.

Having strong support from partner and family amplifies success

Fatma's husband never questioned the 12 trips to Turkey, and her entire village supported her journey, helping her persist through zero AMH and multiple failures.

Learning from other program members' experiences can provide the exact guidance needed for your own breakthrough

Samana connected with Mariette, another program graduate who had a similar first transfer failure, and Mariette's advice to 'just be you' became the key insight for Samana's successful second cycle.

Community support from other high-achieving women is transformative on the fertility journey

Kathy described how working with other smart women in the program helped her grow instead of compare, taking energy and wisdom from others facing similar struggles.

You must do the exact opposite of what your lack and scarcity story tells you to do—this is where action meets belief

If your story is 'I'm too old,' recruit 5 new bump squad members who believe in your dream. If it's 'too expensive,' buy the thing because you're worth it and figure out how to pay for it, like restaurants that buy food expecting to serve it.

Building a bump squad that supports your values allows you to make unconventional choices with confidence

Sarah's surgeon supported her natural healing approach saying 'if what you're doing already is working, stick with it. Avoid surgery at all costs' which gave her confidence to continue her naturopathic protocol.

Building your support team is an investment in yourself, not a luxury - surround yourself with people who believe in your vision.

Anne Marie invested in a mindset coach, acupuncturist, personal trainer, nutritionist, and support group of women going through fertility challenges - creating her 'bump squad' that supported her success.

Having a comprehensive 'bump squad' of support is crucial for fertility success - but mindset is often the missing piece

Ali had assembled a complete team including doctors, nutritionist, and acupuncturist but realized mindset was the critical missing component that led to her breakthrough.

Building the right support team is crucial—some providers will champion you while others will limit you

Tracy's fertility specialist focused on limitations and statistics, while her OB said 'just chill, you'll get pregnant again' and guaranteed success. The OB's support led to natural conception.

You must surround yourself with people who lift you up on this journey because so much of the world tries to bring you down by tamping down your expectations

The retreat attendees purposely chose a group of high vibrational women rather than a sewing circle of people who just want to feel bad for themselves, understanding that community matters for success.

Taking inventory of your fertility team and upgrading to people who actually believe in you and have original ideas is more valuable than staying with those who just regurgitate statistics

Rosanne advises women to use strategic pauses to evaluate whether their current team truly supports their success or just repeats doom-and-gloom statistics, based on her experience helping women across six continents beat the odds.

When you treat your fertility journey as part of your life's purpose, you make decisions with more discernment and only select people who truly believe in you

Rosanne teaches that women who approach fertility as life purpose stop settling for 'bargains' and build better support teams, leading to success across 6 continents of clients.

When you're not telling people the truth about what you want, you don't give them a legitimate chance to help you and you're actually disrespecting them

Rosanne explains 'you're also assuming that if you come out as who you actually are with your actual truth that you'll be rejected. You're not actually letting people step up to the plate.'