Agata shares how she transformed from a devastated woman after two failed IVF cycles to trusting herself and conceiving through IUI. Her journey involved rebuilding her faith, finding her voice to advocate for less invasive treatment, and learning to trust her intuition over medical pressure.
Agata· IUI· Baby boyBefore
Type A control freak perfectionist, devastated after two failed IVFs, relationship suffering, lost herself in the process
Key Shift
Learned to trust herself over doctors, chose IUI over continued IVF, restored faith connection, stopped food perfectionism
After
Confident in her choices, able to advocate for herself, peaceful about her path, willing to stand up to naysayers
Agata shares her journey from being a type-A perfectionist devastated by two failed IVF cycles to learning to trust herself. After eight weeks in the Fearlessly Fertile Method program plus one-on-one coaching, she gained the confidence to choose a different path despite medical and spousal pressure.
Through mindset work and restored faith, Agata discovered IUI as an option no doctor had mentioned. She had to advocate firmly with her husband and medical team for this less invasive approach, demonstrating how finding your voice is essential for fertility success.
As a professional dietitian, Agata was restricting her diet perfectly but not conceiving. When she allowed herself to indulge and feel joy again during a Big Bear trip, she conceived that cycle. Her story illustrates how perfectionism can become self-sabotage and 'vitamin J' (joy) is essential.
After almost four years of trying and pressure from others to give up, Agata's unwavering belief that she was meant to be a mom led to success. Through IUI and the support of providers who believed in her, she's now 26 weeks pregnant with her baby boy, proving that the timeline doesn't matter when you trust your heart.
“I never heard of IUI. Like, nobody told me about it. Like, none of the other doctors told me about it. And the moment I started doing more research on it and reading about it, I was just like I just felt like, okay. This is the path that I need to, you know, give it a try.”
— Agata▶ 15:26
Yes, IUI can work after IVF failure. Agata conceived through IUI on her fourth attempt after two failed IVF cycles, showing that less invasive treatments can succeed when high-tech approaches don't work.
“I knew in my heart I can do this. I was just like, that's not the path for me. I appreciated their input, but I was just like you know? And it just at one point, even some people are just saying, you know, you know, why don't you just, you know, give up and stuff? And I was just like, nope.”
— Agata▶ 18:30
There's no set timeline for giving up on fertility treatments. Agata tried for almost 4 years and is now 26 weeks pregnant, proving that persistence and trusting your heart about the right path can lead to success even when others suggest stopping.
“I think the main one was since I'm a dietitian was diet. Like, I just felt like, oh, if I don't eat perfect all the time, it's it's not gonna happen. And so it was just like, the moment I went to Big Bear, I was just, like, indulging in stuff that I haven't indulged in, like, forever. And I just started feeling like myself.”
— Agata▶ 25:40
Perfect diet isn't required for pregnancy. Agata, a professional dietitian, was restricting her diet perfectly but not conceiving. When she allowed herself to enjoy foods she craved, she felt like herself again and conceived that cycle.
“Your mind is the one thing you have control over on this journey. The timeline, the how, all of that reveals itself along the way. But the one unifying theme here is that you gotta be the woman that keeps going.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 3:06
Advocating for yourself means researching options, trusting your intuition about treatments, and being direct about what you want. Agata discovered IUI on her own, told her doctor she wouldn't do IVF, and found a provider who supported her choice.
“It was pretty much unexplained infertility.”
— Agata▶ 8:13
Unexplained infertility means doctors can't find a specific cause for conception difficulties. Agata was diagnosed with unexplained infertility and is now 26 weeks pregnant after switching from IVF to IUI and working on her mindset.
“I just did it because I did it, you know, because my family, you know, believed in it. And it's just like, after a while, I just lost that relationship with God. I just kinda felt like, okay. I didn't need him. I'm fine. I can do everything on my own. You know? And then it's just like, and once this happened in my journey, it was just like, you know, it was definitely an eye opening experience knowing that, you know, I can't do everything on my own.”
— Agata▶ 12:01
Faith provides strength to keep going when facing pressure to give up and helps you trust divine timing. Agata restored her relationship with God during her journey, which brought supportive people into her life and gave her peace about the process.
Steps to develop self-trust and medical advocacy skills on your fertility journey
Research all options
Don't accept the first treatment suggested—research alternatives like Agata discovering IUI after being pushed toward IVF
Listen to your gut
Pay attention to how treatments feel in your body and heart, not just what doctors recommend
Communicate your preferences
Be direct with providers about what you want and don't want—find doctors who support your choices
Trust your timeline
Don't let external pressure to give up override your inner knowing about your journey
Build a supportive team
Surround yourself with practitioners who believe in you and your chosen path
You are the one fixing you, healing you—your medical team supports you, but ultimately you must believe in yourself
Agata went from trusting doctors completely through two failed IVF cycles to trusting herself and conceiving through IUI on the fourth attempt, now 26 weeks pregnant.
When treatment isn't working, stepping back to reassess your approach can reveal better options that align with your heart
Agata had never heard of IUI despite two failed IVF cycles. When she trusted her instinct for less invasive treatment and tried IUI, she conceived on the fourth attempt.
Perfectionism around diet and lifestyle can become a saboteur that prevents conception
Agata, a dietitian, realized her food perfectionism was sabotaging her. When she went to Big Bear and indulged in foods she'd restricted, she felt like herself again—and that cycle she conceived.
Faith and spiritual connection become critical resources when facing fertility challenges and pressure to give up
Agata restored her relationship with God during her journey, which helped her trust the process and bring supportive people like her acupuncturist into her life who recommended the doctor who helped her conceive.
Standing firm in your knowing requires mama bear energy even before your baby arrives
Agata had to defend her choice against IVF to her husband and ignore people telling her to give up or adopt after almost 4 years trying, ultimately conceiving through IUI.
Insurance coverage can be a divine sign pointing you toward the right treatment path
When Agata discovered IVF wasn't covered by insurance but IUI was, she interpreted this as God's sign that IUI was her path—and she conceived on the fourth IUI attempt.
Finding medical providers who believe in you and your chosen path is essential for success
Agata's new doctor supported her IUI choice, never pressured her back to IVF, and encouraged her to keep trying even after a chemical pregnancy, leading to her successful fourth IUI.
The timeline doesn't matter—only that you keep going until you reach your dream
Agata tried for almost 4 years, through two failed IVFs and four IUI attempts including a chemical pregnancy, but never doubted she would become a mom—she's now 26 weeks pregnant.
You are the one fixing you, healing you—your medical team supports you, but ultimately you must believe in yourself
▶ 9:36When treatment isn't working, stepping back to reassess your approach can reveal better options that align with your heart
▶ 14:14Perfectionism around diet and lifestyle can become a saboteur that prevents conception
▶ 25:40Faith and spiritual connection become critical resources when facing fertility challenges and pressure to give up
▶ 12:01Standing firm in your knowing requires mama bear energy even before your baby arrives
▶ 23:27Insurance coverage can be a divine sign pointing you toward the right treatment path
▶ 20:42Finding medical providers who believe in you and your chosen path is essential for success
▶ 23:03The timeline doesn't matter—only that you keep going until you reach your dream
▶ 22:56“If IVF doesn't work, you have no other options except donor eggs, surrogacy, or adoption”
CONSIDER: IVF failure doesn't mean game over—there are other paths like IUI that might be better aligned with your body and heart
“Perfect diet and lifestyle are required for conception”
CONSIDER: Joy and feeling like yourself matter more than dietary perfection—vitamin J (joy) is essential
“After 3-4 years of trying, it's time to consider giving up or alternative paths”
CONSIDER: The desire in your heart is there for a reason—trust it and keep going no matter what others say
“You are fixing you, you are curing you, you have to believe in you.”
“I knew in my heart I can do this. That's not the path for me. And I wasn't gonna give up. No matter how much emotional, how much stress I was going under, I'm like, I knew I wasn't meant to be a mom, and I wasn't gonna give up.”
“You basically had to call up that mama bear energy even before your baby got here. Like, you were acting like mama bear.”
“Your mind is the one thing you have control over on this journey.”
“I never heard of IUI. Like, nobody told me about it. Like, none of the other doctors told me about it.”
“The moment I went to Big Bear, I was just, like, indulging in stuff that I haven't indulged in, like, forever. And I just started feeling like myself.”
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Frameworks & Methods
Statistics are not your destiny - you can choose to be an outlier rather than a statistic
Erika overcame stage 4 endometriosis, multiple failed IVF cycles, and a 0% chance of natural conception to conceive naturally at 31 after 9 years of trying.
Fertility challenges transcend age - you can have the diagnosis of someone in their fifties while in your twenties
Erika was told at 29 that her AMH and egg counts were like those of a 50-year-old, yet she still conceived naturally at 31.
Past treatment failures don't predict future success - your history is not your destiny
Dr. Kathy had AMH of 0.23, failed IUIs, miscarriage, and failed IVF that produced only one egg, yet conceived naturally at 37 and is now 34 weeks pregnant with her son.
High-achieving women are especially susceptible to the seduction of statistics and can get trapped in their analytical minds
Dr. Kathy, both a physician and lawyer, went down the 'rabbit hole' of AMH research and statistics, initially trusting science more than her body despite doctors having more faith in her than she had in herself.
