Asia shares her 5-year fertility journey spanning blocked tubes, adenomyosis, multiple IVF failures, and miscarriage. Through mindset work with Rosanne, she transformed from despair to empowered surrender, taking a break for self-care at 39 and embracing surrogacy with excitement about turning 40.
Asia· other· Journey continuing with surrogacy optionBefore
Bitter, skeptical, jealous, using food to cope, weight gain, self-abandonment, angry at God
Key Shift
Changed from asking 'why me?' to 'why not me?' and learned empowered surrender
After
Excited about turning 40, empowered to take breaks for self-care, open to surrogacy, certain about becoming a mother
Asia's journey through blocked fallopian tubes, adenomyosis, multiple IVF failures, and miscarriage led her to explore the mind-body connection. After trying every medical intervention, she discovered that shifting her thoughts from 'why me?' to 'why not me?' opened unexpected possibilities.
Learning to let go without giving up became Asia's breakthrough. She discovered that surrender isn't weakness but creates space for opportunities like her sister spontaneously offering surrogacy. This shift from control to trust transformed her entire experience.
At 39, Asia made the empowered decision to take a fertility break, going on birth control to manage painful cycles and focus on her health. This wasn't giving up but taking control of what she could control - herself.
Defying age-related fertility fears, Asia expresses genuine excitement about turning 40, feeling she's 'in line for a miracle.' Her journey demonstrates that age is often an arbitrary deadline that doesn't have to define possibilities.
“Sometimes blessings are right under our nose and it's only when we get out of our own way that we can see them”
— Asia▶ 28:29
Asia dealt with blocked fallopian tubes through IVF and tube unblocking surgery. When those didn't work, she shifted to empowered surrender and her sister offered to be a surrogate, showing how staying open creates unexpected opportunities.
“I was diagnosed with a condition called adenomyosis, which is similar to endometriosis. It's kind of the sister of endometriosis, but it's it's one of those things that is not easily detectable”
— Asia▶ 5:16
Adenomyosis is similar to endometriosis but occurs inside the uterine wall. Asia was diagnosed after experiencing painful cycles since her teens. It can make implantation difficult, but Asia learned that addressing the mindset component alongside medical treatment opens up different pathways to motherhood.
“I can choose another thought. I don't have to stay here. My reality could be whatever I create it to be, but it's my choice”
— Asia▶ 18:22
Taking a break can be empowering when it's about self-care rather than giving up. Asia took a break at 39 to focus on her physical and mental health, understanding that she needed to take control of what she could control rather than staying in cycles of disappointment.
“It's okay to believe. It's not gonna hurt you to believe. And I think that I was in that place of goodwill. I mean, being cautiously optimistic. Like, okay. Sure. I mean, it's gonna happen, whatever. But I've learned that it's okay. It's okay to believe”
— Asia▶ 15:16
Asia shifted from 'why me?' to 'why not me?' and learned that it's okay to believe without being hurt by hope. She focused on staying present rather than worrying about past failures or future timelines, and gave herself permission to choose different thoughts.
“I didn't understand that in order for me to receive it, I had to surrender it”
— Asia▶ 12:09
Empowered surrender means letting go of the need to control outcomes while staying committed to your desire. Asia learned this isn't giving up - it's creating space for unexpected opportunities to appear, like when her sister offered to be a surrogate.
“I don't know what it is about forty, but I just feel like I'm in line for a miracle and something amazing is about to happen in my life”
— Asia▶ 20:13
Age 40 is not a fertility death sentence. Asia feels excited about turning 40, sensing she's 'in line for a miracle.' The CDC shows increasing numbers of women having babies later, yet society perpetuates fear around this arbitrary deadline.
Asia's process for moving from control and fear to empowered surrender
Shift the Question
Change from asking 'why me?' to 'why not me?' - if other women can succeed, why can't you?
Stay Present
When anxiety comes up, recognize you're thinking about past failures or future fears - return to the present moment
Choose Your Thoughts
Notice negative thoughts without beating yourself up, then consciously choose a different thought
Embrace Belief
Give yourself permission to believe and hope - it won't hurt you to feel the opposite of despair
Take Empowered Action
Make decisions from self-care rather than fear - sometimes this means taking breaks when needed
When you make up your mind to do something, opportunities appear - even when you don't know where the money will come from
Asia manifested funding for multiple IVF cycles despite financial uncertainty, and later her sister immediately offered to be a surrogate when Asia shifted into empowered surrender about needing help.
Negativity breeds more negativity - being in that dark place brings more darkness and makes you a bitter, skeptical, jealous person who can't enjoy simple things in life
Asia described how her negative spiral led to weight gain, using food to cope, and self-abandonment before she shifted to asking 'why not me?' instead of 'why me?'
The key shift is changing from 'why me?' to 'why not me?' - if this can happen for other women, why can't it happen for me?
Asia transformed her entire journey when she stopped asking why she was suffering and started believing she deserved success like other women she saw getting pregnant.
Letting go is not giving up - you have to surrender to receive what you want
Asia initially believed letting go meant accepting defeat, but learned that surrender created space for opportunities like her sister's surrogacy offer to appear.
Anxiety comes from thinking about the past or future - when you're present, there's nothing to be anxious about
Asia learned to manage fertility anxiety by staying present and choosing different thoughts without beating herself up, leading to her empowered decision to take a break at 39.
It's okay to believe - it won't hurt you to feel the opposite of what you've been feeling
Asia was a huge skeptic until working with Rosanne taught her that choosing to believe was safer than staying in negativity and despair.
Taking a fertility break for self-care is not giving up - it's taking back control of what you can control
Asia made the empowered decision at 39 to take a break, get on birth control to stop painful cycles, focus on her health and body image before becoming a mother.
This journey is preparation for the mother you're going to be - all of this prepares you to mother differently
Asia realized her 5-year journey through blocked tubes, adenomyosis, IVF failures and miscarriage was preparing her to be a better mother than she would have been without these experiences.
Sometimes blessings are right under our nose and we can only see them when we get out of our own way
Asia's sister immediately offered to be a surrogate when Asia reached empowered surrender about needing help, without Asia even asking.
The desire is there because it was meant for you - it wouldn't be there if there wasn't going to be a way to bring it to fruition
Asia maintains certainty about becoming a mother despite 5 years of treatment failures, blocked tubes, adenomyosis, and now considering surrogacy.
When you make up your mind to do something, opportunities appear - even when you don't know where the money will come from
▶ 6:09Negativity breeds more negativity - being in that dark place brings more darkness and makes you a bitter, skeptical, jealous person who can't enjoy simple things in life
▶ 10:27The key shift is changing from 'why me?' to 'why not me?' - if this can happen for other women, why can't it happen for me?
▶ 11:18Letting go is not giving up - you have to surrender to receive what you want
▶ 12:29Anxiety comes from thinking about the past or future - when you're present, there's nothing to be anxious about
▶ 13:51It's okay to believe - it won't hurt you to feel the opposite of what you've been feeling
▶ 15:26Taking a fertility break for self-care is not giving up - it's taking back control of what you can control
▶ 19:02This journey is preparation for the mother you're going to be - all of this prepares you to mother differently
▶ 24:50Sometimes blessings are right under our nose and we can only see them when we get out of our own way
▶ 28:29The desire is there because it was meant for you - it wouldn't be there if there wasn't going to be a way to bring it to fruition
▶ 31:46“Turning 40 is a fertility death sentence and arbitrary deadline”
CONSIDER: Turning 40 can be exciting - you're in line for a miracle and joining a special club of women who become mothers later
“Using a surrogate means you failed as a woman”
CONSIDER: All roads lead to the same outcome - it doesn't matter how the baby gets here, it's just a stop on the journey
“I don't know what it is about forty, but I just feel like I'm in line for a miracle and something amazing is about to happen in my life”
“The desire is there because it was meant for you. It wouldn't be there if there wasn't gonna be a way for you to bring that to fruition”
“I didn't understand that in order for me to receive it, I had to surrender it”
“It's okay to believe. It's not gonna hurt you to believe”
“Sometimes blessings are right under our nose and it's only when we get out of our own way that we can see them”
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