Rosanne challenges women to break free from lack and scarcity mindset by buying themselves something truly special for the holidays. She explains how pleasure and self-investment are strategic for fertility success, not selfish indulgences.
Rosanne challenges the common pattern of measuring every purchase against treatment costs and explains why investing in yourself is strategic, not selfish. When you feel loved and taken care of, your energy increases dramatically, which directly impacts your fertility results through the connection between thoughts, beliefs, actions, and results.
The pleasure anorexia that many women engage in on their fertility journey dims their light and restricts resilience. Rosanne emphasizes that people who are truly thriving take care of themselves and are not starved of joy, while the saboteur voice that says you can't spend on yourself is the same voice that will talk you out of fertility success.
Rosanne presents a three-step challenge: feel into something that would blow your mind and you'll remember forever, go get it without hesitation, and use it while noticing how different you feel. This isn't about the specific item but about breaking past stories of lack and scarcity to create evidence for yourself and your future child.
“If you don't take care of yourself on this journey by wholeheartedly investing in you and your dream, you virtually guarantee your failure.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 3:27
Yes, investing in your joy and pleasure during fertility treatments is strategic, not selfish. When you feel loved and taken care of, your energy and optimism increase, which impacts your fertility results.
“When you feel loved, supported, seen, and taken care of, your energy goes through the fucking roof.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 2:15
Pleasure matters for fertility because it raises your vibration, increases resilience, and changes your energy. When you feel amazing, you see opportunities, take leaps, and make different choices that improve your results.
“The pleasure anorexia we engage in on this journey has got to fucking stop. It dims your light and restricts your resilience.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 4:49
Pleasure anorexia is when women on fertility journeys deprive themselves of joy and measure every purchase against treatment costs. This dims your light, restricts resilience, and sabotages success.
“The part of you that might be saying, does she think money grows on trees I can't possibly spend on myself? Is the exact part of you that will talk you out of doing what you know you need to do to be successful on this journey.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 7:53
Recognize that the voice saying 'I can't spend on myself' is the same saboteur that will talk you out of everything you need for success. Challenge this by taking action and refusing guilt, which isn't from a divine source.
“Feel about something that would truly blow your mind and that you will remember forever. Get it for you. Get it for the woman you choose to be.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 9:04
Buy something you will remember forever that truly blows your mind - something that represents breaking past your stories and choosing to stop living your fertility journey in lack and scarcity.
A three-step process to break free from lack and scarcity patterns by investing in yourself strategically
Feel into what you want
Don't think about something you want - feel about something that would truly blow your mind and that you will remember forever. Get it for you, for the woman you choose to be, to show your baby when they're born.
Go get it without hesitation
Once you know what you want to buy, execute immediately. Do not hesitate, stall, make excuses, or freak out. Get it before the end of the year, pay for expedited shipping, refuse guilt and shame.
Use it and share the message
Don't leave it in plastic or the box - use it, wear it, practice it. Notice how different you feel and your energy. Text this episode to someone who needs it and share on social media.
Women on fertility journeys often measure every purchase against treatment costs, creating harmful lack and scarcity patterns that sabotage their success
After coaching women to fertility success for coming up on 7 years with incredible results, Rosanne has observed this destructive pattern where women compare everything to treatment investments and starve themselves of joy.
When you feel loved, supported, seen, and taken care of, your energy goes through the fucking roof and you see opportunities, take leaps, and enhance your optimism
This strategic approach to mindset impacts fertility results because thoughts, beliefs, actions, and results are interconnected - you cannot outrun this truth.
If you don't take care of yourself on this journey by wholeheartedly investing in you and your dream, you virtually guarantee your failure
After coaching women to fertility success for coming up on 7 years with incredible results, Rosanne has identified this as a pattern that determines success or failure on the fertility journey.
People who are truly thriving take care of themselves and are not starved of joy - it's their joy, pleasure, and connection to their faith that keep them moving forward
This observation about thriving people contrasts with the pleasure anorexia that dims your light and restricts your resilience on the fertility journey.
The pleasure anorexia we engage in on this journey has got to fucking stop because it dims your light and restricts your resilience
Rosanne asks how your baby is supposed to find you when you're living this journey like a dried up prune of the woman you once were, emphasizing that pleasure makes you unstoppable.
The part of you that says 'I can't possibly spend on myself' is the exact part that will talk you out of doing what you need to do to be successful on this journey
This saboteur voice is the reason why women stop short of their dreams, and challenging it by taking action shows that bitch she's wrong.
When your heart sings, your choices are different because thoughts, beliefs, actions, and results are connected
This isn't woo woo fluff - the connection between thoughts, beliefs, actions, and results is truth you cannot outrun, and joy improves fertility results.
By loving yourself enough to break past your stories, you teach your child to do the same because you have the street cred that comes from actually doing the thing
This gift becomes something you can show your baby when they're born as evidence of choosing to stop living your fertility journey in lack and scarcity.
Every woman who has succeeded on this journey through the Fearlessly Fertile Method was united in making a decision to give to herself, and the payoff was extraordinary
All the women featured on the podcast throughout the year who had babies were united in this pattern of self-investment, demonstrating the connection between self-care and fertility success.
Women on fertility journeys often measure every purchase against treatment costs, creating harmful lack and scarcity patterns that sabotage their success
▶ 1:34When you feel loved, supported, seen, and taken care of, your energy goes through the fucking roof and you see opportunities, take leaps, and enhance your optimism
▶ 2:15If you don't take care of yourself on this journey by wholeheartedly investing in you and your dream, you virtually guarantee your failure
▶ 3:27People who are truly thriving take care of themselves and are not starved of joy - it's their joy, pleasure, and connection to their faith that keep them moving forward
▶ 4:07The pleasure anorexia we engage in on this journey has got to fucking stop because it dims your light and restricts your resilience
▶ 4:49The part of you that says 'I can't possibly spend on myself' is the exact part that will talk you out of doing what you need to do to be successful on this journey
▶ 7:53When your heart sings, your choices are different because thoughts, beliefs, actions, and results are connected
▶ 8:23By loving yourself enough to break past your stories, you teach your child to do the same because you have the street cred that comes from actually doing the thing
▶ 9:14Every woman who has succeeded on this journey through the Fearlessly Fertile Method was united in making a decision to give to herself, and the payoff was extraordinary
▶ 11:29“You can't spend money on yourself during fertility treatments because every dollar should go toward medical expenses”
CONSIDER: Investing in your joy and pleasure is strategic for fertility success because when you feel amazing, your choices, energy, and results are different
“Self-care and pleasure during fertility struggles is selfish and frivolous”
CONSIDER: Taking care of yourself and experiencing pleasure raises your vibration and makes you irresistible to your babies - it's strategically necessary
“If you don't take care of yourself on this journey by wholeheartedly investing in you and your dream, you virtually guarantee your failure.”
“How the hell is your baby supposed to find you when you are living this journey like a dried up prune of the woman you once were?”
“The pleasure anorexia we engage in on this journey has got to fucking stop. It dims your light and restricts your resilience.”
“When you feel loved, supported, seen, and taken care of, your energy goes through the fucking roof.”
“You are smart, vibrant, sexy, strong, lovable, and well equipped. Fucking add some pleasure to that, and you are unstoppable.”
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The desire in your heart to be a mom is there because it was fucking meant for you - this desire is your divine assignment
Rosanne conceived naturally at 43 after years of treatment failure by following this principle. Recent podcast guests Elise and Mikayla both held babies after choosing belief over their circumstances.
Belief always precedes the miracle - you must believe even in the darkest moments, not just when things feel good
All of the recent podcast success stories featured women who believed bigger than their current circumstances. A fertility expert interviewed confirmed that most fertility challenges are figureoutable.
Traditional fertility effort - overwork, perfectionism, timeline obsession, desperation - signals scarcity to your nervous system and sabotages conception
Austin coached a woman who wouldn't eat cake on her wedding anniversary because she thought it would prevent pregnancy - this exhaustion-based approach is decidedly masculine and unsustainable
Force and effort are not the same thing - force comes from fear and insecurity, while evolved effort comes from love and vision
Austin was on her fertility journey for seven years and learned that forcing everything was deranged - the more she forced, the more she thought she was putting in effort, but it was all fear-based
