Rosanne explores how conceiving is fundamentally about receiving - both physically and metaphorically. She examines how women set arbitrary limits on what they allow themselves to receive, creating blocks between them and their babies.
Rosanne distinguishes between the obvious physical receiving in conception and the more challenging metaphorical receiving. While women can handle the physical demands of fertility treatment, they struggle with allowing themselves to receive the full range of support and resources that could help them succeed.
High-achieving women create unconscious boundaries around what they'll accept for help - insurance coverage, geographical distance, cost parameters, and social acceptability. These limits often aren't based in reality but serve to keep women in their comfort zones, potentially blocking their path to success.
Accomplished, control-oriented women get so invested in doing things themselves and following prescribed paths that they resist help until crisis hits. Rosanne shares how this pattern played out in her own journey and with the successful women she coaches.
Once women address their receiving blocks and open to support, results can come quickly. Rosanne illustrates this with her own story of moving from treatment failure to natural conception at 43, and her success in publishing a bestselling book using the same principles.
“Conceiving is about receiving. Receiving physically and metaphorically.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 2:14
Conceiving is about receiving both physically and metaphorically. While the physical aspect is obvious, the metaphorical receiving - allowing yourself to have the support, resources, and help you need - is what trips up most women and creates blocks between them and their babies.
“We get so used to doing things on our own, our way, and get so invested in what other people tell us is the right way to do things, and it's only when things get crazy that we stop and ask ourselves, is there a better way, and do I need help?”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 5:59
High-achieving, Type A women get so used to doing things on their own and their way that they resist receiving help until things get desperate. They set arbitrary limits on what they'll accept and block the support that could help them get results faster and smarter.
“We say to ourselves, if it's covered by insurance, sure, we'll take it. If we don't have to drive, quote unquote, too far, we'll go for it. If we stay within a certain price range, which as a side note, isn't usually based in reality, no problem.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 4:28
Women set arbitrary limits like only accepting treatments covered by insurance, staying within certain price ranges, not driving too far, avoiding anything too weird, limiting how many times they'll try, or insisting they can DIY their way to success.
“Stories about time, money, chances, age, and the way things are supposed to happen can absolutely block us from receiving the things that can help us conceive on this journey, whatever they may be.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 6:10
Stories about time, money, chances, age, and how things are supposed to happen create blocks between women and the resources that can help them conceive. These mental limits prevent women from receiving what they need to succeed.
“Receiving in our context here is about having the ingredients we need to accomplish our goals. Receiving is about allowing ourselves to have whatever resources we desire to be successful.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 4:06
Being open to receiving means allowing yourself to have whatever resources you desire to be successful - treatments, support, supplements, money, time, help, or anything else that could help you get pregnant, without arbitrary limits.
A framework for identifying blocks in your ability to receive support for your fertility journey
Assess your receiving patterns
Take a moment and evaluate how willing you are to receive support, resources, and help on your fertility journey
Identify potential blocks
Ask yourself what you're not seeing, doing, or allowing that could literally be blocking your success
Question your limits
Examine the arbitrary limits you've set on what you're willing to receive - insurance coverage, distance, cost, social acceptability
Consider if receiving issues are sabotaging you
Honestly assess whether your inability to receive might be getting in your way on this journey
Conceiving is fundamentally about receiving both physically and metaphorically - the metaphorical aspect is what creates major blocks between women and their babies
Rosanne conceived naturally at 43 after years of treatment failure once she opened herself to receiving coaching and support, demonstrating how addressing receiving blocks led to immediate incremental results.
Most women set arbitrary limits on what they allow themselves to receive - only if it's covered by insurance, not too far, within a certain price range, not too weird, or they can DIY it
Rosanne identified these exact patterns in her own journey and in the incredibly accomplished women she coaches who literally paint themselves into corners, blocking support that could help them get results faster and smarter.
Type A, control freak, high-achieving women are particularly susceptible to blocking receiving because they're so used to doing things on their own and their way
As a recovering type A control freak herself, Rosanne was so caught up in doing everything herself that it wasn't until things went far off the rails that she realized getting help made sense, leading to her natural conception at 43.
Stories about time, money, chances, age, and how things are supposed to happen can absolutely block women from receiving the things that can help them conceive
Rosanne identified these exact story patterns as creating a minefield of blocks in her own journey, and once she began addressing them, she saw incremental results in a blink of an eye.
Opening yourself to receiving coaching and education can lead to faster and more effective results than trying to figure it out alone
Rosanne's results spoke for themselves - years of treatment failure until she received coaching support, then natural conception at 43. She also applied this principle to birth her bestselling book by hiring an amazing team and going number one internationally.
The same principles that help women receive what they need to conceive also apply to other major goals and dreams
Rosanne broke down the blocks between herself and her son using the same approach she later used for her book - hiring support and allowing herself to receive help, resulting in both her natural conception at 43 and an internationally bestselling book.
Conceiving is fundamentally about receiving both physically and metaphorically - the metaphorical aspect is what creates major blocks between women and their babies
▶ 2:14Most women set arbitrary limits on what they allow themselves to receive - only if it's covered by insurance, not too far, within a certain price range, not too weird, or they can DIY it
▶ 4:28Type A, control freak, high-achieving women are particularly susceptible to blocking receiving because they're so used to doing things on their own and their way
▶ 5:59Stories about time, money, chances, age, and how things are supposed to happen can absolutely block women from receiving the things that can help them conceive
▶ 6:10Opening yourself to receiving coaching and education can lead to faster and more effective results than trying to figure it out alone
▶ 8:02The same principles that help women receive what they need to conceive also apply to other major goals and dreams
▶ 9:13“I should be able to figure out fertility on my own because I'm smart and accomplished”
CONSIDER: Getting support and allowing yourself to receive help leads to faster, smarter results than going it alone
“There are limits to what I can reasonably receive for fertility treatment based on insurance, distance, cost, or social acceptability”
CONSIDER: Arbitrary limits on what you allow yourself to receive create blocks between you and your baby
“Conceiving is about receiving. Receiving physically and metaphorically.”
“What if you just leaned back and said to yourself, I am open to receiving. What will help me get my baby? Whatever the fuck it is.”
“We have all kinds of arbitrary limits that we set about what we are allowed to receive. Sometimes without even knowing it or ever really questioning the basis for those limits.”
“I see this all the time, incredibly accomplished women literally painting themselves into a corner and blocking the support that can help them get a result faster and smarter than they ever could on their own.”
“Are you going to open your heart fully to receive whatever you desire to hold that precious baby that you know in your soul is meant for you?”
EP248 More Babies = More AWESOME: Natalia’s Story
How a 44-year-old mom of two overcame PCOS, hypothyroidism, and years of struggle to conceive her miracle baby boy naturally—despite being told she was 'too old' and 'asking for too much.'
EP300: Fertility Success Secret #11: Understanding the Inconvenient Truth About Jealousy
What if your jealousy of other women's pregnancy announcements is actually showing you exactly what you're denying yourself?
EP 366: The New Rules of Fertility #2: Evolving Away From Effort
What if the exhausting 'effort' you're putting into your fertility journey is actually pushing your baby away?
You can be completely grateful for what you have and desire more—those two things are not mutually exclusive
Natalia at 44 already had two daughters but knew her family wasn't complete, overcame shame about wanting more and conceived naturally despite PCOS and hypothyroidism
Control comes from fear—when you're afraid of not getting pregnant, the way to tackle that becomes extreme controlling over everything you eat and do
Natalia spent 2 years controlling every aspect of her life—diet, acupuncture, TCM, avoiding alcohol—which made life miserable and disconnected her from her family until she learned to surrender
Jealousy manifests in sneaky ways like explaining away others' success with thoughts like 'she was just lucky' or 'she must be better than me'
Rosanne identifies specific jealousy patterns that emerged as listeners heard success stories from Elise, Fran, Linda, and Lizzie over the past five weeks of episodes.
At its core, jealousy is an outward focus where you're looking at what other people have and saying 'why not me?' - making yourself separate from their success
Every successful woman featured over the past five weeks found a way to move past jealousy and focus inward on their vision rather than being carried off course by comparison.
